What should I do??

[redchilli]

I met my bf from online dating site 10months ago and we moved in together after 5months.

He still in contact with his ex gf and never mentioned about me. I have no problem with that but I found out he is having a contact with one of his female friends basically every single day. According to their email exchanged he has never mentioned about me nor we moved in together. He said he didn't mention about it because of he is not sure how is our relationship going. At this stage I already met his parents and his closed friends. I asked him about her and he said " they had sex a few times in the past and when he asked her to marry him she refused him because she had to chose someone else. But they are still exchaning email since. I had no problem he had lot of female friends but exchanging emails and reporting everything single things to her over me is quite werid. When he was having a down time I supported him with everything I can. I left my job because we wanted to be together and I took lot of risks to keep this relationship. When I went back to work in other town for a few weeks he kept texing me that he is facing all this problems again and have no sleep nor food. So I left that job again for him. But we had lot of fights because of that woman then he promised not to contact her anymore. But he keep lying to me and never stop contacting her. He said I m most important person and he proposed me not long ago but he said he still can't let go of that woman. And he said he just want to keep a friendship with her. We living in New Zealand and she lives in Thailand. It's made me very very upset because I m the one doing every single thing like a slave for him and supporting him when he facing a problems at work. We don't have any romantic times since I moved in because of his depression and stress. But I never complaint about that situation and just be there for him. He said he love me and wants to spend rest of his life but still lying about that women n still can't let go of her.. so what should I do?? I got really tired with this situation and he admit his mistake only when he get caught. Because of his depression, he is taking pills and alcohol every single day so I have to put up with his zombie personality when we are spending time together. I m happy to support him and I never think of leaving him but I can't take his lies and hurting my feeling anymore. What should I do? I m going back to my country in a few days so should I leave him for good or should I keep the contact with him???

[SummertimeSun]

I think it sounds like it might be time for you to leave this man. It almost seems like he could be living a double life. Obviously you don't know for sure and I can say I have experienced this kind of doubt and confusion with a man that I dated in the past. I think you would be so much happier with someone who did give you romance as well as more attention! This man sounds like he is causing way too much stress in your life. I hope it works out for you. You sound like a smart woman and I am sure you will make the right decision.