Melting Posted June 11, 2011 Share Posted June 11, 2011 So, I had a date this evening. Met him online and have been chatting for just over a week, both looking for relationships yadda yadda.. The date went well, I was happy when I saw him and the evening progressed well. We part ways and Im smiling, cos I have just found a nice guy, that I get along with. I get home and receive a txt from him, all excitedly I open it to read.... Was nice to meet you, would you like to come over to my house for some good sex I feel cheap, that is all he wanted..... When I replied that I wasn't that type of girl, he replied back.... Fair enough, bye It takes me alot to build up the confidence to go on a blind date, hoping to find the man of my dreams and then this loser comes along and slams it all down again Link to comment
Silverbirch Posted June 11, 2011 Share Posted June 11, 2011 Well, at least you know right up what he was about. It does sound sort of strange though. Are you positive it was him? Link to comment
Melting Posted June 11, 2011 Author Share Posted June 11, 2011 Yes, just wish he had been upfront in the beginning... Never, ever had this before and your right, least I found out now... instead of after a few dates Link to comment
tresqua Posted June 11, 2011 Share Posted June 11, 2011 Look on the bright side. At least he didn't try to attack you during the date. I don't get why guys do this. I'm not into casual sex outside an exclusive relationship, and I don't mind waiting a month or so. It lets the attraction and anticipation build and it means so much more. Then you've got these guys that want nothing more than to stick their penis in a vj. I'd like to think we're a bit more evolved than apes but there are lots of guys out there that disprove that theory. Link to comment
elcie Posted June 11, 2011 Share Posted June 11, 2011 It's good that he was honest so soon with you! At least you didn't have to waste more than one date with him....and you didn't have time to get emotionally involved...other than get very annoyed!!!! Dodged a bullet IMO!!! Link to comment
Melting Posted June 11, 2011 Author Share Posted June 11, 2011 It doesn't feel good now, but I know tomorrow I will be thanking my lucky stars that he showed his true intentions so early. Link to comment
mouseno4 Posted June 11, 2011 Share Posted June 11, 2011 HAHA i almost fell off my chair! Never thought a date could be like THAT! As Elcie said... a LEAST you dodged a bullet! As a side note... not all guys are like that. I would never do that. Even if a girl actually said that to me first... i highly doubt i would go for it.... Link to comment
DN Posted June 11, 2011 Share Posted June 11, 2011 He's honest but he's an honest jerk. Link to comment
amil798 Posted June 11, 2011 Share Posted June 11, 2011 So this is what being upfront means. You will definitely thank your stars when you meet someone who actually respects your feelings and care about your emotions. It will be fun to share this story with him. Go out for some nice ice cream or drinks now Link to comment
Silverbirch Posted June 11, 2011 Share Posted June 11, 2011 Hey Melting, this is not very nice, but hopefully make you feel better. I went out just for a coffee once with a guy who I had thought was really nice and that I had a lot in common with. We had finished the coffee and another on order when he announced to me he was dying to know what my p*b*c hair looked like. Needless to say, I never had another thing to do with him although he did text me later in the afternoon asking if I'd enjoyed myself in his company. He just grossed me out. Link to comment
mouseno4 Posted June 11, 2011 Share Posted June 11, 2011 LOL! This thread gets better and better! Its really a lot of fun laughing at how stupid people can be. Some really must have been born and raised on Mars! Link to comment
CatsMeeoow Posted June 11, 2011 Share Posted June 11, 2011 Ok well don't go out with him again... enough said. In the dating world you will go through many bad potatoes to find the one which you would like to hold to for awhile. A date... even a good date does not make a relationship... it's just... a... date. Clearly what he was looking for and what you were looking for aren't the same thing so just keep moving forward. When I was finally ready to settle down seriously with someone I knew I wasn't going to settle for the first guy I bumped into. I had LOTS of first dates. And, I kept my wits about me and just rolled with it. Every date was what I made it and I always came home with a smile on my face and a super good story... they were all nice guys by the way just not my nice guy. I had a super duper lunch with a handsome guy who spent more time talking about where he bought his shoes then where he tried on these great pair of jeans (tried on mind you... didn't buy... is that date conversation material??)... I just don't put THAT much thought in talking about my shoes... lol! But, I had a great time... lunch was fantastic... they guy made me laugh... we both enjoyed ourselves but neither of us wanted to do a do-over! No harm... no foul. That was ONE of many great times I've had on my road to meeting and falling in love with my husband, but even meeting my husband was initially just another fabulous fun planned first date. I wasn't really looking for a second date but he was persistent and the rest they say is history. I'm sorry this guy mis-read the situation. Meeting a guy... chatting him up... even when you made it clear that you are looking for long term... don't put all your eggs in one basket this early on. Now, dust yourself off and go find another date. In my opinion the more you date - even try dating someone you think you wouldn't have much to do with (yup... my husband is someone I never thought I'd date!)... it broadens your views, gives you more experience for the next one. Dating is a skill.. the more you practice the better you get at it. HUGS Link to comment
bulletproof Posted June 11, 2011 Share Posted June 11, 2011 You and your awesome future bf will have a wonderful laugh over that story someday! Link to comment
scarlett27 Posted June 11, 2011 Share Posted June 11, 2011 sorry to hear this at least u know now what a idiot he is - internet dating normally restults in disasters trust me i done it i met one bi polar bloke , one who would not have sex and one who squealed like a pig when his phone went off x Link to comment
tresqua Posted June 11, 2011 Share Posted June 11, 2011 i done it i met one bi polar bloke , one who would not have sex and one who squealed like a pig when his phone went off x I can understand why the bipolar guy wasn't your thing, I don't quite get why someone would squeal like a pig when their phone went off (maybe their ringtone is a pig squealing and you thought it was him), and some guys don't like to have sex on the first date, regardless of what women might think. Link to comment
scarlett27 Posted June 11, 2011 Share Posted June 11, 2011 he squealed like a pig for no reason lol - i meant he didnt like sex full stop i am a lady and dont sleep with men on a first date - or until at least a month later - he did not want sex at all he had intimacy issues Link to comment
Melting Posted June 11, 2011 Author Share Posted June 11, 2011 Its just goes to show that you never really know a person on 1st appearance. All through our convos he was nice and polite, the date he was a perfect gentlemen and then at the end turned into a jerk. Thankfully, he wasn't very smart..... I wonder how many ladies actually reply to that txt with a "yes" Link to comment
laura40 Posted June 12, 2011 Share Posted June 12, 2011 Its just goes to show that you never really know a person on 1st appearance. All through our convos he was nice and polite, the date he was a perfect gentlemen and then at the end turned into a jerk. Thankfully, he wasn't very smart..... I wonder how many ladies actually reply to that txt with a "yes" Let's hope none do! At least you found out what he really is like, before you developed stronger feelings for him. Link to comment
lavenderdove Posted June 13, 2011 Share Posted June 13, 2011 Wow, Mr. Sauve... how crass... and some guys wonder why they don't get past the first date! Maybe it works on some women, but this guy certainly was crude right off the bat. Link to comment
rustyskyline Posted June 13, 2011 Share Posted June 13, 2011 So, I've told my roommate over and over, "your stuff is on the left side of the fridge and mine is on the right" but I came home last night and sure enough he had taken some of my stuff again. Then I noticed his cell phone on the kitchen table...found a couple of text exchanges with that chick he had been yakking about all day...took a moment to sent her an extra special text of my own. Heh heh, good luck getting another date with her, a-hole. The above is an example of how the OP might have received such a bizarre text after what seemed like a normal date. As someone upthread mentioned, maybe he didn't write it. Link to comment
FathomFear Posted June 13, 2011 Share Posted June 13, 2011 Look on the bright side. At least he didn't try to attack you during the date. I don't get why guys do this. I'm not into casual sex outside an exclusive relationship, and I don't mind waiting a month or so. It lets the attraction and anticipation build and it means so much more. Then you've got these guys that want nothing more than to stick their penis in a vj. I'd like to think we're a bit more evolved than apes but there are lots of guys out there that disprove that theory. It's not just a guy thing. Have you been to a modern day university campus? Casual hookups are relatively par for the course. I can understand feeling bummed out if I were the OP, but the guy was honest about what he wanted. There's nothing particularly wrong with that. Hopefully both he and the OP will find people who are on each of their wavelengths. Link to comment
Ms Darcy Posted June 13, 2011 Share Posted June 13, 2011 I had a friend who did something like this. Basically, met her and although he wanted a relationship, she wasn't his type. So he texted for sex. She turned him down and I asked why he would do that. He said while he's looking for Ms. Right, he'd get a littleof Ms. Right-now. Wow. Anyway, he got married a year later. Lol, sometimes it's so easy for men Link to comment
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