enzarto Posted June 11, 2011 Share Posted June 11, 2011 Okay first off, I've embedded a video of that cat lady; i'm sure everyone's caught the buzz by now, and I don't want to make fun of her, but I actually KNOW someone like this. She is insane for cats. Don't get me wrong, I've always wanted one, I think theyre beautiful animals (actually allergic), but I don't know if I'm into it like this chick here. I honestly don't think opposites attract, you can't like dogs and be with this lady. Anyways my question is, if you really like a girl and you are thinking long term about her, would pets be a big time barrier? I'm absolutely allergic to cats, I think their hair makes my eyes itchy, makes me sneeze, gets me red eyed. I mean if me and this girl think of moving in, she has pets, I love dogs, snakes, guinea pigs, whatever, and cats are such a common animal to have. Would that effect our relationship that badly?? I could honestly think that we won't do so well anymore. Link to comment
lavenderdove Posted June 11, 2011 Share Posted June 11, 2011 Attachments to pets is like saying you are a person who wants to have kids or not. If someone is an absolute cat person and already owns cats, odds are good it won't work out if you are severely allergic and can't be around cats, if she feels she must have cats to be happy (and most people will not give up their own living pets for another person, though they might be wiling to do without cats once the living pets die and not get another one). Link to comment
mouseno4 Posted June 11, 2011 Share Posted June 11, 2011 I love dogs actually. My whole family adores dogs. Over the past 30 years, we have had around 15 dogs. Oh... and 1 cat. As shocking as it sounds, i sleep with a pet dog. No really! Put that little black miniature pinzcher down at your feet... yep ... nice warm feet all night. Call the hot water bottle Spud btw. He is in my bed right now, warming it up for me. Link to comment
Unknown1607307972 Posted June 11, 2011 Share Posted June 11, 2011 My boyfriend linked me this video an told me he'd found my soulmate for if I ever become a lesbian I adore cats, they are the best little things ever. My boyfriend is allergic though so my cats have to live in England with my family. I'm enjoying them while I'm here visiting as I'll miss them so much when I go back home! Link to comment
Seraphim Posted June 11, 2011 Share Posted June 11, 2011 I love animals but I would never put them above people. Link to comment
OptomisticGirl Posted June 11, 2011 Share Posted June 11, 2011 Depends, my fiancé didn't hate cats but they weren't his favorit when we met. I have a cat who is like my child and I let him know from the beginning we were a packaged deal - he gets me, he gets my cat too. But my fiancé has come to love our cat. Link to comment
Unknown1607307972 Posted June 11, 2011 Share Posted June 11, 2011 My boyfriend has agreed that if we're together long enough to buy a home with a garden, he will try to spend time with suggested breeds that are less likely to trigger allergic reactions. He once knew a cat who belonged to a neighbour who didn't trigger his allergies so I believe it is possible, and if we ever got a cat I'd make sure we have a back up home with a friend (my best friend already offered in advance!) in case his allergies began showing later on after we'd already bought the cat. If everything else fails we'll get a dog, it's what his grandparents did after finding out their grandson is allergic and their last cats passed away. Link to comment
enzarto Posted June 12, 2011 Author Share Posted June 12, 2011 Thanks, I appreciate this, and I think there is incompatibility, because it is a packaged deal. She doens't value the cat over me, but I'm not about to fedex it to England either Link to comment
OptomisticGirl Posted June 12, 2011 Share Posted June 12, 2011 Thanks, I appreciate this, and I think there is incompatibility, because it is a packaged deal. She doens't value the cat over me, but I'm not about to fedex it to England either I'm moving to England next year - to move my cat (just to put it on a plane and for the UK to handle him) is $1,400 and that's for a 15 lbs. cat in a small kennel. It is NOT cheap nor easy. Link to comment
BriarRose Posted June 12, 2011 Share Posted June 12, 2011 Pets are a compatibility issue for many people. I would not want to live with a dog. I don't know that I would rule out a man if he had one, but I would prefer to date someone who did not have one. Link to comment
browneyedgirl36 Posted June 13, 2011 Share Posted June 13, 2011 I LOVE cats. They are one of my favorite things EVER. I grew up always having one, and as an adult I have had my own -- never more than one at a time, though. As far as relationships go...love me, love my cat. Or, at least tolerate my cat. I couldn't date a guy who couldn't at least tolerate cats, and if a guy hates cats, he's off the list of potential mates. If I were dating a guy who was allergic to cats, and he absolutely couldn't be around them, and I thought we had a future together, I MIGHT give the cat to a friend or relative to keep for me if we decided to move in together. I would never be able to give the cat to a shelter or to a stranger, though. And, I'd have to be pretty serious about the guy -- and he about me -- to even consider giving my cat away even to a relative or friend. As far as dogs go -- I've never had one, but I like them (but definitely prefer cats) and would be OK with living with one as long as it wasn't vicious and didn't destroy all of my stuff. And, we'd have to make sure the cat and the dog could get along. And, my significant other would have to clean up after the dog (i.e. if it pooped in the house, the yard, etc.) Pets CAN be a dealbreaker; if it's a choice between a man and my cat that I've had for years, and the guy is telling me I have to get rid of the cat because he doesn't like them, I would tell him to take a hike. When I adopt a pet, I make a commitment, and nothing short of an emergency would make me go back on that commitment. Link to comment
OptomisticGirl Posted June 13, 2011 Share Posted June 13, 2011 Exactly. for a lot of people their pets are their children - would you toss out your kids to be with someone? Link to comment
Seraphim Posted June 13, 2011 Share Posted June 13, 2011 ^^ Some people do not hold animals on the same level as humans. That does not mean that they do not love their pets. I love all my pets but I do not call them my "children". I just do not see it that way and I never will. I am always loving to my pets and I give them excellent care, but they are NOT like my son. I know some people don't get that, but it is the same how I do not get how someone can say a pet is like a child in their eyes. Just because I do not get it does not mean they do not feel that way. In the same vein I don't think pet owners who do not feel that way should be made to feel bad. Link to comment
OptomisticGirl Posted June 13, 2011 Share Posted June 13, 2011 ^^ Some people do not hold animals on the same level as humans. That does not mean that they do not love their pets. I love all my pets but I do not call them my "children". I just do not see it that way and I never will. I am always loving to my pets and I give them excellent care, but they are NOT like my son. I know some people don't get that, but it is the same how I do not get how someone can say a pet is like a child in their eyes. Just because I do not get it does not mean they do not feel that way. In the same vein I don't think pet owners who do not feel that way should be made to feel bad. I know a lot of people who don't view their animals as their kids - and there is nothing wrong with it - and if someone is okay with letting a pet go for a SO that's their judgement, but on the otherhand it's also okay if someone goes I'm not getting rid of my animal just for you. Link to comment
itsallgrand Posted June 14, 2011 Share Posted June 14, 2011 I'm not as into cats as that girl in the video! I love my cat and all, but I try to be flexible when people are allergic or otherwise have problems with her. I would not abandon her or give her away, but I would try to find some sort of compromise (and have). I mean, I understand the other side - I do not like being around a lot of birds in a house or ferrets or more than one dog. And there is the fur, the scratching, and general stuff that comes with a cat or most pets. It's just that when I took her in, or any animal I have, I took and take it seriously and it is 'for life' or unless there is a better home or place for my pet. With my cat, she is bonded to me and she's been with me so long now, there is no way I would part with her. She's going to live out her old age with me and that is good for both of us. I would def consider not having other cats afterwards or at certain periods in my life, or pets at all, but once someone has made that bond and commitment to an animal, it's unreasonable I think to expect them to give up them or send them away. Link to comment
jengh Posted June 14, 2011 Share Posted June 14, 2011 Resident crazy cat lady in house. Link to comment
jengh Posted June 15, 2011 Share Posted June 15, 2011 My Seuss and Teva. Seuss is the white one, Teva is the stripey boy. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted June 15, 2011 Share Posted June 15, 2011 I agree, I make efforts for my mom because she is allergic to almost every known substance and all animals( pain in the backside it is), I am also allergic to cats but not too severely. I have 2 cats and 2 guinea pigs and 4 betas and 8 other fish. I have owned dogs and birds and other cats and hamsters and a rabbit. So I am the crazy pet person too, I just don't understand why someone would throw PEOPLE away. I am not sure how people can say I would rather have people get out of my life than a cat or a dog. Really? Or even how people prefer animals to people. The only thing I can surmise is; yes animals give you unconditional love BUT they really offer no challenge to you either. They do not talk back, they don't go love someone else,the do not offer opposing opinions etc etc..so they are "safe and easy". Link to comment
Unknown1607307972 Posted June 15, 2011 Share Posted June 15, 2011 As far as relationships go...love me, love my cat. Or, at least tolerate my cat. I couldn't date a guy who couldn't at least tolerate cats, and if a guy hates cats, he's off the list of potential mates. If I were dating a guy who was allergic to cats, and he absolutely couldn't be around them, and I thought we had a future together, I MIGHT give the cat to a friend or relative to keep for me if we decided to move in together. I would never be able to give the cat to a shelter or to a stranger, though. And, I'd have to be pretty serious about the guy -- and he about me -- to even consider giving my cat away even to a relative or friend. I am glad my boyfriend doesn't hate cats even though he is allergic, he is neutral to them. My cats live with my family where I spoil them and make a fuss over them every time I visit so they know I love them. I would *never* give them to a stranger either and a shelter? God no! That's even worse! Luckily as I lived with my family before moving in with my boyfriend so my cats didn't have to move from their home, and I told my little brother to be extra nice to them when I am not around. My cats are a part of my family and I would never give them away where I'd never see them again no matter how much a guy nagged me. Link to comment
enzarto Posted June 16, 2011 Author Share Posted June 16, 2011 I absolutely LOVE cats,and I was so dissappointed to see that I was allergic to them. They are probably my favorite animal, both wild and domestic. And a beautiful animal. I also love dogs, I'm just an animal lover. But I REALLY love snakes. If I even tried, I'd be booted from my parents house, there's no question about that, my mom would freak, animals definitely get in the way, and it sucks once you build an attachment, because I absolutely love her cat. But I feel like I should make my decision now, because if I get closer to her it would hurt more in the future. What an unfortunate sacrifice. I am so hurt by this, I try not to show it because I'm stupid prideful, but it's true! Link to comment
greywolf Posted June 16, 2011 Share Posted June 16, 2011 I really really want a dog someday, but if I was with someone that couldn't be around dogs due to allergies or something, I think that is something where I'd put my partner first. If it was just because he didn't like dogs, then I don't think we'd get a long very well. =/ Link to comment
dtgrl812 Posted July 10, 2011 Share Posted July 10, 2011 my husband and i adore our cat. The cat has quite a personality actually. i am not that way about all cats... just ours. He rocks! Link to comment
Weeb Posted July 16, 2011 Share Posted July 16, 2011 My sister and I have one cat right now, and are adopting another this weekend if all goes well. My boyfriend definitely isn't a cat person, but he tolerates them and is very nice to my kitty. That's all I can really expect of anyone. If a guy were allergic, it probably wouldn't work unless he were willing and able to find an allergy treatment that worked. Link to comment
BellaDonna Posted July 26, 2011 Share Posted July 26, 2011 I adore cats. For the first time ever I own a cat and a dog at the same time. I adore my dog but I look forward to my nights with my just my kitty, who is allowed to sleep in my bed with me on the 2nd floor. She will always be "top dog" in that regard. lol I think cats are the perfect creatures really. Kittens have to be some of the cutest things on earth. Link to comment
carrie8484 Posted August 25, 2011 Share Posted August 25, 2011 my cat has been great company since my break up. even though my ex bought me the cat and there are memories associated to him, me and the kitty and going to have lots more together without him in our lives Link to comment
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