Sex sucks for both of us. No idea what to do...

[derpina]

I've been dating my boyfriend for almost a year now. I love him very deeply, but I've started to get worried. Recently whenever we have sex it's been... well, not very good. On my end, I can't seem to get wet and it (obviously) stings when he penetrates me. On his end, he can't seem to get hard anymore (no matter how long we spend on foreplay) and when he does get hard he doesn't stay hard for very long- making the whole process a rushed and uncomfortable affair (lube included, which doesnt seem to aleviate the stinging sensations I get, not to mention it's not very romantic) whereas before it was slow, spiritual, and very fulfilling for both of us (I came, he came, we're both happy). But now, neither of us can reach climax and I'm worried that he's starting to lose interest in me. He swears he still loves me, but how can I be sure if the great sex we used to have has dwindled into something so disappointing? And what's going on with my body down there anyway? I still feel *aroused* by him, but it's like my nethers are just being stubborn as all hell. We just dont seem to click sexually anymore, and considering how high my libido is, I can forsee this being a big problem in the future. Suggestions?

[mouseno4]

From what i have read, the natural lubrication a women produces is linked to how much water she drinks.

 

But for your guy, if you mind isnt with it you can easily lose it. If you know what i mean.