D&c again?!

[Seraphim]

As some of you might remember I had a miscarriage last week.My dr's office of course got notification and called the OB's office here and told them they want me to have a D&C. I have had several before and I HATE it. I had one the day I gave birth to my son to remove his placenta, and I had one about 3 weeks after my miscarriage at 16 weeks because it was a septic miscarriage. I HATE being put out it scares me to death. I really hate it. I have an appointment booked for the 22nd to see the OB. I don't think I have any symptoms of being sick, mind you last time I did not realize I was as dangerously ill as I was either. Just the idea of having to have another operation makes me sick to my stomach. That is how bad it terrifies me. My husband is not so good with sympathy because he thinks operations are no big deal and says "eh whatever, you will be fine " pat pat on the hand and that is the extent of his empathy in that situation. I want them to run blood tests and so on before they embark on an operation. I know I should get them to do a blood pregnancy test and a white blood cell count, but for any other woman who has had one of these are there more tests you can think of to ask for before they do an operation. I want to avoid this if I can. The last time I had one it caused me pain for about 6 months and it took 6 months for my period to return.

[alli]

Have you talk to the OBGYN Dr about your previous experiences and concerns? I'm not sure how necessary it is to do one after a miscarriage. Maybe they could do an ultrasound first to see if it is really necessary. Especially if it is just a precautionary thing, will they still think it's worth it if they knew how long the last caused you pain & messed up your system.

[Seraphim]

Have you talk to the OBGYN Dr about your previous experiences and concerns? I'm not sure how necessary it is to do one after a miscarriage. Maybe they could do an ultrasound first to see if it is really necessary. Especially if it is just a precautionary thing, will they still think it's worth it if they knew how long the last caused you pain & messed up your system.

 

I have not met this dr yet. It is a new OB because I moved. My other OB is pretty up to date on my issues. I have a severely damaged uterus with innumerable tumours in it so it tends to retain contents and not contract properly to expel anything. Unfortunately not doing it as well, and leaving any products of conception in there can kill you through infection, I almost died last time from severe infection. Last time they did THREE ultrasounds and STILL missed the placenta in there. They can not see because my uterus is so damaged and tumours are so big. With that info they are inclined to do it as preemptive. But I do not want them to do it if it is not necessary.

[RedDress]

Well... ultimately, you have to talk to your doctor. I mean... even if it's just to get blood tests, etc.

 

I think that rather than tell the doctor what he/she should prescribe... I think you should simply ask if it's a necessary procedure or if it's a preventative procedure. If it's necessary (sometimes they are) - you really have no choice. I mean... not if you want to live. If it's preventative, maybe there are other ways of monitoring the situation. Your doctor can tell you more about this.

 

Reading your follow-up post, it really does sound like something you need to do. I know they suck... I know it hurts... and I know that it's really the very last thing you need after experiencing a miscarriage. But you have to take care of yourself. Like you said... it's serious business. You could die.

 

Please talk to your doctor. Tell him/her your concerns. Ask what alternatives are available. But... you may just have to suck it up. I'm so sorry for your loss and this subsequent trauma.

[alli]

Yeah, I agree with RedDress that even though it's really difficult it's probably for the best. And I would definitely ask about other alternatives as well.

[Seraphim]

I guess I am just whining, but, I really don't want to do it. It bothers me so much. Just the loss and then that on top. It was all so harrowing last time that I was a mess emotionally for a few years, it really messed me up and depressed me.

 

I just don't want to face it again.:sad:

[thejigsup]

Vic, I had to have a D&C after a miscarriage once. I am scared to death of being put under, so they just gave me a saddle block. I was awake the entire time and I recovered very quickly. See if your doctor will do this.

[lavenderdove]

Get a second opinion! Some doctors are more scalpel/scrape happy than others. In the past, half of all women used to just routinely get hysterectomies around menopause because doctors recommended them, until women's rights activists started questioning the surgical approach to normal menopause.

 

i would consult another doctor if you aren't having any symptoms that show you are having difficulties that require it. Perhaps with your past history the doctors feel obligated to recommend it to protect themselves in case you have problems in future, or perhaps it is the best recommendation, and a second opinion might help with that. Perhaps you could just take some preventative antibiotics to stave off any chance of infection.

[Seraphim]

Vic, I had to have a D&C after a miscarriage once. I am scared to death of being put under, so they just gave me a saddle block. I was awake the entire time and I recovered very quickly. See if your doctor will do this.

 

Hey Jig,

 

Yes I have had one with an epidural in place as well,after I had my son they did one less than half hour after he was born so they just kept the epidural in place. I am not so sure I liked that either because I knew what was happening. I guess both have pros and cons, but like you I really do not like to be put out.

[Seraphim]

Get a second opinion! Some doctors are more scalpel/scrape happy than others. In the past, half of all women used to just routinely get hysterectomies around menopause because doctors recommended them, until women's rights activists started questioning the surgical approach to normal menopause.

 

i would consult another doctor if you aren't having any symptoms that show you are having difficulties that require it. Perhaps with your past history the doctors feel obligated to recommend it to protect themselves in case you have problems in future, or perhaps it is the best recommendation, and a second opinion might help with that. Perhaps you could just take some preventative antibiotics to stave off any chance of infection.

 

Yeah, my grandmothers got caught up in the remove the uterus at menopause movement. My mother had one at 33 but it was absolutely necessary. I am hoping to avoid one.

 

I am going to ask them if this is absolutely necessary for sure.