So confused

[brokenra]

My Girlfriend and I started dating 3/10/11. We have a six year friendship behind us before we started a relationship. We weren't together a month when her ex whom she hadn't heard from in months came back into the picture. I tried to be understanding because this wasn't just some NEW person I was dating, she was my best friend. Long story short she ended up sleeping with her ex, somehow I was able to get past that and she swore that she may have gotten sidetracked but that she wanted a future with me. I really DO forgive her because I was her friend so long I know she didn't start a relationship with me with the intention of hurting me. She broke things off with the ex, more because the ex is crazy as a loon than really letting go I think.

Tonight I saw where she had posted in a forum saying she missed her. She ignored the songs I sent her on fb she snapped several times at me on the phone. Basically told me what I was saying wasn't important to her and the whole time she was posting messages about missing her ex and writing emails she cant send to her ex.

 

I'm just over it. I love this woman with all my heart but it is really becoming obvious that she cant move past this relationship. I am JUST a good IDEA. I am NICE. I am supportive, I am everything she ever wanted but I am NOT HER and I will never be her. Really sucks to be me right now.

I just wonder if I was a big ol , and used her and acted selfish in almost every way would I get more out of this relationship?

I dont know how to let her go, but if I keep holding on to this its going to end up costing me more than I can give. I cant do this anymore. I really really cant.

[hello678]

No need to put on an act in a relationship. To be fair it looks like you were always friendzoned and she just used you to fill the space when he was gone.

 

You know its time to leave her and move onto someone more productive. Good luck.

[Crazyaboutdogs]

I am JUST a good IDEA. I am NICE. I am supportive, I am everything she ever wanted but I am NOT HER and I will never be her. Really sucks to be me right now.

 

Actually, I think it is GREAT to be you and it really sucks to be HER. What is so great about her...she used you, cheated on you and didn't behave very nicely to someone who she was supposed to friends with. Now you saw the REAL her. You may have been her friend but she was never yours because friends don't use people and betray people. So while you are nice and supportive...all good qualities.....she is a user and dishonest.....bad qualities. So I would say it sucks to be her.

[f1r3f1y3]

You don't sound confused. It sounds like you have described the situation exactly as it is.

 

Find someone who appreciates you, she is no friend.

[brokenra]

I have cried almost all day because we have this inside saying No te dejare (I wont leave you) I feel like I have made so many compromises trying to give her what she was missing and it doesn't matter. I have been understanding as humanly possible. Her posting how much she misses her hurts worse than her sleeping with her because it proves she's still emotionally tied to this woman and doesn't care enough about me to not me through any more than she already has.