knotnonomore Posted June 19, 2011 Share Posted June 19, 2011 My ex and I are neighbors. We have tried being friends but intimacy usually is always involved until the past month or so.He has started talking to another girl. He says that they are just friends w/ benefits like he and I have been.I thought I could handle it,but I was kidding myself.So I am trying the NC thing and it is really making me crazy knowing that someone else has taken my place.I don't know how to handle this.Its breaking my heart!!!!Being neighbors makes things almost unbearable.ANY advice would be Appreciated. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dramallama Posted June 19, 2011 Share Posted June 19, 2011 My ex and I are neighbors. We have tried being friends but intimacy usually is always involved until the past month or so.He has started talking to another girl. He says that they are just friends w/ benefits like he and I have been.I thought I could handle it,but I was kidding myself.So I am trying the NC thing and it is really making me crazy knowing that someone else has taken my place.I don't know how to handle this.Its breaking my heart!!!!Being neighbors makes things almost unbearable.ANY advice would be Appreciated. Nothing much you can do but to stick with NC and stop giving him sex on a plate. Whether the new girl is FWB or they are dating, it really isn't any of your business now and you're doing yourself a favour by not knowing. Ignorance is bliss. Delete and block him from facebook too. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
knotnonomore Posted June 19, 2011 Author Share Posted June 19, 2011 Thanks for the quick reply.The only problem is that he says he still loves me and That I mean more to him than she does.I know this is giving me false hope that's why I decided to do do NC.What does FWB stand for btw?Thanks again. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
knotnonomore Posted June 19, 2011 Author Share Posted June 19, 2011 Oh...dub friends w / benefits...lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
knotnonomore Posted June 19, 2011 Author Share Posted June 19, 2011 I just broke down and called him right after posting this thread after a week of NC :sad: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dramallama Posted June 19, 2011 Share Posted June 19, 2011 Thanks for the quick reply.The only problem is that he says he still loves me and That I mean more to him than she does.I know this is giving me false hope that's why I decided to do do NC.What does FWB stand for btw?Thanks again. If he loved you and you really meant that much to him, he would be in a relationship with you. Friends with Benefits. If you stay in touch/have sex with him you will be giving him access to you without him needing to commit to you. Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free? What happened with the phone call? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jonben Posted June 19, 2011 Share Posted June 19, 2011 im going thru the exact same thing right now an drama llama is right an hes lieing when he says he still loves u im sorry to say we are both being used an i stoped it i know u can too Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
leebarley Posted June 19, 2011 Share Posted June 19, 2011 knotnonomore, i assume you are a woman? Well, FWB hardly work for most women for the fact that psychologically woman somehow unconsciously have that emotional bond when they are intimate, not just sex, period. and i second to dramallama, if he truly loves you, he will be in a relationship with you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
knotnonomore Posted June 20, 2011 Author Share Posted June 20, 2011 Thanks guys girls for the advice.Drama, I left a message and he didn't call back...I am really not surprised.I know that he is a jerk to put it mildly.I feel angry w/ myself for even seeking advice for such a cruel-hearted person.That's what makes me angry because I know I deserve better and I Let him give me false hope again.I am so disgusted w/ myself for even making him an issue in my life.I hope I'm making sense. I m sorry for anyone who is going through what I am. Sometimes I cry and want him to just hold me again and sometimes The thought of howhe has treated me makes me want to call him and tell him what a low-life he is!!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dramallama Posted June 21, 2011 Share Posted June 21, 2011 Thanks guys girls for the advice.Drama, I left a message and he didn't call back...I am really not surprised.I know that he is a jerk to put it mildly.I feel angry w/ myself for even seeking advice for such a cruel-hearted person.That's what makes me angry because I know I deserve better and I Let him give me false hope again.I am so disgusted w/ myself for even making him an issue in my life.I hope I'm making sense. I m sorry for anyone who is going through what I am. Sometimes I cry and want him to just hold me again and sometimes The thought of howhe has treated me makes me want to call him and tell him what a low-life he is!!!! My ex was a jerk and a coward too. I wanted to contact him to let him know him that. But I didn't and I'm glad. Keep a dignified silence. Don't even dignify HIS behaviour with a response. Behind anger there is pain and he will see through your anger and see your pain, plus you will still be giving him attention. Is he really worth any attention, even if that attention is negative? Plus, the opposite of love is not hate, but indifference. So just give him the cold shoulder, even if he contacts you. It will help a lot if you write in a journal every day, or whenever you feel like it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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