Vane Posted June 19, 2011 Share Posted June 19, 2011 So I have been with my boyfriend for two years and where future parents but there is always conflicts between us because of our parents.. I love this guy a lot and he means everything to me but I can't let go of my family cause they have always been there for me.. I honestly don't know what to do cause he wants me to choose between him or my family Link to comment
metrogirl Posted June 19, 2011 Share Posted June 19, 2011 Boyfriends come and go, family is forever. Link to comment
xiRoCb294 Posted June 19, 2011 Share Posted June 19, 2011 Why do you have to choose between your boyfriend and your family? What are the issues? Link to comment
banal Posted June 19, 2011 Share Posted June 19, 2011 Yeah, you need to give more details before anyone can give you a proper answer. Link to comment
RedDress Posted June 20, 2011 Share Posted June 20, 2011 So I have been with my boyfriend for two years and where future parents When you say "where future parents"... does that mean WE'RE future parents? I'm not trying to pick on your grammar... I'm just trying to understand the scenario. If you are pregnant, you now have another family to think about too. Link to comment
Snny Posted June 20, 2011 Share Posted June 20, 2011 Boyfriends come and go, family is forever. That depends on the circumstances. I need more information before commenting. Why does your family not approve of your boyfriend? How old are you? Link to comment
Stay_home Posted June 20, 2011 Share Posted June 20, 2011 So I have been with my boyfriend for two years and where future parents but there is always conflicts between us because of our parents.. I love this guy a lot and he means everything to me but I can't let go of my family cause they have always been there for me.. I honestly don't know what to do cause he wants me to choose between him or my family That's a pretty deep accusation to make about him, what makes you believe he's trying to rob you of your family. Link to comment
dramallama Posted June 20, 2011 Share Posted June 20, 2011 So I have been with my boyfriend for two years and where future parents but there is always conflicts between us because of our parents.. I love this guy a lot and he means everything to me but I can't let go of my family cause they have always been there for me.. I honestly don't know what to do cause he wants me to choose between him or my family How exactly is he making you choose? Why can't you have both? Remember, most relationships don't last, but your family will be there for you forever. I would also be concerned because one of the first things an abuser tries to do is isolate you from your family and friends (other support network) so that you are more reliant on the abuser. Why does your boyfriend feel threatened by your family? This is HIS problem, not yours. If he TRULY loved you, he will understand that there is love that only a family and provide and love that a partner can provide, and he shouldn't take that away from you, or make you choose, or make you feel guilty. It's manipulation - whether he realises that he's doing it or not. Link to comment
catfeeder Posted June 20, 2011 Share Posted June 20, 2011 This is too vague. What are the issues, and who's causing the trouble? Link to comment
Chicklet Posted June 22, 2011 Share Posted June 22, 2011 I don't agree with the whole "Family comes first" because, sometimes, some members of a family will try to sabotage a relationship just because they don't like the person you're with. OP, your post is too vague. We need more info. Why does he want you to choose? Are there people in his family that just don't like him because of say his, religion, race, age....etc?? If so, then I agree with him. They should love who you love as long as that person isn't harming you in any way. Hope to get an update soon. Link to comment
Chicklet Posted June 22, 2011 Share Posted June 22, 2011 Boyfriends come and go, family is forever. Not true. What if you're boyfriend was of a different religion or race? Should you just let him go because your family are bigots? Link to comment
Moontiger Posted June 22, 2011 Share Posted June 22, 2011 That fact that he is "making" you choose is a HUGE red flag for me. Someone who loves you would never make you do such a thing. Link to comment
21YD Posted June 23, 2011 Share Posted June 23, 2011 you shouldnt have to choose... if he really "loves" you he'll support you. other wise family. blood is thicker than water. just saying Link to comment
Chicklet Posted June 23, 2011 Share Posted June 23, 2011 you shouldnt have to choose... if he really "loves" you he'll support you. other wise family. blood is thicker than water. just saying No, it's not. There are parents out there that could give a crap less about their children. It appears that the OP's parents aren't that type, however the whole blood is thicker than water thing is a bunch of baloney in my book. I've got friends that are more like family than any of my family will ever be. My son has a dad that isn't his biological Dad, but he's the only Dad he's got and he's a good one. I think that if the problem is that "they don't like him b/c he's a loser or a womanizer or a drunk or whatever", then she shouldn't be with him in the first place and the family has a right to dislike him....But if they hate him because of his race or his religion or his age, then he has the right to ask her... she fell in love with him and he's good to her......shouldn't that be good enough for her family?? Of course, we don't know the reason b/c the OP hasn't came back to tell us. Link to comment
Snny Posted June 24, 2011 Share Posted June 24, 2011 Before we jump to ANY conclusions, we need the OP's indepth info. I have a feeling it's not going to come out. Link to comment
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