Please help me. I don't know what to do.

[Smiling]

Hey everyone.

 

First off thanks for taking the time to read this.

I have a bit of a problem.

 

I know the password to my boyfriends facebook account so I logged in with the intention of snooping through his messages to see if he had been talking to any girls. I know I was wrong to do that and I won't try making excuses for myself. Honestly, I didn't think I would find anything. But - I did.

It was only one message and it was from a girl who contacted him, he is a musician and she mailed him asking him when he was next playing a show. She then asked him if next time she was in his town would he show her around, he responded with " If you show me around yours next time I am there" .

Then afterwards she mailed him saying: " I hope you are not thinking I am a groupie" - He said , No not at all.

Now maybe I am reading too far into this but please tell me what you draw from that.

We have been together for 2 years this month and this was back in Dec. From the looks of it they have had no contact, one problem. I deleted her from his friends list! I know I know I know that was crazy!

I really don't know what to think or do. I feel sick to my stomach that I broke his trust by doing this.

 

Please help me out, should I tell him?

[lana111]

the messages seem totally harmless to me...

 

 

but you should tell him what you did.

[rosephase]

Wow, it sounds like a normal interaction. He's in a band. He has fans. He was probably flattered that someone liked his music. It doesn't even start to look like it went any farther then that.

 

You on the other hand don't seem to trust your boyfriend AT ALL and are looking for things to get upset about.

[Smiling]

Oh dear. @rosephase thank you. I know that I probably over reacted to the situation. I absolutely feel nauseous now that I did that. I don't know how to break it to him that I did that. Thing is , I don't know why he would need to be shown around the town she lives in , he lived there for 6 years :S

[f1r3f1y3]

It's a little flirty.

 

You really shouldn't snoop like that unless you have a solid reason to do so. Unless you do, you're on more inappropriate grounds than he is, based on what you've said.

[Smiling]

I know. You are right. I am in the wrong. Should I tell him?

[Ariel85]

If a struggling musician doesn't pander to fans, then he has no one showing up at gigs.

 

It doesn't sound like he was out of line.

 

YOU, on the other hand, are in deep dodo. Deleting his friends? Snooping? Have you always mistrusted him?

[Smiling]

Omg I am a fool ! I am just insecure ! Any advice to grow as a decent person?

[f1r3f1y3]

You certainly don't seem like a bad person, I wouldn't beat yourself up over it. Everyone is insecure about something sometimes.

 

2 year relationship is great. Just carry on and don't snoop unless he gives you a solid reason to.