Miserable- Can't stop crying........

[BabyO]

10 days- I have not seen the man that I love for 10 days. It is really over.......How do I stop the pain?

 

How do I let go of the future we were going to share? The kinds words he spoke to me, and all the wonderful things that he did for me when we were together. I don't know how to let go of something that I don't want to see leave. I cry everyday and keep telling myself to move on etc.....but it does not help. I just don't understand especially since we hardly had any issues in the relationship just leave me one day......... I asked him why and all he could say was I can't get a grip in my own mind why, and it was not supposed to end like this. That feelings are something to hard to describe....WOW!! I can't even heal and move on with that limited explanation.

[huntereyes]

how long were you together for?

[BabyO]

One year.....and we had a very honest and loving relationship. Only problem was the distance between us. We lived an hr apart, and he said that it was too much to handle anymore. That he loves me very much, always will. How sorry he is etc..... He was everything too me that I have been waiting for. I finally set my standards really high and I found him and now he is gone. He said the same about me, and how he waited half his life to find me. Hhe even stoped his move to SC for me when we first met cause he said I was the one. We were in the process of buying a house etc..... But, things happened with my job, so I had to find a new job not near the house we were going to buy. And now we are over.....

[MasterPo]

It hurts. Fact of life. Read about coping skills that other ENA have developed. I walked many miles and exercised until the pain was bearable - maybe that will help.

 

I normally don't give threads of hope but since your break was relatively fresh, he might be feeling the same way or it will hit him in a month or so. You gotta be strong and get yourself together. Concentrate on you and remember, most of us have been there and survived so will you. I wish you happiness and good luck.

[tresqua]

The distance wasn't a problem in the beginning, then suddenly it was? There's something else going on. Maybe someone else going on.

 

It hurts but when you look at the cold hard facts, generally speaking, the longer you're with someone the tougher and longer the healing process is. As relationships go, a year is on the shorter end of the scale. I know that won't help much but you'll soon realize the road to recovery won't be as long and difficult as you expect it to be.

 

As long as you maintain no contact.

[BabyO]

I thought of that also, maybe someone else. I asked him straight out face to face and he said no. Plus, I was cheated on in the past, so my gut instinct is pretty sharp in that area. I never once felt any deceit from him in that way. Plus, we were together every weekend, holidays etc... So, what other one would put up with not being with her man all that time? After we broke up he maintained contact for about 6 days sendind me sad love songs, and break up songs. He was like I am so sorry and all you did was love me etc...... I told him to stop and he did. But, two days later I wrote him a long email asking why are you walking away.. He wrote back saying this and more........

 

" What could I possibly say to put your heart and mind at ease when I can't even get it straight in my own head. There is a constant sick feeling deep in the pit of my stomach that won't subside. It obviously wasn't supposed to end this way, and don't forget that was me with you going to look at all those houses." " I know this explanation is unacceptable. It answers no questions and doesn't clarify things for you. Feelings are often hard to describe, and the reasons why we feel them are even harder. I know there will be no room in your heart for me after this but you will always have room in mine."

[tresqua]

I thought of that also, maybe someone else. I asked him straight out face to face and he said no. Plus, I was cheated on in the past, so my gut instinct is pretty sharp in that area

 

Cheaters always deny it. The fact that you even felt it would be productive to ask him makes it clear that your gut instincts don't get any better with repetitive cheating...

[betrayed911]

So what big deal,if you two arent toghether anymor eit wasnt that much of a big love get over it make the 10 days-20,the 20-30 and you will think much more about yourself than your ex,and if you dont contact him he will contact you,but dont aswer unless he is begging you to!