its 2011 what attracts women now?

[mouseno4]

And i thought my standards were high ROFL!

[Teaday]

There's quality people everywhere you look, rich or poor, bar or not. People just have to open their minds so they can see.

[He2Him]

LoL. Op, your perception of reality is kinda funny. ''Realize that fish you catch depends on the bait you use.''

[He2Him]

There's quality people everywhere you look, rich or poor, bar or not. People just have to open their minds so they can see.

 

This is true. Because whatever you focus on in your life, will GROW in your reality. Focus on bad stuff, and you'll only see bad stuff.

[ProtestTheHero]

You don't need money, looks, status, or game -- just be yourself.

 

I almost got through that without laughing.

[TakingtheBlame]

lets agree to disagree. I see my parents generation and mine, mine is way less shallow when it comes to money. In the past, many women married only because of money, so they have someone to pay for them. Now women make their own, lots of women even make more than their husbands. That could rarely be the case before.

 

Absolutely, 100% agree. I think the difference is that, in our parents' generation (or at least our grandparents',) it was EXPECTED that the man financially support the woman he dated and ultimately married, because men were EXPECTED to be the breadwinner of the family, while women were EXPECTED to stay at home, cook, clean, and raise the children. It was less acceptable back then for a woman to work outside the home, if not impossible. Women did not have to SPECIFY that a man be stable financially or support the woman because it was just the way things were. My mother left her parents' home at 19 to marry my father, who worked to support us while she stayed home and raised us; when I asked her why she did this, she always said "That was just the way things were done, and the way I was raised; you married early and started a family." I think, now, with the whole women's lib movement and the many options available to women, women are just more vocal about what they want. I'd imagine this is due to our generation having been raised by mothers and fathers in traditional gender roles but now living out the "new," evolving gender roles, and being confused about what still flies and what is no longer acceptable.

[TakingtheBlame]

Hate to break it to girls and guys, but both women and men can be just as shallow as each other.

 

This is where the stereotypes come from.

 

Women only want personal trainers, with massive penises, endless credit card limits and expensive cars.

 

Men only want fashion models, with big breasts, skyscraper legs, looks good 24/7 and wants sex for the same amount of time.

 

Disagree. I've never asked anything more of a man than I, myself, have achieved. I'm attractive, fit, independent, educated, professional, and I've worked (and continue to work) incredibly hard to achieve that. I didn't just pop out of my mom this way! Why should I accept any less in a man?

[jas56]

Disagree. I've never asked anything more of a man than I, myself, have achieved. I'm attractive, fit, independent, educated, professional, and I've worked (and continue to work) incredibly hard to achieve that. I didn't just pop out of my mom this way! Why should I accept any less in a man?

 

Can't be mad at that at all takingtheblame, good point.

 

Honestly, it's hard enough as it is and if you are working hard to make something good out of your life but dating someone who is doing the exact opposite, then it's not a good look. That can go both ways in different situations. You might not match in everything but if you both are trying to succeed and see the importance in that then why not find a person who can understand your goals while having the same need to achieve for themselves?

[Teaday]

That's if you equate success to a paycheck. That usually seems to be the consensus, but I would rather be with someone who has a job that promotes their happiness and the well-being of others.

 

It doesn't have to be based on any monetary value. In fact, I know many hard-working, goal-oriented people who are trying to "make something of their lives" yet are willing to receive a smaller paycheck. It's just a different life than others; one often filled with more contentment.

 

This isn't to say I wouldn't date a rich guy just because he has money. It just isn't an important criteria to me.

[TakingtheBlame]

That's if you equate success to a paycheck. That usually seems to be the consensus, but I would rather be with someone who has a job that promotes their happiness and the well-being of others.

 

It doesn't have to be based on any monetary value. In fact, I know many hard-working, goal-oriented people who are trying to "make something of their lives" yet are willing to receive a smaller paycheck. It's just a different life than others; one often filled with more contentment.

 

This isn't to say I wouldn't date a rich guy just because he has money. It just isn't an important criteria to me.

 

I'm down with a guy pursuing a passion without getting rich off of it, but I've never met a guy who was doing something productive with his life and not living comfortably at least. Not at my age, anyway. A man being rich is not attractive to me per se, but he better be pursuing something and he better be able to make a stable living somehow. Not to be harsh or shallow, but I need a partner who I can trust to carry some of the burden if my livelihood suffers in the future, and I'd gladly return the favor. If the guy has passion but can't pay the bills, and I get laid off one day, or become irreparably injured, who's going to feed the family?

[jonny15]

I never said that, and from my experience, never would. a medium size matched with good hands and lips is fine enough. thing is, I like long love-making sessions (2-3 hours minimum), and that takes some stamina to endure... other variables count for the quality of the act, and they vary day by day, person by person.

 

 

2 to 3 hours?

 

Are you serious?

 

Wouldn't that make you sore? I know my junk would be.

 

And what is medium size? Probably above average. LOL

[Teaday]

I'm down with a guy pursuing a passion without getting rich off of it, but I've never met a guy who was doing something productive with his life and not living comfortably at least. Not at my age, anyway. A man being rich is not attractive to me per se, but he better be pursuing something and he better be able to make a stable living somehow. Not to be harsh or shallow, but I need a partner who I can trust to carry some of the burden if my livelihood suffers in the future, and I'd gladly return the favor. If the guy has passion but can't pay the bills, and I get laid off one day, or become irreparably injured, who's going to feed the family?

 

Definitely some good things to consider! I guess I'm still within the age range where supporting a family and other obligations are a distant consideration. Everyone's got their own sense of balance

[Stay_home]

I see a lot of women on here raising up and saying things like, "well that ain't me, I do it this way or I do it that way." I commend you all for being different, but we're not speaking in terms of all women. But certainly most women out there are digging for gold. You're getting this perspective from many members in this thread who have been there and done that with those kind of women. The few of you ladies that are raising up, are an exception to that.

[FathomFear]

it makes me sick that i have to go out and change my looks and everything about me, waste money on expensive clothes, shoes, hats, jackets, thats it, right?

 

If it's any consolation women have been doing those same things for ages.

[italiannmf24]

How old are you exactly?

[25something]

And that is your problem, picking up the ladies at the bars/clubs? People tell me that all the time, "to change the environment", and yes sir it is true, although I can relate to your dilemma it is hard to find quality people nowadays, but its even worst when you choose these people at the bars and clubs. I can almost guarantee you alot of chicks at the clubs are looking for the hottest guy and those idiots who will buy her & their gfs free drinks. Who doesn't want a free cocktail from a guy who you don't have to screw?

[onlineguy]

I cant comment on the looks side as I have observed that women are as equally looks orientated as men and go for looks above personality. So on that not, its similar to an job interview. A suit does not get you the job but shows that you have made the effort and can take care of yourself.

 

Equally, I have observed with women (Unless a gold digger). That its not about material wealth but more about a guy that can take care of himself. A guy who works, has a home, car and looks after his appearance is a guy who has his act together. Now if you look at it from a woman's point of view. Which is a more attractive dating prospect. A guy who has got his life in order, can take care of himself (In that read can take care of girl and kids) or a guy out of work, no money, no home and cant take care of himself. ( In that read cant take care of me or kids).

 

So demonstrating your materially sound, whilst not a specific sort after trate is still a positive trate, the more positive trate's you show the more attractive you are..... Pea cocking !

[onlineguy]

He is searching for a diamond in a compost heap.

 

What a line....lol