Words of Widsom regarding No Contact needed please

[bunny45]

Not to beat a dead horse, but I need some rational reasoning to help me understand why I am so devastated by the No Contact embargo the ex put in place.

 

Emailing was our form of contact and we chatted daily via email exchange.

 

When he sent his last email to me two weeks ago he stated: I won't be checking email anymore.

 

And here I am two weeks later getting myself worked up, anxious and not eating/sleeping waiting for an email that will never ever come.

 

Why can't I move on from this email situation?

[mhowe]

Because any contact, regardless of how meaningless, is better than no contact. By stating he won't be checking it, he's telling you clearly that he doesn't want to be in contact anymore. As hard as that is, you need to hear it.

 

And, go ahead, even though it's been 2 weeks, how many emails have you sent anyway?

[bunny45]

Because any contact, regardless of how meaningless, is better than no contact. By stating he won't be checking it, he's telling you clearly that he doesn't want to be in contact anymore. As hard as that is, you need to hear it.

 

And, go ahead, even though it's been 2 weeks, how many emails have you sent anyway?

 

Haven't sent any, I am respecting his wishes.

 

I'm having the hard time with the emails that will never come.

[CatsMeeoow]

Haven't sent any, I am respecting his wishes.

 

I'm having the hard time with the emails that will never come.

 

Thats understandable... its really hard when not only someone suddenly cuts you off but then puts a major change in your routine.

 

Kudos for respecting his wishes - we all know how hard that is to do... we always feel that if we could just get their attention or say it in just the right way but ultimately that never works... they've already made their decision.

 

You need to find yourself a new routine and fill your time so that you are not sitting around waiting for an email. This forum can be a great source of support and distraction but so can heading over to the local park for a nice walk, going to starbucks for coffee, calling a friend you've lost touch with. You need to get yourself busy... pick up or start a new hobby... people often head to the gym just to find a new focus.

 

Hugs! Heartbreak is terrible but not world ending... life does go on... I'm proof of that!