Getting Over Problems

[cakeforscience]

I used to have a relationship with a guy. However, for whatever reasons we broke up but we always said that there was something special between us etc but it was a bad timing thing.Anyway a lot of time has passed and we have still kept in touch by facebook and other means of communication and we have talked from time to time (not very often) which I have to admit kept me still not being completely over him. A few days ago he send me a message on facebook -can't remember what it was about- and he gave me his new skype account so I added him. We started talking again like we used to and I was SURE that he had just broke up with his new girlfriend...it was just too obvious...and it turned out I was right.Well anyway I didn't say anything(I regret that) and I just enjoyed the attention which inevitably was gone some time later. I would even log in at skype and when he logged in and saw me he would log off.Now, maybe I am being crazy but I think that I am not...So, anyway I deleted him and now I only have him on facebook and I can't really delete him cause we didn't fight or anything and I mean it's not like he did anything to me...It's pretty much my fault that I am still stuck with all these feelings...although he also said that he loved me these past few days etc which in my opinion was a BIG mistake on his part.I mean he always does that just says he doesn't want to hurt me again and always ends up doing exactly that. But I guess he doesn't really mean it...Whatever I think this might be pretty boring but whatever,have nothing to lose.I just want to get over him and at the same time don't...cause we could be together in the future...

[Mustachio]

I am not really sure what advice you are actually looking for here or if you are just posting to get your feelings out.

 

Regardless, it sounds to me like you are holding on to a few things he said during the relationship... things that almost everyone says, and things that lots of people hold on to after the relationship, after the words have basically been voided. I think if you want to get back together you are going to need to tell him or else you really need to allow yourself to move on.

[apple89]

i agree with mastachio.. talk to him and be clear about it all .. if he avoids you, just i guess thats the his answer to say his not interested.. he just keeps coming bc he knows he has you as a safety net, but you need to let him know he cant just throw you away whenever he feels like doing so.

[cakeforscience]

yes I guess you are both right,I'll just kind of mind my own business and if he ever does something similar I'll straighten things out between us...Thanks a lot for your help!