I really need an outside perspective. I feel so stupid and empty.

[fixyou_]

Okay, so I've been "talking" to this guy for over a year now. He never calls me, but I never asked him to (but he should anyways). He always texts me and I always text him back. I'm talking like thousands of texts a month. He's only two towns over and he transferred to my college this fall. We've hung out like, maybe ten times.

I've asked him to hang out the last five or six times. We usually have sex, but we didn't twice.

I don't know what I was expecting. I always text him back and the last few months, he'll like disappear for a day or two. And then I won't answer him for a day or two because he gets me so mad.

I stopped asking him to do things lately because the last two times I've asked, he's said no. Last week he said he needs someone to go see a movie with him. I said I would and then he never mentioned it again.

 

Well, he ignored my text all day yesterday and just texted me like an hour ago. I don't know what to say. I don't know how or why, but I fell for him. I know it sounds really cheesy, but whatever. I'm sick of texting him. I just want him physically there. Idk, I guess that's hard because we both live at home, but whatever. I'd have no problem with him coming over if I knew he actually liked me.

 

I don't know what to do. I can't just tell him that I'm sick of texting him and that I want to be with him cuz I think he'd bail. Even then, idk why he always just wants to text. He HAS TO KNOW that I like him. From what I DO know about him, we have a lot of the same interests and whatever.

 

I just feel so stupid. What do I do? It's not like he lives a million miles away! He lives 15 minutes away! If I just stop talking to him I'll never get over it.

[mouseno4]

You both were in a FWB arrangement. You created emotions which he did not reciprocate. You got upset because of this. FWB arrangements are for sex without emotions.

 

Many many women fall into this trap all the time. You cant change the rules mid game and get upset when you cant.

 

Sorry.

[buddha55]

he is using you. start getting over it.

[fixyou_]

I know that he feels something for me. We never said we were or wanted to be FWB, I guess it just happened. He always texts me a few times when he knows that I am going out and I always feel bad and text him back. I feel like I'm just there when he wants me to be there This isn't fair.

[ladyninja30]

Stop texting him period and see what happens. If he really misses you, he'll initiate.

[fixyou_]

I did this before and on the third day he just kept texting me like 5 times in a row and I gave in

Nothing really changed.

 

Stop texting him period and see what happens. If he really misses you, he'll initiate.

[mouseno4]

I know that he feels something for me. We never said we were or wanted to be FWB, I guess it just happened. He always texts me a few times when he knows that I am going out and I always feel bad and text him back. I feel like I'm just there when he wants me to be there This isn't fair.

 

Which is exactly what fwb's are.

[Teaday]

Tell him exactly how you feel. If he responds favorably, then you'll get what you always wanted but were too afraid to ask for. If he responds negatively, and especially stops talking to you, then you'll know that nothing would change and you'll have your incentive to get over him.

 

Don't allow yourself to be confused over this guy for one more day! If nothing changes, you're going to look back someday and wonder why you let the hours tick by just think about some guy that no longer even matters to you. It's a hard thing to do at first, but you have the power to change this feeling if you want to. Please do yourself the favor!

[fixyou_]

Idk what to say to him. I don't want to seem crazy or something. I just can't keep talking to him if nothing's going to happen

[fixyou_]

I just feel so lost. One of the last times we hung out, he got upset over people cheering for a guy in the service and later told me in the car ride home that it upset him because no one was there for him when he came home.

 

I just don't get it. I've been trying to be more than just a text buddy to him and I get mixed signals.

Ugh, I wish I could just never wake up again. I am so sick of dealing with everyone else's crap when no one ever cares how I am.

[bulletproof]

He doesn't sound like someone who is interested in a relationship with you. The only choices you have are to ask for something more from him, or to stop. But to stay in this weird texting limbo makes no sense. The longer you do it, the worse you'll feel, but you have to realize that you have the choice and the power to stop doing it. So just make that decision and enjoy feeling a little bit empowered in your life.