lamarthe Posted June 19, 2011 Share Posted June 19, 2011 how long did it take you to feel you got closure and how did you know it was closure. i would be curious to hear how you got there. Link to comment
lamarthe Posted June 20, 2011 Author Share Posted June 20, 2011 well guess I'll just keep on pedaling towards it as nobody seems to have an idea.... Link to comment
irishgerry Posted June 20, 2011 Share Posted June 20, 2011 reason nobody answered is its one of those questions "how long is a piece of string". everyones different. a few years back it took me a good 9 months to get over an ex. the most recent relationship looks like it only took me a month. im feeling pretty good about things even though she did text me. what i did was talk to friends, go out more, go to the gym and most importantly stay NC. Link to comment
hello678 Posted June 20, 2011 Share Posted June 20, 2011 How long is a piece of string? For me, week 1 was terrible, i longed constantly. Week 2 was also pretty terrible. Week 3 I found out she was seeing someone else. Week 4 is were im at now, I still constantly think about her but i'm dealing with it. I have no desire to contact her. Link to comment
LP90 Posted June 20, 2011 Share Posted June 20, 2011 agreed, it all depends on what happened in your relationship, how attached you were, how long, etc. For some it can take a month, for others several years. Also depends if you sit at home and cry about it day after day, or try to take control and actually move on. Not that its easy, but just saying its all subjective. Link to comment
hello678 Posted June 20, 2011 Share Posted June 20, 2011 agreed, it all depends on what happened in your relationship, how attached you were, how long, etc. For some it can take a month, for others several years. Also depends if you sit at home and cry about it day after day, or try to take control and actually move on. Not that its easy, but just saying its all subjective. I really just think you have to focus on surviving. People show their pain in different ways. Do whatever works for you. Just know the tunnel has an end and one day you will feel better. Focus your energy on positive things not negative things (like drinking and drowning in self pity) Link to comment
lamarthe Posted June 20, 2011 Author Share Posted June 20, 2011 thanks guys for the help. guess to be more precise (wanted to avoid a long post about the ins and outs of it) it's when you've been involved with someone - firstly seriously on for a couple of years - then on and off for a couple of years cause both sides keep on coming back like boomerangs (ok totally dumb but can't change it) even if you both knew it wasn't going anywhere but you weren't able to detach from it - then you agree that now you are really off and try to be just friends - eventually the friendship becomes too ambiguous and dramatic and it starts doing your head in so you get to the point where you chop if all off but years of (I know the whole thing is so pathetic) old habits die hard. so you go cold turkey and that also does your head in, you now feel miserable and stupid. i am sorry, yes it's so pathetic. now - you just want to get to the point where it's all history. and yes - most certainly on NC both ends. cause it just has to end, that's the only option. I just wish I could erase it and forget it and don't remember it. yes - that tunnel must have an end. that is the only way to go. can that road be lonely though...i guess the worst might be behind me. i hope it is. i feel like a complete fool. anyway... Link to comment
lamarthe Posted June 20, 2011 Author Share Posted June 20, 2011 "Never settle to be someone's option, you should be their priority." great quote for all involved - tnx LP90 and mtom12 - hold in there! baby steps...although i am probably the last person to take advice from... Link to comment
lamarthe Posted June 21, 2011 Author Share Posted June 21, 2011 and he contacted me already...hasn't even been a week. I am totally exhausted by this... Link to comment
reidqa Posted June 21, 2011 Share Posted June 21, 2011 The moment my wife said "Hi", this was my clousure. That was 30 yrs ago. Link to comment
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