athenuz28 Posted June 19, 2011 Share Posted June 19, 2011 I am in a deep situation. I am a unhappy married women. So I went on-line and met a wonderful man. We both fell in love with each other. He is the only man that I ever loved or felt this way for. I still miss him. My husband found out thru are texting/chatting/phone calls e-mailing like 8 hours a day. So we had to end until I get a divorce. My friend doesn't want me to ruin my family for him. The question is "How can a man resist a women, when she tells him how much she loves him often even though she is married". Does he still love me? He did ask me to stop contacting him, due to being caught. I still would send some messages to him every so often. Did i crowd him or what?:sad: Link to comment
Eocsor Posted June 19, 2011 Share Posted June 19, 2011 Online relationships mean absolutely nothing. I mean it's an easy way to get your jollies without any sort of commitment. Sounds like once you guys were caught and you said you'd divorce your husband for him his interest dissappeared. Link to comment
RedDress Posted June 19, 2011 Share Posted June 19, 2011 Oh boy. I just wrote a post about how sometimes I can be abrupt in my comments and it's meant to be helpful but sometimes it comes out wrong... here comes some more. LOL! What did you think was going to happen when you went online searching for love?? I think it's great that you are getting a divorce. Clearly you are not happy and this may give you the opportunity to find that happiness. As for this guy? It makes sense. He is having a crisis of conscience. He's probably been chatting away, enjoying the conversation and ego boost. But... he certainly did not mean for your life to self-destruct as a result. This is why he's saying that he doesn't want you to destroy your family for him. Because that's not where he is emotionally. It's even debateable that he wants a 'real' relationship. What he's telling you is that you need to make your own decisions absent of him. Which, kinda, is what you should have done before you went online to search for love. If you are unhappy, leave your relationship for the sake of your relationship. If you are unhappy but it's workable, work it out. He doesn't want to be a factor in your decision-making or for you to try to swap and trade-up. It sounds like he's gone "poof" because he doesn't want that responsibility. He just wants to feel good. I think you should turn your focus on your own life and marriage now. Figure out what you need to do for YOU. Where will you live? What will you do? These are all important decisions and things you need to figure out before you are truly 'available' for a relationship. Link to comment
oldenoughtoknow Posted June 19, 2011 Share Posted June 19, 2011 It always amazes me when people fall so "deeply in love" with someone they've never met. I'm sorry, but I just don't get it. And I have to agree with Eocsor. Sorry, you don't really know who's on the other side of the computer screen. If you were unhappy and unwilling to work on your marriage, then the divorce was no doubt inevitable. It sounds like the love of your life was only out for some cyber thrills. Now it's real, and he's gone. Link to comment
nutbrownhare Posted June 19, 2011 Share Posted June 19, 2011 Online relationships mean absolutely nothing. I mean it's an easy way to get your jollies without any sort of commitment. Sounds like once you guys were caught and you said you'd divorce your husband for him his interest dissappeared. This^^ This behaviour is not at all unusual amongst people who get involved with partners who are already committed to someone else. You are wise not to ruin your family for him, especially as he's asked you to stop contacting him. However, he is a symptom rather than a cause and you obviously have some serious issues within your marriage. You need to consider what your available options are - and, really, languishing for someone you only know online and have never met in reality is NOT a viable option. I'd forget this guy, who seems only to have provided a bit of temporary escapism, and concentrate on healing your own life and filling in the gaps which are obviously lacking in your marriage. Link to comment
athenuz28 Posted June 19, 2011 Author Share Posted June 19, 2011 As much as I hate to agree with you. There are things that you said, that he has said to me. He didn't clarify as well as you did, but nontheless he hinted certain things to me. Yea, need to consentrate on me. I do agree! Link to comment
athenuz28 Posted June 19, 2011 Author Share Posted June 19, 2011 Yea, I know I should but it isn't so easy to just forget him. He's always in my head, in my dreams. I can't shake him out. My husband sees that he is still on my mind constantly. Link to comment
athenuz28 Posted June 19, 2011 Author Share Posted June 19, 2011 Well, happy I had the chance to talk to someone of his stature on-line. No one in this world like him. Well, maybe you haven't been in-love. Yes, I knew alot about him. Remember we would chat/text/call/e-mail all day. While he was working in studio and I was in school. He will never be gone, he is always with me until my last breath I'm sure. I maybe married, but he is the one that i will always love. Link to comment
HeartGoesOn Posted June 20, 2011 Share Posted June 20, 2011 The question is "How can a man resist a women, when she tells him how much she loves him often even though she is married" A better question would be, "How can a man "respect" a women, when she tells him how much she loves him often even though she is married? I guess you now have no choice, other than getting a divorce? Link to comment
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