charlieyost Posted June 16, 2011 Posted June 16, 2011 So I got dumped 1 month ago. Did the begging and pleading. Got rejected. So I went into No Contact. But we do talk because of work through email only. I found out that I have been showing passive aggressive behavior towards my partner during our relationship, I think she left me because of that. So I broke NC and emailed her, explaining that I know what my problem is and that I accept and understand why she left me. So I did not replied to her last email of Have a good Tuesday!. And she whatsapped me today, "Just dropping a msg, have a wonderful day! ( I replied hey thanks you too! 2hours later. She wants to be friends and I just want to be polite. So she replies me telling me that her friends are meeting for dinner tmr night, and asked if I wanna go. I don't think she making moves to ask me back or anything. I am just wondering why. Her friends do not know that we broke up. I spoke to one of them a few days ago.
mouseno4 Posted June 16, 2011 Posted June 16, 2011 If i had to take a guess, she is single and needs to appear NON-single to her friends. You are first on the speed dial.
charlieyost Posted June 16, 2011 Author Posted June 16, 2011 Update: our conversation her: hey friends wanna have dinner tmr. do u wanna go me: do they know we broke up? wouldn't it be awkward? her: no they dont but they ask u me: i am sorry but i cant help wondering what i am there for? especially when they are not aware about us.. i hope u wont think i am rude when i ask that. i just dont understand.. her: cos they asked u.... me: but why didnt u tell them we broke up? her: cos i dont know if ure comfortable with that me: but they are ur friends.. u can tell them if u want to. it is okay with me. her: ok... she leaves me confused. even her friend i spoke too, doesnt understand her intentions.
dramallama Posted June 17, 2011 Posted June 17, 2011 Why are you in contact with her? Cut all contact (including facebook) and do not even get into petty discussions about going to dinner with her. Let her live with the consequence of dumping you - you are not a Rent a Date.
dramallama Posted June 17, 2011 Posted June 17, 2011 What if she wants to get back? Hopefully she will be as clear as day about it as not to waste anymore of the dumpee's time.
charlieyost Posted June 17, 2011 Author Posted June 17, 2011 i doubt she wants to get back with me. our emails earlier this week. were nothing about getting back. she hopes i'll be more forgiving to my next partner. i am trying to move on i think. no contact is really good. but cant help but wonder sometimes, what were her intentions for asking. maybe she thinks i will be okay attending dinner. but what am i to do? be there and pretend that we are okay? i realised she did not exactly reply to my questions. just keep saying because her friends asked me along.
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