Help!

[Lonely318]

I'm 24 and have NEVER had a boyfriend....with that being said I've never been kissed or had sex! I'm talking to a guy I met online and we have a lot in common and I really like him...he's two hours away and I'm going to meet him for the first time in 3 weeks after two months of talking...he knows I'm still a virgin and I plan on going all the way with him but what exactly am I doing wrong to be such a late bloomer??? I'm attractive buy def on the shy side but extroverted once you get to know me...I just don't want to be 50 and never married! I want to start a family but can't do that if I'm single forever!

[jumper11]

First off, I wouldn't be so sure of 'going all the way' and thinking like that.. don't feel you have to 'make up' for anything... Be careful of his motives.

[CatsMeeoow]

Being so greedy to get the ball rolling on your personal life can certainly have some long term devastating effects for you.

 

I knew a girl who was a virgin at that age. Funny, pretty, and definitely waiting for the right guy... and she found her prince charming... and recently married him and had a baby. She's a pretty special girl and this guy knows it!

 

Why wait 24yrs just to give up to some guy you almost know for 2 months. Have sex for the right reason... not to just get the deed done.

 

Hugs!

[FathomFear]

I'm 24 and have NEVER had a boyfriend....with that being said I've never been kissed or had sex! I'm talking to a guy I met online and we have a lot in common and I really like him...he's two hours away and I'm going to meet him for the first time in 3 weeks after two months of talking.

 

I would not advice going directly to his place. You really should meet him in a public/open place so you can evaluate what you're getting yourself into.

[TakingtheBlame]

I'm 24 and have NEVER had a boyfriend....with that being said I've never been kissed or had sex! I'm talking to a guy I met online and we have a lot in common and I really like him...he's two hours away and I'm going to meet him for the first time in 3 weeks after two months of talking...he knows I'm still a virgin and I plan on going all the way with him but what exactly am I doing wrong to be such a late bloomer??? I'm attractive buy def on the shy side but extroverted once you get to know me...I just don't want to be 50 and never married! I want to start a family but can't do that if I'm single forever!

 

Please don't "go all the way" just because you think it's time you lost your virginity! I waited til I was 24 as well because I wanted to be with the right person and I do not regret that I waited. Losing your virginity to the wrong person (someone you don't love or at least feel comfortable with) can be a pretty crappy experience. Please be careful about going to meet a stranger and putting yourself in this vulnerable position (and yes, he's a stranger, you don't know who he is or whether the things he tells you about himself are true.) What if he hurts you or even violates you sexually without your consent...you don't want to live with that memory! I urge you to consider aiming for meeting a nice guy to date before you consider traveling two hours just to lose your virginity to some online dude. It will be much more rewarding that way!

[HeartGoesOn]

Keep in mind that even though you've been talking for two months, you haven't yet met in person, and he's still a stranger. Also, having conversations regarding sex, before meeting in person may be spelling out what his true intentions are.

 

I agree with "FF" as far as meeting in a public place.

[flaminghair81]

Ok, there is absolutely NOTHING wrong with never having a bf, being kissed or having sex at 24. Don't jump into it because you feel that you have to. Follow you heart with it and not what you "think" someone your age should be doing. I know this from experience!!

 

I was 24 when I had my first kiss and first had sex...and though I don't regret it because I honestly believe that every situation in life makes you who you are, but I do have times where I wish that I would have handled it better. I also felt like I was behind and I needed to jump head first to catch up. My first kiss lacked any type of romance, and the first time we had sex was pretty unmemorable other than the fact it was really disappointing. I put up with the guy for 3 months with him mooching off of me because I felt like that I had to be in a relationship because I was 24. After I ended it, I went 5 years without being with anyone. Did the online thing off and on, but nothing ever panned out to any dates. Then I had the "I'm going to be 30 soon and single forever" feeling and had a few one night stands with guys that were below my standards. Again, extremely disappointing evenings. I desperately wanted to have that special someone in my life, but I did not need to settle just where I was not alone anymore.

 

When I finally gave up trying so hard and counting myself out, I met my current boyfriend. We met online after he responded to a very * * * * * y rant that I put on craigslist about being jerked around by guys in the online world of dating, had 5 days of emails, chats and texts and then we met in person. Yes, I broke the cardinal rule and I went to his place where he cooked me dinner, and I made the conscious decision not listen to my head, but to listen to my heart to see where it would take me. I fell head over heals for this guy in the first five minutes of being around him. Our first kiss that night...the memory of it still gives me butterflies in my stomach!! Our second date, again at his house with him cooking for me, I stayed the night. The sex was absolutely amazing!!

 

It's been almost 6 months and there is not a day that I regret jumping into things with him. So, quit letting your head convince you that anything is wrong and listen to your heart. Corny, yes, but it has really worked out for me.