Should I pick A or B?

[mameshibi]

- So I have this childhood friend. For this story, let's call them "A". I have known A since I was, like, 10 years old. And they were 12, at the time. (We have a two year difference.) Years go by. I'm 23 years old (and A is 25) now.

 

- Granted, we stopped talking to each other very often within the last year, but we still stayed in touch. But then, just a few weeks ago (the end of this May), A comes out with their feelings for me, saying they've liked me for several years. A little scared of what she'd do if I said no, I responded positively to her confession. (she always has been a very emotional person.) After that, we've had this long distance relationship going on.

 

- But then there's this more-recent friend of mine. (We're gonna call this other person, "B".) I've known B for only 2 years. But after me and A have begun to drift apart (and before A's confession), I was really close to B. We had great talks with each other. We like drawing and all the same things. I can say we clicked. (Not trying to make her look like bad person, at all, but me and A kinda have started to like different things, recently.)

 

- Like. Two days ago, B has told me she's liked me for a few months now. She thinks maybe she can "crush the 'crush'" if she got this off her chest after finding out I have a girlfriend now. To be honest, the idea of B "moving on" has upset me more than A's confession did.

- Sometimes, I feel like i have to watch what I say around A. She's not a bad person,or anything. Just a little sensitive, is all. Which I still love her for, regardless. In fact, I want A in my life. Always. My first friend and someone who knew me the longest. But with B, I can be myself without having to worry about 'censoring' myself.

 

TL;DR - I am dating A. B confesses to me, after finding out. It tears me apart. Have I made a big mistake? Should I still stay with A, and am just overwhelmed with guilt that will go away soon? I don't want to hurt anyone.... I really don't. I feel like if I run off after B, I'll be playing with A's feelings and she does not deserve that.

 

I don't mean to be so wishy-washy. I guess I made my bed and now need to lie in it, right?

I might need a 3rd party opinion on this... Thanks if you took the time to read this.

[He2Him]

None. Obviously you're indecisive and can't make your own decisions. Can you imagine what pain it is to be in a relationship with someone like you? Do those guys a favor and reject them both, then look into a mirror make something better out of yourself.

[Snny]

Like. Two days ago, B has told me she's liked me for a few months now. She thinks maybe she can "crush the 'crush'" if she got this off her chest after finding out I have a girlfriend now. To be honest, the idea of B "moving on" has upset me more than A's confession did.

Neither. Your heart isn't with your current partner, "A" and "B" isn't being respectful friend by going the home wrecker route. Wow really.. she keeps telling you for a few months that she wants more than a friendship? I'd cut a person like that out of my friends circle for some self respect and courtesy toward my current partner. Wish I could advise you to tell "B" that the train has left the station... but it doesn't sound like you are 100% devoted to "A." Who's being fair here?

 

Some things are better left unsaid when it comes to discussing someone else's affair. "B" has no business in it and is purposely stirring drama.