Lonely weekends post break-up

[enchanted771]

This is the part that stinks, but my gf invited me out to hang out with her and our friends. It is still fresh though, and I know its gonna take time. I just liked having someone to be with on the weekends, and I did love his family so it was nice to be a part of something for a little while. But, he totally killed my self-esteem, verbally abused me, and betrayed me. He didn't even see what he was doing was wrong. I don't think he ever will. He is 35, and has been alone for the past few years. Now I know why. It just stinks because I did love him.

[TiredOfGames]

Hang out with your friends and just try to be around other people as much as possible, even if they are strangers hanging out in a local coffee shop. When in a relationship we become attached in so many ways, especially the idea that we always have someone to do stuff with, no matter what, and it's more special because it's someone that you love. When that goes away, we are left feeling somewhat alone. Well, we are certainly not alone that's for sure. The best thing I ever did was to stop holing up by myself and get out to be amongst other people, regardless of when and where. Helped me to get my mind off of things, pass the time quicker, and so on. It certainly helped me heal much faster that's for sure. Take your friends up on their offer to hang out as much as possible. They want to help and that's what true friendship is about.

[enchanted771]

Yeah, its going to be an adjustment for me especially since I was a part of his family.

[TiredOfGames]

Yeah, its going to be an adjustment for me especially since I was a part of his family.

 

Perfectly understandable. A majority of LTRs result in bonds being formed with other family members and it makes a breakup that much harder (and the feeling of loss that much greater) when one hangs out with their SOs family a lot too. You may need to give yourself a nudge to hang out with your friends and be around people in general, but it's a nudge you'll be thanking yourself for down the road. Posting and reading on here helps a lot too. Best of luck enchanted!