lushious Posted June 20, 2011 Share Posted June 20, 2011 I have been talking to this guy who lives about 8 hrs away from me... I had to call his company regarding a project at work, but he ended up sending me his linkedIn and asking for my facebook (even though he doesnt have fb at the moment) For the last month... we have been chatting online on average every other day, sometimes it could be quite short, but sometimes we would chat for hours until 1 in the morning , although both of us have to work the next day. He has told me many times taht he finds me very attractive from the few pics we have exchanged. But he has never said anything out of line (never expressed want to be more than friends). He would ask me personal questions anything from favorite drink to my height..... In a way I think he is interested... is genuinely trying to get to know me... but sometimes I would think he isn't interested in me at all considering he hasnt expressed he would like to be more than friends... Please comment.... what do you think? Link to comment
Happyhappyjoy Posted June 20, 2011 Share Posted June 20, 2011 I think it's kinda hard to like someone unless you have met them but hey that's just me. Link to comment
1m50L0nl3y Posted June 20, 2011 Share Posted June 20, 2011 Im only attracted to an online girl if I had seen her in cam and had a phone conversation. Otherwise, just another of many more... I can like her pics, but not her, I need to see her moving and hear her voice. Link to comment
1m50L0nl3y Posted June 20, 2011 Share Posted June 20, 2011 And when Im interested I send emails, text messages, make phone calls, dedicate songs, facebook status hinting her, and travel to half around the world ... And have a face like this -> whenever I see her on cam. Link to comment
dramallama Posted June 20, 2011 Share Posted June 20, 2011 Say something like, "sorry, I feel a bit uncomfortable talking to you for so long without having ever met. And especially as I don't know where I stand with you. If you would like to meet, I can consider it, though." Link to comment
Teaday Posted June 20, 2011 Share Posted June 20, 2011 Just enjoy talking to him! Cross the relationship bridge when you get there (hopefully after you meet in person since there's many nonverbal elements that contribute to attraction). It's okay to get to know someone with little or no expectations of anything coming from it. If nothing else, you might learn new things from a new friend. An issue that most of us humans have is that we freak out when it comes to the unknown, and instantly feel driven to explain or label the most insignificant of things. You don't need to, especially this soon! Link to comment
lushious Posted June 21, 2011 Author Share Posted June 21, 2011 the last time we chatted was on friday... and he was telling me how he is tempted to come and visit me.. and how attracted he is to me... I sent him a casul message on Sunday, but his status was away... and today I just sent him another casual message asking how his weekend was, once again he didn't reply, and his status was online but about 20 mins later he signed offline... what is happening.? what kind of game is he playing? or did he just lose interest? Link to comment
dramallama Posted June 21, 2011 Share Posted June 21, 2011 I think you should just leave things be and if he does ever get back to you, tell him that you are interested in meeting in person, and whether he would be open to the idea. If he is, and he asks you out, then great. If not, I think you should cut this cyber relationship, because you have feelings for him. Link to comment
lushious Posted June 21, 2011 Author Share Posted June 21, 2011 Am I paranoid or is he playing games? I was "appearing offline"... then he went online but I was busy so I appeared Online 10 mins later but he has already left... but the second I was appearing online... he went back online.. I messaged him... no reply... 20 mins later he went offline.... so eventually I finished talking to some friends I went back to "appearing offline"... I went back online a bit later... once again... he was online maybe 2 mins after I was on.... but ended up leaving 5 mins later..? Why is he goign online right after I'm on??? but end up ignoring me or leaving few mins after? Link to comment
dramallama Posted June 21, 2011 Share Posted June 21, 2011 Stop trying to contact him. Don't you have better things to do? He may not even be interested in you anyway. Link to comment
lushious Posted June 21, 2011 Author Share Posted June 21, 2011 Stop trying to contact him. Don't you have better things to do? He may not even be interested in you anyway. maybe I should have clarified. I only contacted him once, I was referring to the same isntance in the 2 posts. I went online because I was also chatting with my other friends. and thats how I notices how he logs on/off Link to comment
dramallama Posted June 21, 2011 Share Posted June 21, 2011 So are you interested in him romantically? Link to comment
lushious Posted June 21, 2011 Author Share Posted June 21, 2011 i woudlnt say i'm madly in love with him, but definitely smittened by how nice he has been. and 9/10 times he's the one who msgs me..... and he was the one that asked for my personal contacts when I spoke to him for work I guess the answer is.... somewhat... but I'm not going to the extra miles at this point to say I want to pursue him no matter what Link to comment
dramallama Posted June 21, 2011 Share Posted June 21, 2011 Well, if you're not happy with the cyber thing and want to meet in person, then tell him. If he really wants to see you, he will. If not, are you prepared to cut ALL contact and move on? Link to comment
lushious Posted June 21, 2011 Author Share Posted June 21, 2011 cutting off all contacts would be hard I guess..... maybe just leave him be for a while and perhaps be cyber friends later on... not sure if thats possible Link to comment
dramallama Posted June 21, 2011 Share Posted June 21, 2011 Why do you not think it's possible? Link to comment
lushious Posted June 21, 2011 Author Share Posted June 21, 2011 I may need to contact him later on for work related things (thats how we started talking to begin with)... don't want it to be awkward then... Link to comment
dramallama Posted June 21, 2011 Share Posted June 21, 2011 That's fine. Treat him like a colleague - polite but distant. Keep things work related only. Is a bit of awkwardness really worth pining over a guy forever, when he isn't making any indication that he is interested in you? Link to comment
jacobadam Posted July 1, 2011 Share Posted July 1, 2011 I am also confused this, how to help you..!! I have an idea, you would better to send a mail includes your desire to him....!! Link to comment
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