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[Pny]

Feeling so down this morning. Feel like he took away my ability to live a happy life. I'm so devastated. Today. He said he has someone else. And I'm glad that I haven't seen it in my face. But I'm just so hurt. So hurt. My heart is breaking. I broke nc yesterday. And he jus Stepped on me. Wiped his a** with my feelings. I feel like I can't function. Tells me that he never wants to see me again. Never wants to talk to me again. 6 years. And just threw me away. Like trash. I was doing ok. With nc. 8 days had gone by. Why did I do that to myself. What do I do now. I jus don't wanna feel like this. I don't want my love for him to control me anymore. I just. Want it to go away.

[mouseno4]

Continue your NC and get back to your life. Find something you enjoy and focus on it. Go to work and do your best at it.

[Pny]

I'm trying. I am. My heart is done

[irishgerry]

Its normal to feel this way. I have seen friends who got divorced after 10 years and never thought they would find someone else and they just worked on themselves to be happy and before they knew it they met someone else. Just go NC, have plans for the week to make sure you are not alone, focus on work, get to the gym, go to bars/clubs, you dont have to drink if it will make you depressed but just make sure you get out more, trust me!

[nsomnia912]

I feel for your pain...it will be ok...I see that after 8 years your heart is still attached for this person, sadly his is not anymore....

 

It's so hard to accept that. No one is bound by permanence, people change, no one belongs to anyone. And we all mist do what is best for us...its the harsh truth of life, but its a reality that cannot be controlled...

 

It will become easier as time passes to accept and understand that life has a different path for you, be open to it.

 

In the end you will come to appreciate the blessing, even though your hurting and fragile, your mind is weak, ego is destroyed and self esteem is low...

You are changing. Rebuild and reinvent yourself...no better time then the present..

 

Stay strong...be grace under fire.

 

A big hug for you.

[Calvin68]

Everyone feels this way after they have been broken up with. Almost everyone manages to get through it and forgets the pain eventually. Don't let yourself be one of those people that is still pining over someone for the rest of your life. Six years is a long time. But better you know that it's not going to work today, then a year from now, right? You will get through this.

[VictorVic]

As bad as it is the fact that he has moved on and was a * * * * about it means you have complete closure and now know you have to move on. You can do much better. Nobody should be treated like that after many years. You must work on yourself and forget him. Even if he was to try and take you back why would you take him back?

[Pny]

Thank you guys. It's jus so humiliating. And honestly. I jus don't want to mope anymore. I do want to work on me. I do. Time can be an ugly enemy because that's all I have now. And everyday I jus watch the clock ticking. Jus wanna feel good about myself again. Jus want peace of mind. Wanna move on. Wanna forget him. Don't want to love him anymore. He has disgraced me. Trashed my name. Omg. Called me a stalker. I'm in no ones bushes. Really. I jus want to move into a new place. So that I can have something of my own. And nothing we shared together.

[nsomnia912]

Make a list each day 10-20 things that are good qualities about yourself, things that are strengths...nothing negative...each day write it again, rebuild yourself starting with the best things about you....exercise, read, tea, no tv. Walk, try to smile just because you deserve to smile. eat healthy,

People constantly say time heals all wounds....but going further, its what you do with that time that's important, grieve,vent,hate, all are ok as long as at the end you can let it go, understanding and acceptance, all youll find peace.

[Pny]

Thanks reeally. Thanks