diaper fetish?? What to do...

[abitbroken]

tiredofvampires brings up some good points, but I disagree that "waiting" for sex means no talk about it. In fact - critical talks about what they each think about related matters, such as if they will try to avoid pregnancy for awhile and in what way they are both comfortable with, etc. I know this might not be totally related, but its not like most people don't talk about sex at all. In fact, the eye is towards making the first experience wonderful, and being emotionally intimate about eachother's thoughts and fears are not exclusive of that. If you want to play it safe, I would possibly start focusing on her breasts during sex and see how she likes it sometimes and eventually broach the subject of suckling, and also, it is not uncommon for couples to use massage oil. It is up to you to decide if these two things will satisfy you as things are a give and take and about compromise or its an all or nothing situation.

 

I also agree with greywolf- talking about the fetish versus saying "i want you to do this now" is better. But I still think I would try to introduce the small parts of it and see if it satisfies you. Part of a marriage/partnership is also respecting what the other person likes and is turned on by, too.

[abitbroken]

Honestly, this sounds like a complete nightmare for your partner if she is not into your fetish. So, after working hard all week, her reward is to come home and attend your every need all weekend long? While you loll around, sucking on a pacifier and pooping your pants? I think you need to take a step back from your completely self-centered fantasy and try and re-think this in a way that *might* be the least bit fun & satisfying for her.

 

Good point. Also, I know some people treat fetishes like its an orientation that can't be helped. I am a firm believer that they can change and incorporate new things or evolve. Also, i might add that there is a difference between a fantasy and a fetish. A fantasy is a thought "hey, that would be awesome to do." and a wish fulfillment. A fetish is more like something that you have to have to be turned on and that thing is out of the norm whether its pain, a costume, diapers, etc.rather than a "that would be cool to do".

[Miss Firecracker]

I can't imagine this ending happily ever after. What percentage of women would do that? I think it would be low...VERY low indeed. How bout just keeping that as a fantasy? I don't really understand this sort of thing, where someone just HAS to have his fantasies come to life. I think your marriage will be over if you request this from your wife. What if someone found out? You'd need to invest in those blackout shades and all to make sure no one ever saw it. Wish I could say I understand but I really don't.

[Capricorn3]

Honestly, this sounds like a complete nightmare for your partner if she is not into your fetish. So, after working hard all week, her reward is to come home and attend your every need all weekend long? While you loll around, sucking on a pacifier and pooping your pants? I think you need to take a step back from your completely self-centered fantasy and try and re-think this in a way that *might* be the least bit fun & satisfying for her.

I was thinking the same thing. What's in it for her? I can't imagine many women will find any of this sexy at all. Just be prepared that your wife may be very upset that you never told her this before you got married.

[jingletruck]

Ok, my advice is going to be controversial, but it's all I got right now...

 

If I'm reading your posts correctly, this is something you've always wanted to try - but actually haven't. So there's no way you even know if this is something you'd want to repeat. The actual experience might be "meh", and you might move on. A lot of times the anticipation is more of a deal than the act (also see "first rimjob received by jingletruck").

 

Spend about $1,000 and pay a professional provider who specializes in fetishes to do this to you. Plot out the scenario exactly how you would like it, and go to your local dominatrix. They will usually oblige you. It's not even illegal because there's no sex involved.

 

AFTER you've tried it, make up your mind. If it's something that's now out of your system, never tell your wife about the weekend you spent crawling around Brigitte's floor. On the other hand, if you absolutely can't live without this experience in the future, tell her everything minus the Brigitte part. Leave the decision to her. Just come clean and say you were too embarassed to tell her initially but as your relationship has grown over the months you now feel more comfortable.