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Men Seem to be the More selfish Ones? Whats up with that


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Just a general discussion I thought I'd Bring up... If you look around there seems to be this theme where it's (generally) the Men who Dont "give enough" in bed. Not Saying all, and not anyone here specificly, Just when you watch shows about relationships, or places around the net- Its often common to see that the Men want their Partners to Try different things or what not... But From what I've seen the Women seem to try harder to make thier Partners Happy then vice versa?

 

One interguing post i recently read on another site this Woman was saying that After giving oral When asked to "return the favor" her partners often refused or were very reluctant for various reasons? Generally speaking I see alot of guys Asking for things that are primarily for His benefit... But are reluctant to venture into things that are primarily for the Woman's enjoyment?

 

What you guys think this is about? Is it some kind of Macho mentality (Ie. Its huuuge and that should be good enough for ya!).. Something deeper rooted? Insecurity Perhaps? (ex. the toys doing a better job then he did?)

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It's a relic from a patriarchal society. Women still to an extent are made to feel bad for wanting sex because their role is simply to be a tool for their partners, whereas it's the expectation from guys that sex is only thing they want. It's even part of the vernacular when it is said that women "give it up" when deciding to start sleeping with a guy they date, not because they actually want sex for its own sake.

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Honestly, I think that because men are typically easier to please sexually (easier to bring to orgasm, at least) that women who are just "meh" about their partner's sexual satisfaction still are able to satisfy, while (because it is harder for women to orgasm) men who are "meh" about their partner's sexual satisfaction end up not satisfying at all.

 

In other words, both sexes are probably equal on the willingness to please scale, but it just shows more negatively when men are selfish.

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I can't say for your personal experiences, but I tend to spend the majority of the time making her happy. I would gladly explore her body giving her all the pleasures she asked for... Whilst I am still dressed head to toe.

 

I get a lot of pleasure and enjoyment from being able to do incredible things to a girl, but I don't need it to be reciprocated. Which is part of the whole porn industry that I really hate. 9/10 times the girls job is to get the male off but not get much in return. Why I don't care much for it actually.

 

Actual penetration does not need to happen at all for me to be very happy. (unless she specifically wants it instead)

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I can't say for your personal experiences, but I tend to spend the majority of the time making her happy. I would gladly explore her body giving her all the pleasures she asked for... Whilst I am still dressed head to toe.

 

I get a lot of pleasure and enjoyment from being able to do incredible things to a girl, but I don't need it to be reciprocated. Which is part of the whole porn industry that I really hate. 9/10 times the girls job is to get the male off but not get much in return. Why I don't care much for it actually.

 

Actual penetration does not need to happen at all for me to be very happy. (unless she specifically wants it instead)

 

^^^^ This x1000

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thats quite a sweeping statement, while some men are like that, most are not,

 

would women whom always expect the guy to intiate sex or just lie there like a dead fish be considered any less selfish

 

I totally agree. Selfish isn't a gender trait; it's a human trait.

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thats quite a sweeping statement, while some men are like that, most are not,

 

would women whom always expect the guy to intiate sex or just lie there like a dead fish be considered any less selfish

 

Add me to the agreement column. I myself have never been a selfish lover. I love giving my partner pleasure. As a matter of fact the more she has the better my own orgasm is.

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