Sweetkisses22 Posted June 21, 2011 Share Posted June 21, 2011 Ok well if you followed my last post you'd know I had a crush on one of the bank tellers. I left him a note with my number to call me with another girl who worked there because he wasn't working that day. Well he texts me on Monday saying he wasn't sure who he was but he was single and looking lol. I told him he's handled my many times. He said he remembers my name and thinks he knows who I am. So I sent him a picture and he's like no way! I remember now your beautiful! So anyway he likes me! Things worked out. The only issue im having now is that he seems used to me making the first moves. So he keep saying he thinks im so hot im great but he wont ask me out to lunch or anything. We text all day and night. And another thing I found out thatvkond of is a killer and turn off..he's 20! Im 23! He looked much older and he's 6'3. I feel like su h a cougar lol. Do yoking think this will be a problem? He is also here just for summer cause he goes to college in pa. Link to comment
Batya33 Posted June 22, 2011 Share Posted June 22, 2011 I would stop the texting because you're giving him the impression that you're available 24/7 to type to him - that decreases his motivation to ask you out. He gets to flirt with a woman he knows has a crush on him and doesn't have to put in the effort to ask you out if he wants to continue getting to know him. I would do one more initiating thing -ask him to lunch or to meet for coffee and see what he says. Link to comment
jumper11 Posted June 22, 2011 Share Posted June 22, 2011 Thats not a big age difference. I'm 23, my boyfriend is 21. My 21 year old boyfriend is more on track and mature in some ways over my 23 year old ex.. it's not a deal breaker. I agree with Batya. That's not being a cougar at all!!! It's only a 3 year difference, not 15. Link to comment
sadchick83 Posted June 22, 2011 Share Posted June 22, 2011 OK, I work in a bank and I am not so sure he didn't know who you were when you started texting. If you go in multiple times a week and deal with him mostly, he certainly can match a name to a face without you sending a photo. Also, many marriages have come from customers and bank employees meeting at the branch, however, it is usually a woman who works in the bank and the man who is the customer/doing the approaching. There is nothing wrong with this as far as you two dating...you can date the customers, especially if they hit on you! He might just be shy, and he is more than likely being teased by the other staff about this since you passed the note to his fellow worker. You are very pretty in your avatar, so he should be proud! I am certain everyone in the bank is asking him what is going on and asking for updates, so maybe he is just taking his time....but yes, disappear for a bit! Link to comment
agatha Posted June 22, 2011 Share Posted June 22, 2011 if it's a big branch, receiving more than 400 costumers a day, I can see he could not remember her at first, in spite of being teased like hell. when I worked at a bank's branch me and the girls would get notes all the time, and the hardest thing was when they landed at the wrong hands (there were 2 girls very similar to each other, pretty hard to tell which was which) X p but yeah, space out. or woman up and invite him out already X D (as long as the guy is 18+ and as long as both of you are ok with it, no problem at all. I love younger guys =) Link to comment
Sweetkisses22 Posted June 22, 2011 Author Share Posted June 22, 2011 Well we didn't talk at all last night. I think he's either being shy or we just don't have much in common. When we talk I feel like im always asking all the questions and starting the convos but we added each other on fb yesterday and he keeps saying how in so pretty. I don't get it lol. I might have to go in for a deposit today if my job gives me checks so its going to be very Akward if were not talking when I come in lol. Im a little worried. Shouldnt we be talking more? Also about the age thing. I think there's a difference in mentality between the ages of 20-24. At 20 I only wanted to party and hang out and didn't care much about settling down. Now im almost 24 and I want to settle down and am not much into partying and drinking. I do like going to bars sometimes but he's not even old enough to get in yet Haha. He's really sweet though. I think the not talking and the age is the only downside for me. I don't want to be so forward and constantly being the one to text him or ask him out lol. Link to comment
Sweetkisses22 Posted June 22, 2011 Author Share Posted June 22, 2011 Oh and I figured they were gonna tease him a bit lol. I was right he said they are lol. Link to comment
Batya33 Posted June 22, 2011 Share Posted June 22, 2011 How many times have you asked him out on a date with a specific time and place? Maybe he just enjoys flirting with you and is not interested in going on a date with you. Link to comment
Sweetkisses22 Posted June 22, 2011 Author Share Posted June 22, 2011 How many times have you asked him out on a date with a specific time and place? Maybe he just enjoys flirting with you and is not interested in going on a date with you. I never asked him on a date. Im just saying I asked for his number so I don't want to be the one to have to ask him out for lunch or something. He should be making that move now not me. Link to comment
Batya33 Posted June 22, 2011 Share Posted June 22, 2011 I never asked him on a date. Im just saying I asked for his number so I don't want to be the one to have to ask him out for lunch or something. He should be making that move now not me. I tend to agree but since you continue to text him and respond to his texts the impression you are giving is that you are content with being a flirty/chat buddy and that you're available to stroke his ego and flatter him with all this attention without him having to lift a finger to make a plan to see you in person. Link to comment
Sweetkisses22 Posted June 22, 2011 Author Share Posted June 22, 2011 I tend to agree but since you continue to text him and respond to his texts the impression you are giving is that you are content with being a flirty/chat buddy and that you're available to stroke his ego and flatter him with all this attention without him having to lift a finger to make a plan to see you in person. Yea but I feel like if I don't text or talk to him its going to be weird when I go in to the bank. Link to comment
Batya33 Posted June 22, 2011 Share Posted June 22, 2011 Yea but I feel like if I don't text or talk to him its going to be weird when I go in to the bank. That's your choice. What I would do is tell him that you're too busy to type back and forth and to let you know if he ever wants to meet up. And try to do your banking when he's not there. Link to comment
Sweetkisses22 Posted June 22, 2011 Author Share Posted June 22, 2011 That's your choice. What I would do is tell him that you're too busy to type back and forth and to let you know if he ever wants to meet up. And try to do your banking when he's not there.[/quote That's a good idea thanks Link to comment
DylanNotorious Posted June 22, 2011 Share Posted June 22, 2011 Awwww awsome! I think I told you to slip him your number, and cudos for giving it a shot! Nothing ventured, nothing gained. And no your not a cougar at all. Just see how it goes. You've made the moves and now it's his turn. Link to comment
chitown9 Posted June 22, 2011 Share Posted June 22, 2011 Thanks for the update. Please keep us informed. Link to comment
sadchick83 Posted June 22, 2011 Share Posted June 22, 2011 Just ask him out then. And on the date tell him you like guys who take initiative. The age difference probably has him a bit intimidated. I agree though, its not sexy when th girl does all the chasing. You have gone this far, so ask him on one date. Link to comment
waterlilly Posted June 22, 2011 Share Posted June 22, 2011 I would ask him out. sounds like he is intimidated because you are so beautiful. That is okay. He may been a little shy. I would just ask to meet for coffee or something short, see if ya'll like each other in person. Also he is leaving to go to school so maybe he is unsure about that. good luck. Link to comment
xyzzzz Posted June 23, 2011 Share Posted June 23, 2011 you said he's just here for holidays? then i dont think he was ever gonna ask you out if you hadnt made the move. he;s more likely just "hmm she;s hot" and that's it. he wasnt thinking about having a relationship in your city. and now you made yourself avaliable ,it's easy for him just to "take advantage". the worst case,you keep making moves and eventually you guys have sex then the next day he leave for collage and break up with you. "what happens in the bank stays in the bank". "he is shy" is often an abused excuse.it's def not the reason he hasnt asked you out. it's not like it will kill him since you already expressed your interest! i wouldnt ask him out. Link to comment
Sweetkisses22 Posted June 23, 2011 Author Share Posted June 23, 2011 you said he's just here for holidays? then i dont think he was ever gonna ask you out if you hadnt made the move. he;s more likely just "hmm she;s hot" and that's it. he wasnt thinking about having a relationship in your city. and now you made yourself avaliable ,it's easy for him just to "take advantage". the worst case,you keep making moves and eventually you guys have sex then the next day he leave for collage and break up with you. "what happens in the bank stays in the bank". "he is shy" is often an abused excuse.it's def not the reason he hasnt asked you out. it's not like it will kill him since you already expressed your interest! i wouldnt ask him out. No he lives in this city he just goes to college in pa. He says he's homes on summer vacation. Idk if things are even working out. He doesn't seem to want to hang out cause if he wanted to he'd ask. Also it seems we have NOTHING to talk about. We find topics to talk about then we run out if things to say. Then he'll just say solo why don't you ask me something. Umm I've asked him all the questions why wont he?? Its getting very Akward not having anything in common so we kind of stopped texting this morning. I haven't gotten a text from him since. So I guess this is going no where lol. Link to comment
Batya33 Posted June 23, 2011 Share Posted June 23, 2011 Aren't you glad you found out early on you didn't have enough in common? Link to comment
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