SuziQ1980 Posted June 16, 2011 Share Posted June 16, 2011 So, some of you folks may have read my post from yesterday about the disappearing boyfriend saga. He resurfaced this morning with an apologetic text to which he got a most icy reply. He claimed that since he got into an accident with a state vehicle while off duty, IA came to his house to investigate on Sunday, and so he didn't go to the game either. He was apparently too embarrassed to call and tell me. I'm abridging a bit here, but his story was that he overextended buying the tickets and since his divorce, money has been very tight. He makes as much as I do, and though we both do well, bills do add up and he was too proud to tell me. He said he would do whatever I wanted him to do to prove he was not with anyone else and really does love me. I told him I want to see his place, see the accident report and have proof his mother really is in the hospital. Which he said he would do.....I asked him for his address, and he wld not give it to me, ostensibly b/c he does not want me to see his crappy apartment (I own a big house - so he is apparently embarrassed).....he said he had to clean and would give it to me by 3. Sure enough 3pm rolls around and he's not able to get it clean....my response "shocker"....and then pretty much silence. I spoke to him earlier in the day, and he was in real tears over the thought of losing me (allegedly).....and I did the research, he IS divorced....so what is this new twist all about? It's become amusing at this point....any thoughts? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mouseno4 Posted June 16, 2011 Share Posted June 16, 2011 Yes it is amusing how little you trust anyone. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rosephase Posted June 16, 2011 Share Posted June 16, 2011 I read your last post to, and...Wow. Do you really think there is an explanation for all of this that isn't the fact that he's in a relationship already? It seems unlikely. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SuziQ1980 Posted June 16, 2011 Author Share Posted June 16, 2011 Mouse - you actually think he is telling the truth??? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SuziQ1980 Posted June 16, 2011 Author Share Posted June 16, 2011 Rose - nope not really....I'd give the "I'm embarrassed bc you're 30 and I'm in my 40s and look at the differences in our lives" embarrassment story about a 20% chance of having any validity....something smells quite fishy.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ToF Posted June 16, 2011 Share Posted June 16, 2011 So then ... Why haven't you dropped this guy yet, if you think he's being flakey and dishonest? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SuziQ1980 Posted June 16, 2011 Author Share Posted June 16, 2011 Oh I have....though he may not yet realize it yet.... I'm just having a cruel little laugh now. I am a trial lawyer, former prosecutor....how does he actually expect me to believe this tripe? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
annie24 Posted June 16, 2011 Share Posted June 16, 2011 you're better off without him. this guy is shady, you know that. he seems to have a lot of excuses. i do think there is another woman in the picture, somewhere. i'd tell him you're done for good, wish him a good life, and get the heck out of there!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SuziQ1980 Posted June 16, 2011 Author Share Posted June 16, 2011 I don't think I'll even give him that courtesy. After all, turnabout is fair play. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
annie24 Posted June 16, 2011 Share Posted June 16, 2011 the plus side is that you didn't waste too much time on this guy. i also dated a guy who had some very interesting 'stories' after a few weeks of dating. when i pushed him for some answers, he disappeared. i later found out he was married (but his wife lived in another country, he was just here for a few years working). when things aren't adding up, there's a good reason for it. stay strong!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SuziQ1980 Posted June 16, 2011 Author Share Posted June 16, 2011 Yep...I just don't get how guys can really think we are dumb enough to believe the lies....I mean really! Come ON! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
annie24 Posted June 16, 2011 Share Posted June 16, 2011 his mistake for dating intelligent women! if i had to guess, i think he's involved with another woman, and i think she might be like you, intelligent with a busy career. i suspect she might be a hospital resident or nurse, and she might work odd hours or be on call. or she has some kind of other profession with wacky, unpredictable hours. maybe he thought he would be free on sunday, but then her job said she didn't have to come in?? and 'not having a clean house?' pfff. you're not expecting a guy's home to look like martha stewart's right?? what a liar. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SuziQ1980 Posted June 16, 2011 Author Share Posted June 16, 2011 I dunno, maybe a nurse or another cop....who knows and who cares? I was surprised at the tears though. Maybe there isn't anyone else and he's just a nut? Hopefully not the stalker type of nut tho.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
annie24 Posted June 16, 2011 Share Posted June 16, 2011 i hope he is not a stalker either. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
annie24 Posted June 16, 2011 Share Posted June 16, 2011 i don't think it's another cop, otherwise he wouldn't have taken you to the funeral. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dramallama Posted June 16, 2011 Share Posted June 16, 2011 So this guy went AWOL on you, but his embarrassment of being in an accident was more important than your piece of mind? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SuziQ1980 Posted June 16, 2011 Author Share Posted June 16, 2011 Annie - Good point. Definitely not another cop. I met all his friends at the funeral anyway. Llama - I think it was the IA investigation for him using a state vehicle for personal use and then getting into an accident with it that he was embarrassed about....and his being broke and needing to use it in the first place. I'd love to be able to give him the benefit of the doubt, but that just isn't going to happen. Not unless I get a call from his Captain! Lol! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HeartGoesOn Posted June 16, 2011 Share Posted June 16, 2011 As they say, "If it looks like a duck, quacks like a duck"........... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sadchick83 Posted June 16, 2011 Share Posted June 16, 2011 Or he's just a quack! This guy frightens me....and the fact that he is a police officer and a big time liar is really unsettling. Keep us updated! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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