alicee86 Posted June 12, 2011 Share Posted June 12, 2011 I contacted a guy on OKC a month ago. It was a non-generic message, citing some things he mentioned in his profile. I told him to let me know if he wanted to chat sometime. He responded and said that he would be up for a chat but he rarely idles on OKC. We proceeded to exchange several more emails before I gave him my number and he responded with his. He travels frequently for work and said that he would be happy to meet up when he's back in town. That was a month ago. We've chatted several times (online only, no phone calls) in the past month but with no mention of when he's going to be back in town. I would really like to meet this guy but seems like it might be at some undetermined point in the future. Should I ask him when he will be in town next or just move on until he contacts me. In the mean time, I'm not sure if we should continue chatting because I hate dragging online communication out because you start to build an image of the person in your head before you meet them. Link to comment
scarlett27 Posted June 12, 2011 Share Posted June 12, 2011 if his name is romac keep well away Link to comment
Lonewing Posted June 12, 2011 Share Posted June 12, 2011 He's not showing interest, so I'd say to just let it go quietly. If he does come to you,well, I don't know if you want to proceed or not, that will be up to you. Link to comment
doiiiieeezie Posted June 12, 2011 Share Posted June 12, 2011 He's playing with you. Let go and put your efforts on someone else. Link to comment
alicee86 Posted June 12, 2011 Author Share Posted June 12, 2011 Yeah, that's the feeling I'm getting. Plus, he said something that kind of put me off. We are a 99% match and he said that the only that was possible was if I was changing my answers to match his. I'm not. . Link to comment
scarlett27 Posted June 12, 2011 Share Posted June 12, 2011 Tell him dont flatter himself - move on darling x Link to comment
lila... Posted June 12, 2011 Share Posted June 12, 2011 There's nothing wrong with asking him such a simple question as when he is going to be back in town. It's not like you're straight out asking him out. If he them seems nonchalant or uninterested, move on. Better to ask and get your answer than to remain aloof waiting for him to make a move. Link to comment
Lonewing Posted June 13, 2011 Share Posted June 13, 2011 You've already spent enought ime on him. If he's not showing serious interest after a week, move on! Such communication is silent slang for "I'm not interested." Link to comment
jengh Posted June 13, 2011 Share Posted June 13, 2011 He's not serious about meeting up. If he was, he would have planned something by now. Just stop contacting him and move on. Link to comment
alicee86 Posted June 13, 2011 Author Share Posted June 13, 2011 Thanks for the responses! I figured as much. He still checks my profile every time I update it or add a picture but I know that doesn't mean anything. He hasn't been home in the past month since we've started communicating. Now, I don't know this for sure but I've seen pictures on his facebook and he's been in a new city every weekend for the past month. Oh well, welcome to the world of online dating Link to comment
mad rabbits Posted June 13, 2011 Share Posted June 13, 2011 People are very casual on that site. A lot of people swap messages and chat with no intent to take it any further. Its as much a generic "hang out" site like a social networking site, as much as it is a dating site. Link to comment
Happyhappyjoy Posted June 13, 2011 Share Posted June 13, 2011 I agree totally about the social network. I e-mailed guys back and forth and nothing ever happens They just dissappear and you wonder what happened?? Oh,well time to move on.....Okstupid is fun and all but most of the time like the poster said above me it is like a social networking site. Link to comment
Jonathan. Posted June 13, 2011 Share Posted June 13, 2011 Yeah, he doesn't seem that interested, if I am interested in a girl online I make it a point to message her daily. Sorry, maybe its a good thing this didn't work out since he travels so frequently, its hard to have a long distance relationship, I am never getting into one ever again. Good luck with your search, don't give up hope. Online dating can be pretty crazy but sometimes you meet someone who is really special Link to comment
alicee86 Posted June 30, 2011 Author Share Posted June 30, 2011 Okay guys, I have a follow up. He messaged me saying he was back in town. We messaged back and forth a few times and he said he'll have to look at his schedule when he gets back into the office. This was several days ago and haven't heard from him since (Sunday). What's going on? I suppose I can't do much other than see if he actually follows through. Link to comment
lalalollipops Posted July 1, 2011 Share Posted July 1, 2011 He's not particularly interested. Prob finds you 'tolerable' enough to talk to but the whole 'I'll check my schedule?" lol If he was interested he would have been like, 'I'm all out this week, but I'm sure I can find a couple of hours to hang out with you' or sth. Yeah let it go. Link to comment
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