sara-pezzini Posted June 11, 2011 Share Posted June 11, 2011 first off, sorry if this sounds gross, but i have been sort of researching and playing with the idea of giving my BF a blowjob and prostate massage at the same time, of course if he wants to, not gonna just stick my finger in.. now i am not sure how to go about this, any tips? i was thinking of taking a bath together before hand, then have him lie on his back with myabe a pillow underneath his ass, then massage him and get him in the mood and when he is ready, give him a blowjob, and prostate massage at the same time, i do want to wear a latex glove and use lots of lube, but other than that, how far do you go in? if he doesn't want to try it i won't but i have a feeling he will since he was rubbing my area there as well.....how to make it really memorable for him? Link to comment
lukeb Posted June 11, 2011 Share Posted June 11, 2011 I think it would be a mistake to go there unless it is something he initiates, and wants to explore further. Link to comment
sara-pezzini Posted June 11, 2011 Author Share Posted June 11, 2011 i would ask him upfront and knowing him for already 7 years i am quite sure he would like it, just need tips on how to do it.... Link to comment
FathomFear Posted June 11, 2011 Share Posted June 11, 2011 Many straight guys have a kneejerk reaction to the idea of being penetrated in any way, so just be prepared for a not-so-positive reaction as it is a possibility. Having said that, you don't really to go all that far to provide the stimulation. Just look at the size of an average butt plug to get an idea. link removed has some good info. Link to comment
FairyGodmother Posted June 11, 2011 Share Posted June 11, 2011 There are some demo videos on youtube as well, if you just look up prostate massage, which are really helpful Link to comment
lukeb Posted June 11, 2011 Share Posted June 11, 2011 If this is not something that he has initiated or has been curious about it is unlikely it is going to work. Getting to an orgasm through prostate stimulation can be an elusive thing, it goes far beyond just the physical stimulation, it is a mindset that he has to get through. Link to comment
sara-pezzini Posted June 12, 2011 Author Share Posted June 12, 2011 and believe me when i say i KNOW he is up for this, but i just don't want to stick it in without mentioning it but he wants this....i need tips, that's what i was asking for, tips on how to do it, believe me i know my BF and i know he want to try this..... Link to comment
mouseno4 Posted June 12, 2011 Share Posted June 12, 2011 Yep i would hate this very much. The only guy i know who would ever like this... is gay. Not even sure how he does it either. Link to comment
lukeb Posted June 12, 2011 Share Posted June 12, 2011 Even a lot of gay men don't like it either, some don't mind it, but dont reach orgasm through this way. Like I said before you could be doing everything right physically but it may still not work for him. The unusual thing here is that this is something that you want for him, rather than him pushing you to do it beause this is a turn for him. I would say that this is something that he should explore on his own first so see if this can even work for him. Link to comment
sara-pezzini Posted June 12, 2011 Author Share Posted June 12, 2011 little helpful tips here i must say......i was asking for advice on how to do it not for if he would like it or not....believe me, i already know that he will......guess i'll just explore it on my own and with his help....thought i might get some helpful tips here from men who have experienced it or from women who have done it and advice on what position would work best or something like that......guess not..... i'll just experiment with him then...i know he would like it but he is my first and so i was scared before but i am getting more and more adventurous and now i really want to give him this experience and blow his mind and i want to please him in every way cause he does the same for me, and the idea turns me on as well....i'll just ask him what to do then.... Link to comment
90_hour_sleep Posted June 12, 2011 Share Posted June 12, 2011 ha...i don't have any tips. but i've heard that this can lead to some intense orgasms for men. seems it would involve alot of trust. and if you have that...maybe you can take it a step further, and put it into practice when you get there. communicate. pay attention to his responses. really pay attention. think it's alot like any sexual practice that you haven't engaged in before. just have to pay attention...and kind of learn by osmosis. you know? good luck! Link to comment
sara-pezzini Posted June 12, 2011 Author Share Posted June 12, 2011 thanks!! that was actually helpful! yes i heard about the intense orgasms as well and want to give that to him and i know he would like to try it as well.....was just looking for the practical tips, what position, would anything come out as well? lol, that's why i thought of taking a bath together first, and then get him to completely relax with a long massage and work my way from there..... Link to comment
90_hour_sleep Posted June 12, 2011 Share Posted June 12, 2011 thanks!! that was actually helpful! yes i heard about the intense orgasms as well and want to give that to him and i know he would like to try it as well.....was just looking for the practical tips, what position, would anything come out as well? lol, that's why i thought of taking a bath together first, and then get him to completely relax with a long massage and work my way from there..... sounds like you've got most of it figured out already. really thinking that this is all about comfort. if it's going to be enjoyable for him...it has to be comfortable. of course...no guarantees when you get there, right? that's why it's all about communicating. just like anything else. be attentive...right? sounds like you're prepared. as for stuff coming out...could always talk about an enema. i've never been down the anal road...but my last girlfriend mentioned that whenever she'd done it in the past she always had an enema first. although...this is a bit different. if it's just a massage...maybe that's not necessary. anal sex is a bit of a different creature. just a thought though. hope it's good for both of you!! Link to comment
DD123 Posted June 13, 2011 Share Posted June 13, 2011 eek on the latex glove plan. >.> if a guy was fingering my butt, idk how id feel about him wearing latex gloves to do it hahahah Link to comment
Ariel85 Posted June 13, 2011 Share Posted June 13, 2011 + 1 on the latex glove. Egads, woman. Do you make him use a dental dam when he goes downtown? I can't imagine many guys being excited when his woman slaps on a surgical glove. lol Beyond dropping that idea, make sure you have NO fingernail on the finger you use. Otherwise it will just feel like a fingernail in his ass. Oh, and if you're game, toss his salad before you go digital. Link to comment
tiredofvampires Posted June 13, 2011 Share Posted June 13, 2011 While I agree that a glove will seem clinical, it's not fair to compare a man going down on a woman with anal sex of any kind -- the vagina, when healthy, has less bacteria than the mouth, while the rectum is teeming with fecal bacteria. The rectum is a highly unsanitary environment, even with an enema (you can't wash out the bacteria that cling to the rectal walls), and the same cannot be said for the vagina in the same breath. I really like this sex educator, and I've seen her on TV before taking calls, and once a caller asked about the very thing the OP is asking here. I'll never forget her advice to put a condom on the fingers that are inserted because, "You don't want a finger full of poop." So, OP, here is her advice on the issue of this thread, as well as a link to her homepage, if you have other topics you're interested in getting information/education on. She's really cool to watch -- very no-nonsense. link removed link removed Link to comment
90_hour_sleep Posted June 13, 2011 Share Posted June 13, 2011 sue!!! god i love that woman. sunday night sex show!! so candid...unassuming...and helpful!! Link to comment
tiredofvampires Posted June 13, 2011 Share Posted June 13, 2011 ^^ You too, lol? Shes' a blast to watch -- just because of all the things you said! Love her. Link to comment
Ariel85 Posted June 13, 2011 Share Posted June 13, 2011 Yeah - I've never put any part of my body in a guys butt and had a surprise. Maybe the guys I date eat a lot of fiber. Link to comment
90_hour_sleep Posted June 13, 2011 Share Posted June 13, 2011 ^^ You too, lol? Shes' a blast to watch -- just because of all the things you said! Love her. i started watching when i was 13 or so. and it's funny...but alot of things i take for granted as common knowledge (which clearly isn't the case) i can attribute to her. been years since i've even thought about the show though. yep...all those things. so important. no guilt...no shame...no fear...just unassuming, candid advice. VERY refreshing in this day an age. have to admit...i'm a bit curious about her background now. she's very good at what she does. so happy you shared this, vampy. Link to comment
90_hour_sleep Posted June 13, 2011 Share Posted June 13, 2011 Yeah - I've never put any part of my body in a guys butt and had a surprise. Maybe the guys I date eat a lot of fiber. no visible surprise at least. Link to comment
Ariel85 Posted June 13, 2011 Share Posted June 13, 2011 no visible surprise at least. Um, no. No surprise that was hidden, either. Link to comment
90_hour_sleep Posted June 13, 2011 Share Posted June 13, 2011 Um, no. No surprise that was hidden, either. alright...i can't see microscopic bacteria. bad assumption on my part. Link to comment
lukeb Posted June 13, 2011 Share Posted June 13, 2011 If this is something you really want to explore I would consider buying a butt plug. Not a big one, about 1.5" x 6" I would say and have him wear it for starters when you are making out and see if it makes a difference for him. You could also tap the end while he has it in while you are giving him a blowjob. Link to comment
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