Bakaboy Posted June 21, 2011 Share Posted June 21, 2011 Remember this whole time only about 8 of my closest freinds know (ya i know its friends but i like it better this way haha) i'm gay and no one in my family knows and even though it's completely anonymous im still freaking out just posting this. k, theres this guy in my grade that i really, really, REALLY like and we didnt really talk much until about a week before school got out. One morning we were in the slot room in band (we both really like music and he started talking to me about music or somethin' and ever since then hes ALL i can think about. Since then we text a lot and a few times we have played Truth or Dare over text like 100 times. Thats one of the reasons i think hes gay. He asks a lot of questions about gay people and me being gay. And EVERYTIME he insists i do super dirty dares and one time he dared me to send a nude picture to someone in my contacts and when i asked him who (we have a lot of mutual freinds) he said i should send it to him "cuz he already knows im gay". Then the next time we played he did the same time except with no excuse, he just said he dares me to send him a dirty picture and after i sent it he texted back "huge balls jkjk" and it was just a joke but still. Last time i talked to him he didnt even dare me he just asked me to send him a picture. Also a lot of my freinds think hes gay and a couple said they think he likes me but his whole family is SUPER religious so if he is gay/bi he thinks hes a bad person so he wont come out. He knows i think hes EXTREMELY hot but i've never told him how i feel about him other than physically. I think he wants to come out cuz hes asked me questions like when did i realize im gay, and how am i gonna tell my family and stuff, but he dosnt know how. One time i was texting him and a guy in our school came up and i said hes hot and he asked if i think hes hot and i said ya u and "Jo schmo" are the hottest guys in our school and he asked if i think hes hotter than "Jo Schmo" and i said yes and he said "haha score! Take that "Jo Schmo' jkjk." And the the last week of school he asked why i text him but don't talk to him at school and i said i would tell him another time maybe (its cuz im super nervous) and the next day he left his usual freinds in his work-group in science and cam over and joined my little group of 3. I really like this guy; i love his personality, his looks, and who he is and hes funny. But idk how to tell if hes gay/likes me or if maybe i should tell him i like him. Oh and if u haven't noticed he knows im gay, he was the second person i told and i started telling my close freinds and accepted myself more after i realized how much i care about him. PLEASE HELP! Link to comment
Bakaboy Posted June 21, 2011 Author Share Posted June 21, 2011 Sorry im gonna rephrase this "a guy in our school came up and i said hes hot and he asked if i think hes hot and i said ya u and "Jo schmo" are the hottest guys in our school and he asked if i think hes hotter than "Jo Schmo'" it makes more since when i say "a guy in our grade came up in the conversation and i said that guy is hot and the guy i like asked if i think hes hot and i said yes him and a kid named B*e*d*n are the hottest guys in our school and the guy i like asked if i think hes hotter than B*e*d*n and i said yes...." that is the 10th line from the bottom i think Link to comment
Bakaboy Posted June 21, 2011 Author Share Posted June 21, 2011 Oh and every time he dared me to send dirty picture i dared him to do the same and he gladly accepted. I know we're to young to be doing these dares but its not like im gonna say no Link to comment
abitbroken Posted June 21, 2011 Share Posted June 21, 2011 Gay or not, I would stop sending or receiving "dirty" pictures or sending them to contacts. It can really get you in trouble. That being said, not sure if this kid is gay or he is just trying to make fun of you or trying to make you uncomfortable, which is possible. And 12-14 year old boys tend to be fascinated with vulgar things anyways if he is playing truth or dare. I would honestly, if you are really 13 especially, I wouldn't try to out him or whatever. At 13, most people, even if someone is straight, are really confused at that age. Heck, I am a straight female and didn't "notice" boys at all at that age. I still thought boys were gross or just a non-issue and sex was gross and "body changes" were uncomfortable.i "noticed" boys a few years later. I am not doubting that you believe you are gay, but I am just thinking 13 is a bit young to actually "like" someone seriously in a romantic way but that's just me. Also, joining your group can be that he is just being friendly also. I would probably leave it alone and only do something if he reveals that he is gay. If you try to out him and you are wrong on your assumption, it could cause a lot of uncomfortableness. Link to comment
Bakaboy Posted June 21, 2011 Author Share Posted June 21, 2011 I will stop with the pictures. He definently isnt trying to make fun of me or make me uncomortable we r still freinds and he is really nice to everybody. I know for sure im gay because i have NO interest in girls and a LOT of interest in boys. Im not saying ur advice isnt good or trying to sound rude, but u dont understand being straight. Ive known since i was like 8 and have NO doubt Link to comment
Bakaboy Posted June 21, 2011 Author Share Posted June 21, 2011 yes i did change my age, i wanted to put 13-15 cuz i dont want my age out there but it wouldnt let me Link to comment
abitbroken Posted June 21, 2011 Share Posted June 21, 2011 I was not suggesting that you don't know if you are gay - not at all. But if you gave your age as 13 I doubted if you would fixate on one person thinking you were in love with them with that intensity at that age to the point of wishing to out them or trying to figure if they are gay. Its so important to enjoy being a kid while you can still be one - gay or straight. That kind of puppy love or "i like this girl/boy" is totally a different thing from when you are an older teen, etc. But now I know that you are older and it makes things slightly different. I still stand by my advice of not 'outing" this young man. He might gravitate you because he knows you are gay and he is too, or because he just thinks you are a nice person and doesn't care if you are gay or not - who really knows but him. The only thing you can do is just go on what he reveals to you. If he doesn't tell you he is gay, then just like I advise people in their 20s and 30s, don't pursue them unless they decide to tell you as it is a very personal decision to decide to tell people or not. Otherwise it is just you reading into things. Also things at school are touchy - keep all communications school appropriate. He knows you are gay, so you have opened the door for him to tell you if he wants - but still, I am not 100% convinced that he absolutely is. Just be a friend to him and in time - he'll tell you - or not. If he is, he has the right to figure himself out for as long as he wants and if he isn't, it would be really awkward if all this time you assumed he was Link to comment
FathomFear Posted June 21, 2011 Share Posted June 21, 2011 Remember this whole time only about 8 of my closest freinds know (ya i know its friends but i like it better this way haha) i'm gay and no one in my family knows and even though it's completely anonymous im still freaking out just posting this. I think the main issue here is that you need to tackle your situation in a logical sequence. Based on the first sentence of your post it is clear that you're 1) not out to any family/friends, and 2) likely still not completely comfortable with being gay. This poses a problem because even if you were to meet someone right know who is gay and likes you, you would not be in a position to have any sort of relationship. Walking around on eggshells, trying to avoid your friends/family from finding out, etc, only causes stress. Your best bet is to focus on coming out of the closet prior to trying to pursue relationships. Link to comment
Bakaboy Posted June 21, 2011 Author Share Posted June 21, 2011 Thank you i agree FathomFear. It wouldn't be as much of a problem telling my friends and everybody at school as telling my family. Like 75% of my family is against gay people, especially my dad. Link to comment
Bakaboy Posted June 21, 2011 Author Share Posted June 21, 2011 Originally posted by abitbroken I don't think i LOVE him hes just a guy i really like and i agree with what u said and i will just try to get to know him better for a while and try and build are friendship before i try anything else. Link to comment
youkonwme Posted September 19, 2011 Share Posted September 19, 2011 I am really freaked out about posting this online too, but here it goes... I really need some help. I know this is nothing compared to the stories that have been posted on here, but this seems to be the only place that I can actually discuss my true feelings for people and all that jazz. I just started school as a freshman this year. The day before school everyone got to meet each other at this orientation meeting. I'm still trying to get a hold out my sexual orientation, but at the moment absolutely no one knows that I have feelings for guys. Sometimes I even make fun of the girly gay kids at my school. So anyways, at the meeting I was scanning the group of almost 200 people picking out girls... and guys. As I was scanning I was surprised to see this one guy staring at me already. The opening ceremony lasted a few hours and I kept looking to see if he was looking and I caught him at least three times. Later that day I was sitting with a bunch of my friends and he sat with all girls because no guys would let him sit with them. I felt horrible and started to feel something for him. My friends talked about how those girls were going to make him gay, and I just glanced at the floor and felt bad. Time moved on, and I secretly asked the girls that I knew that were friends with him about who he was. He was homeschooled which explains why he didn't know anyone at school. We had some other connections with our parents too. (I can't say due to purposes of someone finding out who I am) Well, three weeks later one of my female friends said she wanted to introduce me to someone. She dragged me right to this kid and I panicked like no other. We shook hands and he looks "straight" into my eyes for an awkward moment. We had a sweet, but short awkward conversation. Then I left and at the end of the day I was at my locker and I looked at his locked and he was looking straight towards me. To get out of the school I have to walk by his locker and he stood there doing nothing until I walked by and then I walked up to me and started talking. Another girl joined our convo. (BTW he only has all female friends) The girl made him feel me hair because everyone thinks my hair is SUPER soft. It was sorta awkward but I definitely enjoyed it. So i decided to invite him over to spend the night (taking a HUGE leap of faith there) and he told me he wasn't allowed because his parents are really strict. One day I was SO close to sitting with him at lunch but I walked the other way at the last second. Then the unimaginable happened. I almost cried when I got home from school that day. Another boy walked up to him and the started talking. I watched closely for three days. Now there talk all the time. Onetime I saw the other boy's hands on the guys I like's shoulders, but there were facing each other. I died inside. I felt depressed for a long while. That's when something changed. One day, every time I walked by him in school, the guy I like would say hey. I felt AMAZING! Also he followed me into the bathroom and at the urnail he talked to me. I usually never talk when I'm pissing cuz thats just weird. But no one else was there so i thought what the hell maybe ill go with it. So this weekend my best guy friend (not gay) tried to text this kid and the guy responded violently and said DONT repsond! I later found out he was about to call the police. What the hell? This kid might be a little strange. After that thought I texted him and he responded very sweetly and we talk and I invited him to "try" to come over again, so hopefully that happens. BUT HERE'S WHAT BOTHERS ME. This kid was homeschooled, that means he has terrible social skills. He would die just to have one true good friend. He hasn't really been exposed to how harsh and violent guys can be and thats why he is so nice. I am confused beyond repair. Whenever I get freetime I daydream about him all the time. I would do anything for this kid to like me. But idk if he does. Also, I don't know if he is just trying to get a friend or what. I will definitely keep you guys all updated whenever something happens. So can anyone help? Thanks alot! Link to comment
thepersonel Posted January 17, 2012 Share Posted January 17, 2012 watch to see if he stares at, you see if his pupils dilate, try touching him on the thigh or shoulder, smile at him when he looks at you just try being friendly Link to comment
hillsboy678 Posted February 29, 2012 Share Posted February 29, 2012 Your 16 or 17 yes you now are because I said so. Now lets start with the dirty pictures, mmm can't say I haven't sent a couple before. However because you are still in mmmm 'school' that can be a really bad situation. I mean who wants a picture when you can see each other in person? At least in person you can't show other people. As someone who is gay and had a crush on several 'straight' people in junior high who later came out as gay. One guy I still am crushing on and lives in the next city but goes to school in Chicago so we obviously can't date, sexually compatible but physically not at the moment. Ok off topic damn adderall is wearing off. mmmmmmmhmmmm sounds like someone is crushin' on you lol I would talk about it at a movie night with a close friend or two who likes you and plan something out. Obviously he is gay, likes you, your gay and like him. Now mmmm since your 16 or 17 you are in 10th grade lol I bet you wish you could just be me typing this to you. Both of you aren't out so it maybe hard to actually 'date' but sounds like his family maybe more crazy than yours (poor kid cause my mainly mom is crazy took her 4 years to accept it.) I would obviously tell him maybe a kind of 'can I tell you something that I haven't told anyone yet? Please don't change your opinon of me and don't stop talking to me cause you are a good friend.' Then tell him with that. My first mmm gay experience partner was my best friend in 9th grade who told me he was bi. he was very cute, funny, we got a long and my god when he told me that it was like a 'YESSSSSSSSSSSS' moment lol. Good luck and good wishes I hope it goes well Link to comment
gayboy123 Posted April 19, 2012 Share Posted April 19, 2012 Bakaboy what is your email? Link to comment
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