So how does one go about sex outside of the relationship?..

[MsMargarita]

Single and adventurous, I have a little but lasting emotional affair with a man. All we want from each other is physicality, but I have never slept with anyone outside of a relationship before, so I am wondering if it's going to feel awkward and how to go about it.. What I want from it is just fun, but we only know this side of each other, we are friends i would say and have many things in common but haven't really been alone together much. Arranged to go for a drink next week (finally!) so hopefully I will not lose determination/desire to have him back at my place afterwards. How do those things happen? Shall I offer to come up when he walks me home? This is a bit like role playing for me, sort of a liberating experience. But I don't want to scare him or make him feel like like he is played with. The first time we've met for a chat at his was really asexual and friendly, despite all the sexting we've done throughout the year. I guess he's unsure how much i can allow (and i used to be more hesitant about it before, now i am sure i want it). Advice? How would you proceed? Would you give the conversation a sensual tone straight away?Or wait how it develops..?

[Crazyaboutdogs]

Is this a man you work with? If so I would not even attempt this as it could end up very awkward when it all ends. The other thing I want to caution you about is that many women think they can handle having a regular no strings attached sex partner but then they do end up getting emotionally involved whereas the guy doesn't. Many of the women on this forum have entered these kinds of Friends with Benefits (FWB) relationship with the same mindset as you thinking it is only just for fun...and then they get really hurt when they want more and the guy doesn't.