Quick question...

[Danny77]

Some friends of mine put a picture on my FB wall of them all saying "HI" to me and commented that they missed me and to come back soon.

I decided to make it my profile pic as I thought it was sweet.

I have not changed my profile pic in a while neither has my EX.

We are not FB friends but sometimes I look at her profile just to see her pic coz I am stupid (i know) it's not that bad as it never changes but I just do it when Im sad here and there.

 

Anyway, the very same day I changed my profile pic she did too?

To a pic of her on a boat in some european country in a nice bikini looking good (well, the same really)

But here's the question....

 

Is she trying to tempt me in to contact?

Does the fact that I changed my pic to one of people saying nice things about me hurt her in some way?

Is she playing some silly game of "who's life looks better on FB" as I really don't want to play that as I know her life is so much better now as she is travelling and I'm stuck here for now?

 

She knows nothing of where I am and what I'm doing as I am a 100% NC guy and have indicated nothing to her.

 

Even tho she's out there having the time of her life does she really think that I'm doing better than her enough to do something so silly as this?

 

She is a kind and honest person with no sense of manipulation or hurtful actions, BUT, when people are in defense they often do things like this.

 

I do not want to reconcile - She dumped me - I am in much more pain than her (i think) - she is travellingg with lots of newly found money and doing things that she must know are better than I can - she was my fiancee - we broke up 2 1/2 months ago and NC now for 8 weeks.

 

I know I'm not over reacting as it's too much of a coinsidence to be anything but a reaction from my profile pic change.

 

I was just wondering..... why?

 

Your input would be very much appreciated.

[RedDress]

Have you ever seen that commercial where the girl thinks she might be pregnant and suddenly she's seeing pregnant bellies everywhere? Same concept.

 

You said yourself that your ex is on vacation right now. It's perfectly natural for her to change her picture to one of her on vacation. Especially since you guys recently broke up. She's looking for a little attention.

 

So - does any of this make any difference? If she DID do it out of jealousy of some sort... are you going to contact her?

 

I think you should forget about it... and STOP looking at her FB page! See how unhealthy that is?? Just sayin'.

[jumper11]

Either way, it's one of those situations where you have to just not think like that... It's just unhealthy thinking, yes, people do weird things but people also think weird things too

 

If you don't want to reconcile, and even if you did, I wouldn't worry about it.

 

People change their pics!

[princessinblue]

It sounds like your reading way too much into this. You need to move on buddy. Maybe even block her on Facebook so as not to stare at her FB picture all the time because obviously you haven't. There are other fish in the sea and it sounds like you have great friends. Go enjoy time with them. Find another pretty girl (I swear there are more). Go have fun.

[cole-kenneth61]

Rule 3) Never make assumptions....

 

Just take things at face value- otherwise you will be forever analysing questions you will never know the answer to, unless you ask her of course...otherwise forget it, and in fact definitely don't ask her!

 

She changed her profile photo as she's having a nice time away, just as you changed yours because it is a great photo of you and your mates. Just take it as that and nothing more

[replytome]

In the words of some guy in a pub: ''It don't matter mate''

 

By the way, I strongly suggest blocking so that you CAN'T see her profile pics. I am warning you, your heart will explode from pain once you see a profile pic of her and some new guy.

[ToF]

1) HER profile picture has nothing to do with YOU.

 

2) Stop looking at her profile. It's obviously affecting you negatively and you don't need that right now. If you can't keep yourself from looking at it, then block her.

 

3) Remind yourself that she is your ex, thus it's very unlikely that any of her decisions will have anything to do with you from this point forward. The good news is that this goes the same for you.

 

Just take care of yourself. I know it's hard.

[Danny77]

Have you ever seen that commercial where the girl thinks she might be pregnant and suddenly she's seeing pregnant bellies everywhere? Same concept.

 

You said yourself that your ex is on vacation right now. It's perfectly natural for her to change her picture to one of her on vacation. Especially since you guys recently broke up. She's looking for a little attention.

 

 

So - does any of this make any difference? If she DID do it out of jealousy of some sort... are you going to contact her?

 

I think you should forget about it... and STOP looking at her FB page! See how unhealthy that is?? Just sayin'.

 

 

Yeh yeh I know!

She won't get a thing out of me as Im solid NC. I believe that it is the only healing tool.

But yeh, the FB looking is like once every week I guess, I can cut that out easy enough.

 

It actually made me feel okay?

Okay that she is having the most amazing time but still tries to seek attention from me in this tiny way.

Im not in denial as I know we are done, infact even if she wanted to get back I just know that Id say no as its not good for me.

 

Thing is tho it was on a day that I change mine and we both havent changed our pics for quite a while now?

 

Bah, whateves hey!

 

Thanks you!

[Danny77]

It sounds like your reading way too much into this. You need to move on buddy. Maybe even block her on Facebook so as not to stare at her FB picture all the time because obviously you haven't. There are other fish in the sea and it sounds like you have great friends. Go enjoy time with them. Find another pretty girl (I swear there are more). Go have fun.

 

 

 

Hahaha Yeh in that perfect world Id be okay.

 

See, my friends are 1000 miles away and im stuck here until I get the money to go back to them but itll come soon.

 

I dont think Im reading into it too much at all really?

Its quite simple that she did it as I changed mine too but no worries!

 

Thanks anyway!

 

[Danny77]

Rule 3) Never make assumptions....

 

Just take things at face value- otherwise you will be forever analysing questions you will never know the answer to, unless you ask her of course...otherwise forget it, and in fact definitely don't ask her!

 

She changed her profile photo as she's having a nice time away, just as you changed yours because it is a great photo of you and your mates. Just take it as that and nothing more

 

 

Okay I will.

I know thats not why she changed it but thats how I'm gonna see it as that is the best thing to do!

 

Thanks

[Danny77]

1) HER profile picture has nothing to do with YOU.

 

2) Stop looking at her profile. It's obviously affecting you negatively and you don't need that right now. If you can't keep yourself from looking at it, then block her.

 

3) Remind yourself that she is your ex, thus it's very unlikely that any of her decisions will have anything to do with you from this point forward. The good news is that this goes the same for you.

 

Just take care of yourself. I know it's hard.

 

 

Whoa!

It's okay.

It didnt piss me off or anything.

I suppose I should've mentioned that in the last few weeks Im doing loads better and really just wanted to know the why's on the situation.

I'm fine with it..... just interested on how people act in this particular situations.

 

Thankyou so much for your concern tho!

I used to look at her Profile pic ALL THE TIME but that doesnt help anyone!

 

Most of my healing came from cutting it out and now I can look every now and then and feel no pain.

Just such a coincidence I was wondering why people would do this thats all.

 

Thanks!!

[Danny77]

In the words of some guy in a pub: ''It don't matter mate''

 

By the way, I strongly suggest blocking so that you CAN'T see her profile pics. I am warning you, your heart will explode from pain once you see a profile pic of her and some new guy.

 

DUDE you're so right.

 

She's going to SE Asia in a week or two.

I think a blocking will be in order as that is every mans fear hey!

 

I'll block her soon before she goes but I'd like to do it at a time where no activity is going on so she doesnt think shes done anything wrong to me.

She's a great girl and I wouldnt wanna make her sad so Ill just do it randomly and she will just think I did it for any other reason.

 

Cheers to the guy in the pub!!

The wisest of all blokes!

[Danny77]

Either way, it's one of those situations where you have to just not think like that... It's just unhealthy thinking, yes, people do weird things but people also think weird things too

 

If you don't want to reconcile, and even if you did, I wouldn't worry about it.

 

People change their pics!

 

 

Im okay with it thanks.

 

Just struck me as very strange timing.

 

Oh well I guess nobody has an answer!

 

you're right in not thinking like that tho, it can be unhealthy sometimes.

I didnt feel bad about it so am not worried about wondering why.

Human nature is a funny thing.

 

Thanks for your reply tho!!

 

[lamarthe]

I miss life before facebook...just one more thing that confuses us further...

[Danny77]

I miss life before facebook...just one more thing that confuses us further...

 

Too true...

 

I held off of cell phones for like 4 years then crumbled.

The only reason I still have FB is that in 8 years of travelling you could say most of my friends are expensive phone calls away.

 

Part from that,

I hate it!

[lamarthe]

yep - great tool to stay in touch with friends, total pain for ex boyfriends, girlfriends - do we keep them, do we erase them...and too easy for flirting with potential candidates. just gets even more chaos into romance!