Found an interesting post

[NCforME]

I found this on another forum I while was searching around and thought it was interesting:

 

 

I dumped him, now he changed for the better!

Hi,

 

I dumped my longterm LDR of 2 years back in August. Things needed to end: we were in two different places (he liked to smoke a lot of weed, play video games, etc) and I wasn't even that sexually attracted to him anymore because he didn't take care of himself.

 

2 months after we broke up, he had a steady hook up. This upset me. Now he's super serious with her - they went on vacation together. He and I met up and he told me that he's stopped smoking, has two jobs for the summer, and is taking better care of himself. EDITED to say that when we met up two months ago he wanted to know if I had been hooking up with anyone and that he hoped it had been recent because that would have been wrong if I had hooked up with someone right away.

 

WHY DID HE WAIT UNTIL AFTER OUR BREAKUP TO DO EVERYTHING THAT I HAD BEEN BEGGING HIM TO DO?! It's so confusing! I feel like he's rubbing it in my face. And his new girlfriend is an ugly version of me. It's very confusing.

 

I was doing so well thinking that I had made the right choice, but now I'm just confused. He has improved himself, has a new girl, and now I feel like the one who has been dumped. I feel very jealous, insecure, and lonely.

 

Can someone please help me out as to why I'm feeling this way?

[tresqua]

You find it interesting because you were dumped, you feel somewhat bitter, and that post is sort of like "Dumpee's revenge"?

 

It's not at all uncommon for the person who was originally dumped to move on faster and more easily than the dumper, who finds themselves deeply regretting their decision and trying to get back in.

[NCforME]

You find it interesting because you were dumped, you feel somewhat bitter, and that post is sort of like "Dumpee's revenge"?

 

It's not at all uncommon for the person who was originally dumped to move on faster and more easily than the dumper, who finds themselves deeply regretting their decision and trying to get back in.

 

 

ummmmm..... Wasn't really looking at it from a "revenge" aspect but more because it shows people on here that if you change yourself for the better, attraction can comeback. The fact that the guy found another girl is academic. In other words its a motivational story to work on yourself. You'll either find a new girl/guy or you will be in position to get your ex back. Its just a story from the horses mouth so to speak. Not sure why it had anything to do with being bitter.

[tresqua]

ummmmm..... Wasn't really looking at it from a "revenge" aspect but more because it shows people on here that if you change yourself for the better, attraction can comeback. The fact that the guy found another girl is academic. In other words its a motivational story to work on yourself. You'll either find a new girl/guy or you will be in position to get your ex back. Its just a story from the horses mouth so to speak. Not sure why it had anything to do with being bitter.

 

Well maybe that wasn't your intention, but to me it seems to be a story not so much about a dumpee moving on and being successful, but more like a dumper who got a taste of his own karma.

[NCforME]

But the dumpee did move on and was successful. He found happiness. It shows people here who are on Getting back together forum this is the how you do it. You move on and better yourself. The point is she wanted him back. I'm sure she'll get over it quicker as she probably was just in a bit of shock to see the change.

[vivia12]

I really like stories like this,the dumpee didnt let his exes pettyness get to him and got it together for Himself,kudos.