playing him at his own game?

[firefly88]

Background : when my ex broke up with me I was devastated, I loved him a lot - but through his lack of communication/ miscommunication between us, and from what I can see his desire to follow a single guys life at uni he decided I was no longer worth the effort. We were together unofficially about 1.5-2 years, officially 1 year. He said he didn't love me anymore but wanted to be friends.

 

after summer vacation ( we go to the same uni) he didn't keep this promise and basically avoids me like the plague, being cold and distant when I talked to him, but he seems to keep a careful watch on me all the time. I have a new boyfriend ( mostly out of respect for him) I am keeping my distance from my ex, rather than attempting to be friendly and talk him round like I used to, since then my ex seems to watch me even more ,he's aware of where I am in relation to him all the time , and I noted the other day he has my fb chat tab up on his page even though we haven't spoken on there for a very long time.

 

so I;m wondering if I keep my distance and basically treat him as he treats me will this aid in getting him to come back on his own? and be friendly again?

 

thanks

[Pure Beef]

You have a new boyfriend now, if this ex wants to act that way why would you want him back in your life, even as a friend?

[elcie]

Yes.....your preoccupation about your ex is not helping you focus on what you should be thinking about....your new boyfriend! He deserves your full attention!

[ForumGuy]

The only person benefiting from you "playing the game" with your ex.......is your ex. I hope you are sincere with your new boyfriend and not using him as a pawn in this game.