Omg the ex called today! I am so shocked

[sobananas999]

Hello,

 

so...out of the blue and I mean totally out of the blue my ex called my cell. I picked up right away because I saw the number and thought it was my friend calling me back, but it turned out to be my ex! (I had deleted his number from my phone so the caller ID didn't recognize it)

 

He sounded sad, he wanted to know how I was doing. He said he was worried about me and wanted to make sure I was well. Asked about work, life etc. I asked him how he was doing also. He told me he was working quite a bit and didn't have much time for things. The conversation ended after about 8 minutes and he said "talk to you another time" or something to that affect. He didn't say he would call again, but he left the window open for more conversations.

 

I'm so shocked. I honestly never expected him to call. I'm not going to call him back because I do not feel the need to, but it was nice hearing from him. I'm not sure what to think about the call though. Perhaps he was just feeling down and got weak with NC?

[blackhawks1287]

Who was the dumper? I am assuming him? How long was the NC streak?

[Lavender25]

How long were you together and how long were you in NC? Who broke up with whom?

 

If you aren't crying or emotionally stressed than I guess you're healed enough but I would still stay in NC. Hopefully you don't over analyze the conversation too much and think about what every single thing meant.

[sobananas999]

we were together about two years and he was the dumper actually. I was the one that initiated NC (it has been about a month). I'm actually feeling rather good about the call. I mean, in the sense that I don't feel the need to call him back or repeat the conversation in my head. I'm just curious as to why he would contact me, but I don't think that is enough reason to call him back. I fig. if he would like to talk more he will call and set up a time to meet or talk again or something. But, if that doesn't happen I pretty confident I'll be ok

[pisceslover]

That's good that you feel strong and are not overanalyzing things. I'm still in that hell, after many months of LC and one broken streak of 30 days of NC, just now at 35 days of complete NC. I want to come out the other side feeling the same as you do now if he calls me - it doesn't really matter and it won't consume me.

 

Just curious, do you want to reconcile at some point or are you done with him?

[DreamSeller]

If he calls again, don't even bother picking up. What are you trying to get out of this? If my ex were to call me, I wouldn't pick up. I don't have time for small talks and I have nothing left to say. I don't even know how long it's been since we last talked, but it really doesn't matter anymore. He is no longer the most important person in my life nor I am his. I just hope that you won't get hurt by talking to him again.

[happyguy23]

God if only u would've picked up the phone and just said "hello", "who is this." and they say there name and u say "I think you got the wrong number." and hang up now that would be funny.