yelwed Posted June 15, 2011 Share Posted June 15, 2011 I've posted on here before about my problem but there has been some development. Last weekend my ex told me he missed me so I thought it was a green light he wanted to get back together so I went and saw him. We spent the day together which was nice. He rang me the next day to let me know he just wants something casual as we have been apart for a while (6 months). He then got angry with me and told me that is all he could give. He then rang me 2 days later for chat and then he rang me a couple if days ago to see what I was upto. Yesterday I sent a text msg in the morning saying "I miss you!". 12 hours later he responded with "yes I feel the same". I want to send a msg now saying "if I miss you and you miss me, can't we give this another go?". Am I pushing him away if I say this or am I better off saying nothing? I just want to know. I feel if I send this and he comes back with that it is not what he wants, I know I can move on then. Look forward to any advice. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sadchick83 Posted June 15, 2011 Share Posted June 15, 2011 Missing you and getting back together are two different things. Let him chase you and don't settle for less than you had when you were bf & gf. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chitown9 Posted June 15, 2011 Share Posted June 15, 2011 I totally agree with SadChick. You need to go NC and stay NC. If he contacts you again you need to tell him you only want to hear from him if he wants to reconcile with you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HeartGoesOn Posted June 15, 2011 Share Posted June 15, 2011 He's already told you that he "just wants something casual, and that's all he can give." I would retain my dignity, and put an end to chasing a dead horse. Do you really want to be with someone whom you feel the need to chase, in order to be together? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sadchick83 Posted June 15, 2011 Share Posted June 15, 2011 Thanks chitown. My ex said he missed me all the time, he even "went through the motions" of getting back together, but never actually sealed the deal. Ive been on this site long enough to know "I miss you" means just that. My ex and I spent lazy nights in bed, eating Chinese food, watching movies post break-up, spent Christmas and NYE together, but he wanted the best of both worlds: me when he felt like it, and single life the rest of the time. My advise: just disappear. He knows where to find you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
offplanet Posted June 15, 2011 Share Posted June 15, 2011 If you think it will give you closure you could send one last text. He definitely is finshed with you though, as he has said clearly that he only wants casual. Hearing it again from him might seal it for you. So do that if you want to. All the best. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ToF Posted June 15, 2011 Share Posted June 15, 2011 It sounds like this isn't going in the direction that you want it to. He wants to be single, but he wants you waiting by the phone whenever he starts to feel lonely. Unfortunately, that has nothing to do with loving you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
yelwed Posted June 15, 2011 Author Share Posted June 15, 2011 Thank you for all your advice. I have chosen not to send anything. If he wanted me, he would let me know I guess which he hasn't so time to move on. I fell like telling him that I am but I think it is best to have no contact at all. It is going to take all my will to do so, but will try my hardest. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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