Meeting your boyfriend's friends

[ashley001]

So tonight my boyfriend's friend is having a barbeque and he's taking me along. I'm kinda sorta freaking out because this is the first time I'm meeting any of his friends/we're hanging out and it's just not the two of us. I'm just nervous because I don't want to be that girl who's just attached to the hip all night with him.

 

How do you guys suggest I act? Should I drink or no?

[Someday_Soon]

If everyone else is drinking, sure, it may take the edge off for you too. The first time you meet his friends just use that time to listen and get to know them. Act interested in others and ask them questions and they will return the favor most likely, giving you something to say.

[garibaldi1]

You don't need to be attached at the hip, but it's always a balance with these things, you don't need to go in and make a big impact either straight away so don't worry about that - you don't know his mates, it's perfectly fine to not be overly talkative or confident. I would say go with your boyfriend and not so much stick to him but let him introduce you to people and I'm sure things will naturally flow from there By a bit of the way in you'll have got talking to a few of them and you'll forget why you were worrying and by that point if your bf is talking to some of his mates you could talk to some others where theres a guy you've talked to earlier and some others etc. just depending on how confident you're feeling. Of course it's the classic, but your boyfriend likes you for who you are, so just try and be yourself, it's natural to be nervous!

 

And do you mean drink alcohol? If it was me it loosens me up a bit to have a few and then socially things feel a little more relaxed in a new situation...but each to their own

[garibaldi1]

and sorry of course you mean alcohol, tired here in the UK ha!

[ashley001]

Another thing, my boyfriend had kind of left it up to me whether or not I want to go. I feel like if he REALLY wanted me there he would have said, "Please, come with me tonight" or something like that. What do you guys make of that?

[garibaldi1]

Is it an all guys thing? and how long have you been together?

Maybe he wants to start including you in his life but at the same time wants to get to know you well so it's comfortable for the both of you together around other people.

[ashley001]

I'm not sure, it's a going away party. 2 months

[garibaldi1]

2 months, hmmm you'd think he'd want you to. I guess maybe as it's a going away party he'll want the focus to be on the person leaving. Depends how he left it with you tbh, could just not want to force you in to something you may be uncomfortable with and give you an option. Has he met your friends?

[banal]

Yeah, he's probably giving you an out in case you don't want to go.

 

Just go. Once you're there, try and make 'friends' with someone that you can talk to other than your boyfriend.