Can't get intimate with my gf..her teeth bother me, should I tell her?

[MyNinja]

Honoestly, I really think you should do yourself and her a favor and call the relationship done. I really don't see it getting any better if you're that disturbed by her teeth to where you can't be intimate with her. I don't think you're wrong for feeling this way because everyone has their pet peeves and whatnot, but I do feel it would be best if you work on some of the issues you feel you have that are holding you back.

 

bringing up that her teeth offend you will not only greatly offend her, but it makes you look like a shallow low-life and NO ONE is attracted to that. I know if someone said to me, "I know you want to be close and intimate, but I'm having a hard time being that way towards you because of your teeth" I would feel gross, embarrassed, stupid and would want to run faaaaar away. There's no easy or polite way to bring this up to anyone. I say just move on and let her know you are going through some personal things that you don't want to involve her in.

 

I personally find no-so-straight teeth attractive. It gives the person their own unique look and it's not the same old boring bone straight smile. My bf doesn't have perfectly straight teeth and I think he's the sexiest man alive, lol, and so do other women who constantly hit on him!!

 

Until we meet again...

[annie24]

Good calll, Jenny!

 

I think if someone prefers masturbation over sex with a live body, there most certainly is more here at play than gnarly teeth.

 

I 3rd that!!

 

Besides, if teeth really were the issue, why would you have talked to her for more than 5 minutes? that should have been the first thing you noticed about her!

[MyNinja]

I 3rd that!!

 

Besides, if teeth really were the issue, why would you have talked to her for more than 5 minutes? that should have been the first thing you noticed about her!

 

he said in the beginning he didn't really notice her teeth all that much until they got physically closer (intimate) and then it became more apparent to him. I know this doesn't validate anything because I would have noticed right off the bat some physical attribute I found less than appealing.

[noneStar]

I don't want to dump her. I think I will try to look past it and not let it bother me, and try to be more open with affection.

[noneStar]

he said in the beginning he didn't really notice her teeth all that much until they got physically closer (intimate) and then it became more apparent to him. I know this doesn't validate anything because I would have noticed right off the bat some physical attribute I found less than appealing.

 

I've never met anyone that I've found totally attractive in every single way w/o a flaw. That's impossible.

[tiredofvampires]

I've never met anyone that I've found totally attractive in every single way w/o a flaw. That's impossible.

 

And if they had no flaws, imo, that would be a complete turn-off.

 

Imperfections are human. Perfection is not. If I wanted to date a perfect man, I'd go find a Michelangelo statue -- frozen in time, frozen in body, frozen in word.

 

And at some point -- if you were with her long enough -- over time, if she were "perfect" now, the flaws would develop anyway.

[MyNinja]

That's great that you want to work on looking pass it. With time it won't bother you anymore and you probably will not notice it nearly as much when you focus on other qualities that you found attractive in the beginning. Take all the energy that has you focusing on her teeth and direct it to an attribute you find appealing (physically or personality-wise). It'll take some time, but will be worth in in the end for your relationship with this person and peace of mind for you.

 

Until we meet again...

[JonasWaingaro]

I've never met anyone that I've found totally attractive in every single way w/o a flaw. That's impossible.

 

Well answer this then, do you think people find you flawless? If not, why would anyone want to be with you? You cannot hold others to a standard you yourself are not living up to. Right?

[superfox]

I've never met anyone that I've found totally attractive in every single way w/o a flaw. That's impossible.

Maybe you've never been in love then?

[tresqua]

he said in the beginning he didn't really notice her teeth all that much until they got physically closer (intimate) and then it became more apparent to him.

 

The answer to this dilemma is to change positions and take her from behind.

 

I know, you're wondering why you didn't think of it before?

[greywolf]

Is it really her teeth or are you looking for reasons not to get closer to her (possibly subconsciously)?

 

You said in an earlier post that you've never met anyone without a flaw, and that's true. Everyone has flaws. But flaws shouldn't keep you from being intimate with someone you love. And for me, when I love someone, even their flaws look good to me, but I understand that everyone is different.

[noneStar]

Well answer this then, do you think people find you flawless? If not, why would anyone want to be with you? You cannot hold others to a standard you yourself are not living up to. Right?

 

Of course not. I'm not sure why they would want to be with me knowing all of my flaws! But I'm not saying any flaw is a deal breaker, but teeth are right in front. They are kinda hard to get out of the head.

 

 

Maybe you've never been in love then?

 

Probably not.

 

Is it really her teeth or are you looking for reasons not to get closer to her (possibly subconsciously)?

 

You said in an earlier post that you've never met anyone without a flaw, and that's true. Everyone has flaws. But flaws shouldn't keep you from being intimate with someone you love. And for me, when I love someone, even their flaws look good to me, but I understand that everyone is different.

 

And if they had no flaws, imo, that would be a complete turn-off.

 

Imperfections are human. Perfection is not. If I wanted to date a perfect man, I'd go find a Michelangelo statue -- frozen in time, frozen in body, frozen in word.

 

And at some point -- if you were with her long enough -- over time, if she were "perfect" now, the flaws would develop anyway.

 

True enough.