Success

[poloace]

Talked to her for an hour and a half on the phone yesterday. Told her about the changes I had made... Started to feel better then worse again when I woke up. Pretty much told her that 'space' and sorting out her life were fine. But, that if she wanted to do that alone, I wasnt going to wait and see.... That it was unfair. I think when she realized that I wasn't going to be around forever... Her tone of voice changed, and i had confidence and the power again.now we're talking about being together for the fourth where just a few days ago she told me she didn't want to see me for it etc... Girls are not difficult. Give them love and respect... And when they think theyre better off without you... Remain composed and tell them they can go figure that out but that you're a person too valuable to be put on the back burner. Its not a threat, it's reality... We weren't going to see each other til end of July and now shes almost begging me to see her for the 4th. I guess realizing that some other woman would be very happy w me freaked her out.

[LaceWing]

Sounds like she realised you weren't going to be "on-hold" for her and she stopped messing about. Good on you for being assertive. Personally I can't really respect a man who isn't assertive and acts like a hurt or desperate puppy.

 

On the other hand, assertiveness wrapped in love and respect is the best way to go.

[bebop]

Good to hear it's worked for you! let's hope it's a good week for us all haha!

[Eocsor]

Good luck, but don't count your chickens before they've hatched. Successful reconcilliations usually take a lot of hard work and effort to solve problems that existed before the relationship dissolved. And if you think you have women figured out, well good luck with that my friend Write a book on it and you'll make millions.

[poloace]

Yeah- the weak desperate puppy thing is not attractive. Once she saw that side dissipate and my confident self came back- it was like a switch. And, I wasn't mean about it- I just put her in her place and let her know that I'm too good for the back burner.

[bebop]

Not sure if this would work for me in my situation. ATM I'm in LC we spoke a bit Monday which seemed good from both sides. She's seeing someone else because i told her to move on as i wasnt ready for a relationship and says she still has feeling for me, it's been 9 days since I've mentioned feelings in any respect to her. Just let her know I was looking forward to a busy weekend and within moments she wanted to know what I was doing!! I want her to leave him cos it's not working out between them not because I asked her to that would make me worried in the future, if you get me!