Curious..

[Shelby1]

From a guys stand point.. When you date a girl for 3 years, is it really that easy to forget about her or do you cover it up? I want to know things to do to make him feel as hurt as i do. Girls! Comment too on ways you tried getting your ex back that helped!

[DoGGYtREAts]

It really depends on the individual and the relationship Some guys are more attached then others, and the context of the relationship also comes into play.. The best advice i can give you is to not dwell on it or try to go after revenge. The best thing you can do for yourself is to move on with your life.

[steve87]

No need to go for revenge. Moving on with your life and being happy doing it will conflict more than enough pain for your ex. Seeing your ex all happy and moved on is a killer, trust me!

[inkscarred]

From a guys stand point.. When you date a girl for 3 years, is it really that easy to forget about her or do you cover it up? I want to know things to do to make him feel as hurt as i do. Girls! Comment too on ways you tried getting your ex back that helped!

 

Unless their life was made a living hell for most of that time, then yes if the guy stuck it out for that long, chances are he misses her.

 

But, I'd encourage you to be cautious about going down the path of revenge. Being spiteful won't make you feel any better, and there's a good chance it might even make you feel worse. He's hurting, trust me, and it will be years before he's fully over you. But if you need someone else to be suffering in order to make you feel better, then that's an issue for you to deal with, not someone else.

 

I hope things get better for you soon. I've been where you are, and trust me I know how much it sucks. I dumped my ex fiance of 2.5 years, about a year and a half ago, and it was the hardest thing I've ever done, I completely regret it, but I've had to move on. I'm so glad that she acted like the "better person" through all of it, because I swear to god it's what helped her move on. Being bitter and set on revenge will only make the recovery process more drawn out than it already is.

 

Take care.

Scott.

[Shelby1]

I dont want revenge, AT all. I meant as in ways for me to grow that makes him see what he should be missing! I wouldnt be like that.

[DoGGYtREAts]

I dont want revenge, AT all. I meant as in ways for me to grow that makes him see what he should be missing! I wouldnt be like that.

The best way is to move on. He'll see you happy and living your life and realize what he could have been part of... And at the same time you leanr, live, and move on to new pastures

[inkscarred]

Basically unless you seriously want him back, I'd just forget him and move on. Playing around with little "see what he's missing" games like this, no matter which way you slice it, is a form of revenge unless you want him. Even if you do want him back it's a pretty poor technique unless you know that he responds to this sort of thing.

[DoGGYtREAts]

Basically unless you seriously want him back, I'd just forget him and move on. Playing around with little "see what he's missing" games like this, no matter which way you slice it, is a form of revenge unless you want him. Even if you do want him back it's a pretty poor technique unless you know that he responds to this sort of thing.

Sadly it seems many of us guys are hard wired to want what we precieve that we cant have. My first played that game with me twice to very good effect >.>

[mouseno4]

Best way to get back at him that is not revenge? Huh? That is contradictory. Live your life and make sure you never see him again, nor him ever see you again. Best medicine.

[inkscarred]

Sadly it seems many of us guys are hard wired to want what we precieve that we cant have.

 

Amen. I've wasted way too much time with this only to discover each time that it wasn't worth it. I completely changed my mind after meeting a millionaire who told me that he realised that there wasn't actually a whole lot he really "needed" in order to make him happy, and that actually he was most content living with less.

[DoGGYtREAts]

Amen. I've wasted way too much time with this only to discover each time that it wasn't worth it. I completely changed my mind after meeting a millionaire who told me that he realised that there wasn't actually a whole lot he really "needed" in order to make him happy, and that actually he was most content living with less.

Yep. I've always Been a sucker for the carrot on a sting Game >.> All my Life... Even my sisters used to use that one to get things from me lol

[Benville]

Just spent the last half an hour trying to find this after seeing it on facebook long ago.

 

“What is the quality of your intent?

 

Certain people have a way of saying things that shake us at the core. Even when the words do not seem harsh or offensive, the impact is shattering. What we could be experiencing is the intent behind the words. When we intend to do good, we do. When we intend to do harm, it happens. What each of us must come to realize is that our intent always comes through. We cannot sugarcoat the feelings in our heart of hearts. The emotion is the energy that motivates. We cannot ignore what we really want to create. We should be honest and do it the way we feel it. What we owe to ourselves and everyone around is to examine the reasons of our true intent.

 

My intent will be evident in the results.”

 

You know what? It's true. If you want to get back at him, just admit it. If you want him back, admit it. If you don't want him back, or don't want revenge, then just forget him and move on.