rterrain03 Posted June 17, 2011 Share Posted June 17, 2011 I went over my girlfriends house and she was taking a shower and I noticed she had a message page up on her computer and it was her telling one of her old "friends with benefits" (a guy)that she was going to come over in the morning "PROMISE". So that night I talked to her and asked her what her plans for the next day were and she told me she was going to a girl friends house to have coffee. She also wanted to try to go tanning which was by her coffee friends house. The next day she left and I left. I went to get parts for my truck by the guys house and I drove by and her vehicle was in the driveway, i stayed and she was there about a hour or so. i text her and called and she replied to the text and answered the phone. Later on I asked her how coffee was, she didn't have much to say, I asked her if she went tanning and she said she didn't have time to. so then i told her I saw her van on the other side of town at the guys house. she said she was only there 20 or 30 minutes and she was there talking to him cause he is a friend. What do you guys think ? Link to comment
stillstunned Posted June 17, 2011 Share Posted June 17, 2011 Wave bye bye Yep. She's that comfortable lying to you? See ya! Link to comment
He2Him Posted June 17, 2011 Share Posted June 17, 2011 she told me she was going to a girl friends house to have coffee. she was there talking to him cause he is a friend Whatever her need to lie and make cover up stories is, it's never nice. As nsomnia912 said, wave her goodbye and save yourself heartache. Link to comment
Moontiger Posted June 17, 2011 Share Posted June 17, 2011 Get out now. She has lied to you multiple times, you have no reason to trust her at this point. Link to comment
lavenderdove Posted June 17, 2011 Share Posted June 17, 2011 Cheater, caught red handed. She lied to you about where she was going and what she was doing. If it was innocent, she'd have no reason to lie. She's probably still in a FWB situation with him and still sleeping with him, stopping by his house for a morning shag. Sorry... Link to comment
rterrain03 Posted June 17, 2011 Author Share Posted June 17, 2011 are some girls just liars ? Does this mean I can't trust her anymore for good ? I talked to her about it because I wanted her to feel bad and tell me everything do girls ever do that type of thing ? Link to comment
rterrain03 Posted June 17, 2011 Author Share Posted June 17, 2011 "She's probably still in a FWB situation with him and still sleeping with him," What is FWB ? Friends with benefits Link to comment
rterrain03 Posted June 17, 2011 Author Share Posted June 17, 2011 How do i build up the courage to Break it off if she's always sweet to me, Link to comment
RedDress Posted June 17, 2011 Share Posted June 17, 2011 are some girls just liars ? Does this mean I can't trust her anymore for good ? Some people are just liars. Don't stick it on us girls - haha - some men are just as bad... At best she's lying. At worst she's cheating AND lying. I agree that it's just time to go. Why be with someone who can't even tell you the truth about basic stuff? If you stay, you'll end up with major trust issues towards ALL women (starting to rear it's ugly head in your follow-up post). We aren't all like this. The girl you are dating? SHE is like this. Link to comment
Moontiger Posted June 17, 2011 Share Posted June 17, 2011 How do i build up the courage to Break it o ff if she's always sweet to me, This can be very hard for anyone. I say it's best to do it ASAP and not drag things out. Talk to close grinds and family for support, plan out what you are going to say to her, and above all dont let her manipulate you. And, yes this does mean you cannot trust her at all. Link to comment
rterrain03 Posted June 17, 2011 Author Share Posted June 17, 2011 I think im afraid of being alone, and the time with someone means alot, so that makes it hard to push her away, do you guys think a trial seperation would do any good ? Link to comment
agent1607307371 Posted June 17, 2011 Share Posted June 17, 2011 Dude, you went by his house to check on her. You don't trust her, you won't trust her after this. End it now before you become a paranoid boyfriend (at best) or a paranoid boyfriend with a cheating girlfriend (at worst). Link to comment
stillstunned Posted June 17, 2011 Share Posted June 17, 2011 I think im afraid of being alone, and the time with someone means alot, so that makes it hard to push her away, do you guys think a trial seperation would do any good ? So you'd rather spend time with someone that lies to you and spends her mornings with someone she has sex with just for fun than be alone. This is what you're saying, right? Link to comment
HeartGoesOn Posted June 17, 2011 Share Posted June 17, 2011 I think im afraid of being alone, and the time with someone means alot, so that makes it hard to push her away, do you guys think a trial seperation would do any good ? It won't change the fact that she cheated on you. A "trial separation" would more than likely give her a chance to sample other goods. Link to comment
lastshot20 Posted June 17, 2011 Share Posted June 17, 2011 I suggest you pack up and leave buddy. She is going to do it again!!!!!!!!!! and Again! no matter how sweet you think she is. Link to comment
stuka80 Posted June 17, 2011 Share Posted June 17, 2011 ah yes, she she's sweet to you. whispers sweet nothing in your ear while she's giving the other guy a reach around. Link to comment
kourtney01 Posted June 20, 2011 Share Posted June 20, 2011 Awful. She's playing you like a violin and blatantly lying to your face. Why did you not bring up the email that you saw on her computer? that was your proof right there despite any excuse she gives you. Link to comment
possibilty Posted June 20, 2011 Share Posted June 20, 2011 The shock will have you reeling and sadly you want to keep her so badly you will buy into anything she has to say. I speak from experience. Let her go and beware the feelings attached. Keep picturing her doing the unthinkable it helps. Link to comment
tresqua Posted June 20, 2011 Share Posted June 20, 2011 are some girls just liars ? Does this mean I can't trust her anymore for good ? I talked to her about it because I wanted her to feel bad and tell me everything do girls ever do that type of thing ? Everybody lies. You can't trust her because she's sleeping with an ex and lying to you about it. However I don't think it's about honesty or lack thereof. I mean, would it have been better if she was honest and told you she was having sex with him? Link to comment
f1r3f1y3 Posted June 21, 2011 Share Posted June 21, 2011 Sorry this happened to you. How did you go to sleep that night without talking to her about it! I could never do that. My only advice is to have a plan of how you're going to handle the breakup before you do it. Breakups are never easy. She may throw everything at you to try and salvage the relationship, or she may throw everything at you to try and inflict pain. You'll need to stick to your guns throughout. It's time to man up, tell this girl how it's going to end, and move on. Link to comment
cntrybmkn Posted June 24, 2011 Share Posted June 24, 2011 You're afraid of being alone? You should be afraid off being lied to and cheated-on. MAN-UP son. Link to comment
.thumb.jpg.78735a344a3340a866dda54f465baebb.jpg)
Recommended Posts
Archived
This topic is now archived and is closed to further replies.