Considering seeing a psychiatrist/psychologist for shyness - good or bad idea?

[dog stevens]

Since girls hate shy guys so much, I'm considering seeing a psychiatrist/psychologist. Is it worth it? Will they be able to cure my disease of shyness?

[mouseno4]

Are you certain you are shy?

[dog stevens]

Are you certain you are shy?

 

Yeah, several girls have told me that I could get a nice girl if I wasn't so shy.

[ferna3069]

sometimes people are just shy because they are around the same people all the time. they feel comfterable just talking to a friend they had for a while / something that got me out of my shyness is working in sales get paid for it and you get to talk and joke a little with the customers. it defenatly took me out of my shyness. try going out getting a job where u need to talk that will help

[Capricorn3]

When reading all your other threads, I don't think it can do any harm.

[mouseno4]

Here is a test. Go to the local supermarket, find a girl of roughly your age who isnt presently with someone. Ask her any question that really does not matter (eg, what is the time). If you can do that, you are fine. If you cant, then most likely you are shy. There is nothing wrong with that. According to some research i recently read, a large portion of the world is actually quite shy.

 

Anyway, yep going to see a specialist is the best course of action to cure or dull down the shyness.

[dog stevens]

Here is a test. Go to the local supermarket, find a girl of roughly your age who isnt presently with someone. Ask her any question that really does not matter (eg, what is the time). If you can do that, you are fine. If you cant, then most likely you are shy. There is nothing wrong with that. According to some research i recently read, a large portion of the world is actually quite shy.

 

Anyway, yep going to see a specialist is the best course of action to cure or dull down the shyness.

 

Yeah, I definitely couldn't do that unless I absolutely needed to, like for instance if I really was lost and needed directions, otherwise I couldn't force myself to do it.

[mouseno4]

Then you have your answer, as well as your next destination.

 

Good luck.

[gingerlemon]

I've used counselling as well as medication to deal with a package of issues that included strains of social anxiety. I say definitely give it a go. It's not a magic bullet but under the right circumstances they can both be very powerful tools.

[Allyo]

If you have the money to spend seeing a therapist might be a good option, but there are also a lot of self-help books available and other resources that could help you out.

 

It seems like a lot of people think of shyness as a bad thing or some sort of disease, which isn't necessarily the case. However, if you feel that it is truly interfering with your everyday activities and relationships, I think it is fair to seek help.

 

I think of myself as a fairly private/reserved person, although not shy. In that sense I don't think there is anything wrong with accepting shyness as part of your personality, and I am sure a fair amount of men and women would prefer a shyer person to a louder/outgoing one. It is just a matter of preference.

[bulletproof]

Since girls hate shy guys so much, I'm considering seeing a psychiatrist/psychologist.

 

First of all, accept responsibility- women don't "hate" shy guys, it's just very difficult to get to know someone who is severely shy. I think it's a great idea to see someone about your issue, because it will not only help you with dating, but with all other areas of your life. You will feel strong because you are taking charge of the problem, and that will increase your overall confidence also.

[TakingtheBlame]

First of all, accept responsibility- women don't "hate" shy guys, it's just very difficult to get to know someone who is severely shy. I think it's a great idea to see someone about your issue, because it will not only help you with dating, but with all other areas of your life. You will feel strong because you are taking charge of the problem, and that will increase your overall confidence also.

 

Agree with this completely. I think therapy can be a great option, but I'd caution against thinking of it solely as a way to increase your dating potential. Use it to improve your life and yourself as a person. I think that finding a great boyfriend and girlfriend should be icing, and not the cake itself. You'll never successfully bring another person, with her own needs, wants, and thoughts, into your life without having a stable sense of who YOU are, what you want, etc.