We've never talked about our feelings...

[hp654321]

So I've been dating this really great guy for the past three months and I am head over heels for him. We have a great time whenever we are together, even though often that time is simply us lying around and talking and laughing. While we've never had the "exclusive talk", I'm assuming by now he thinks of me as his girlfriend. Or at least I hope... We see each other at least a few times a week and spend the night together every time. The problem is, while he is extremely adoring whenever we are together and we are constantly kissing and cuddling, we have never once verbalized our feelings for each other, and it makes me insecure about how he really feels. While we are extremely comfortable with each other and can discuss reasonably serious topics, but when it comes to talking about our relationship, it feels like a taboo topic.

 

I don't know if he is scared to say how he feels? For instance, the other night he was supposed to come over but got stuck at work quite late so I texted him that I didn't want him to feel obligated to come over if he was really tired. He said he would come and when he got there he was like, "well you're on the way home anyway and I haven't seen you in a few days." I used to opportunity to tell him I had missed him during those few days but he didn't say anything about missing me back as I had hoped. It seems like he's always saying stuff like you're house is on the way rather than just saying he WANTS to see me, as if he needs to make an excuse of why he's coming by to see me. I mean, he wasn't even feeling well that night and still came anyway. To me I think that shows he really wanted to see me.

 

I don't know if we're both too scared to break out of our comfort zones? Which is funny cause he isn't shy at all and I'm usually not. Like in 3 months of dating we have never called each other... just texting. I'm nervous to call at this point just because we never have before and maybe he is thinking the same thing too? We also f*** like bunnies but have never really talked about the fact that we are or talked about what we like/dislike in bed and stick to the same two positions. I'd like to branch out but I don't want to be the one to initiate. He's also never even told me he is attracted to me (even though he certainly acts like it).

 

I don't know if I'm making too much out of this since when we're together I certainly feel very cared for. However when I'm not with him I get insecure about what he is really feeling and scared he might leave at any minute because of past experiences I've had. I just want to know how he feels about me and want to know if he thinks of me as his gf, etc. Plus I want to tell him how crazy I am about him (though I certainly show him by my actions), but I am scared to be the one to initiate it. Has anyone ever found themselves in a situation like this before?

[mouseno4]

I take it you NEED to hear the words...

 

And what is sooo wrong with initiating? Initiating can be really sexy in a girl.

[HeartGoesOn]

To each their own, but I could never sleep with someone whom I couldn't talk to about feelings, or have a fear about asking where we stand.

[mouseno4]

I wish girls these days would grow a back bone and tell their guys what the hell they want instead of waiting for them to do it first.