Girls do you get this?

[Irishguy1125]

My gf and I broke up last week after being together for 7 months or so, we are both 21 and in college together. My hasn't told ANY of her friends that we broke up and that was almost a week ago, not even her bestfriend who she normally tells everything. I know this because I am close to all of her friends and her best friend and I know them well enough to know if they have found something like that out. Is it weird that she hasn't told anyone that we broke up? Does it have any meaning of not wanting it be permanent just yet or am I just making a deal out of nothing...?

[endy]

I think it's probably her way of dealing with the break up by not telling people which really isn't that great of a sign. You were the dumpee right?

[faithful14]

It could be either that she's unsure of her decision or that she just doesn't want to deal with people getting into her business and asking her personal questions.

[NCforME]

I a lot of girls put there self esteem into being in relationship. She's probably embarrassed and hasn't wanted to admit it. People do all kinds of irrational things after a break up, on both sides. I would say I wouldn't look at anything she does or says for at least the next 3 months. It might all be irrational until then.

[endy]

I a lot of girls put there self esteem into being in relationship. She's probably embarrassed and hasn't wanted to admit it. People do all kinds of irrational things after a break up, on both sides. I would say I wouldn't look at anything she does or says for at least the next 3 months. It might all be irrational until then.

 

That's exactly why I said it's not really a good thing. It just shows a questionable mindset or what she thinks of herself. It's not healthy to keep these things/feelings in.

[lana111]

i did that. when i broke up with my ex, who i dated for over 6 years, i didnt tell anyone. mostly bc it was a weird thing to bring up. i thought people would just naturally find out in time. my ex, however, went and told everyone he ever knew that i broke up with him.

[Irishguy1125]

It's just awkward b/c we have all the same friends so its like all her girlfriends are all like oblivious to it so they all ask me how she is, where she is, just logistical stuff all the time. I don't want to be the one to run my mouth and put my private life out there either, I mean I told my best friend and family but that's about it.

[NCforME]

i did that. when i broke up with my ex, who i dated for over 6 years, i didnt tell anyone. mostly bc it was a weird thing to bring up. i thought people would just naturally find out in time. my ex, however, went and told everyone he ever knew that i broke up with him.

 

Well that's because he needed emotional support. It's just one of those dynamic differences of being on either side.

[lana111]

Well that's because he needed emotional support. It's just one of those dynamic differences of being on either side.

 

probably. that plus he wears his heart on his sleeve. thats how everyone i knew found out.

[chitown9]

"Is it weird that she hasn't told anyone that we broke up?"

 

 

 

 

It could be that she is still processing this change of event. She really needs to be ok with it before she can respond to questions she is bound to receive about the matter.

[JerkBrokeMe]

I think she just doesn't want to deal with answering questions and explaining what happened. My ex did the same thing the first week or so. Valentines day was during that time and I remember him telling me later that his boss overheard him complaining to his friend at work (who was asking him what was wrong) that they were playing love songs all day and it was upsetting because he was "having problems with his girlfriend." I took that as a sign that he was unsure since he didn't even defend himself by telling the truth, we'd broken up. I thought it meant he wasn't sure about it. It meant nothing. We're still broken up months later.