confused, and it's pissing me off.

[im_the_undead]

This is a rant/vent/OMG SOMEONE PLEASE TELL ME WHAT'S GOING ON...

 

so i've been hanging out with a friend of mine for a couple of months now, we've known each other forever, since the sandbox days.... one thing leads to another, we kiss....

then again and again, and then i tell him no more, because we're going to ruin the friendship. then,he's like looking for me each and everyday, texting, calling, wanting to hang out. We're good company to each other, he made me really happy for a good time, I hadn't smiled or laughed in so long............. he was giving me butterflies and I couldn't stop thinking about him. Little bit later he confesses the obvious, the kid likes me... cool, okay, so I assure him I do too.

We hang out, I get drunk, my shirt comes off...

Next weekend, we go to a party, I get drunk, pants come off... but we don't have sex.

I tell him I don't want to rush into things and he most certainly doesn't want to rush into a relationship, he claims neither of us is ready. (He's right, I just got out of a two year relationship and his ex gf died a couple months ago... We were talking before she died, however.) Anyway, so, literally from one day to another I get all depressed because for one, my mom doesn't like him, she thinks he'd screw me over, and two.... i'm getting upset that he doesn't want things to get tooooooo toooooo serious (which all and all was fine with me) BUT he'd be quick to get all freaky.

Anyway, so my emo-ness rubs off on him after I start second guessing our situation and he ignores me the entireeeee day the next day. I got pissed off, I was seriously having a break down in my head..... We talked it out the next day, he said he got the feeling that's what I wanted, bla bla bla... w/e

Appology accepted.

 

So he assures me I'm the only girl he's talking to, which I believe for now, and that I'm this and that, bla bla bla... we go drinking, and we have sex later that night.

CRAP......

 

Can't really take that back, now can I ? And it's too bad because at first, he was the one who was sprung on me...... and now, I'm SPRUNGGGGG...

I don't mind that we had sex, I really like him and would love to be with him, but now I'm afraid that he's just going to be wanting to have sex with me, and that's it.

 

He assures me that's not the case, but what the hell? he's a guy!

 

So he knew I was going out of town saturday, and he still decided to carry on with this party he's been wanting to throw in celebration of his new job.

I'm furious. He didn't consider me...

I can't get that through to him.... he thinks i'm just worried that he'll cheat and keeps saying "don't worry, I'm a good boy."

 

-.- WHAT THE CRAP?

 

What do you all think?

[DN]

I think you should relax, see what happens and let the party thing go.

[r0ckox]

I don't want to sound harsh, but you're not official with him - he's allowed to have his party while you're away. you can't just expect him to say "oh she won't be here, i'll cancel my party until next week."

 

remember, you were turning him down at first, and now you're the one who's sprung... think of it on an equal level.

[wowjhulina]

I don't want to sound harsh, but you're not official with him - he's allowed to have his party while you're away. you can't just expect him to say "oh she won't be here, i'll cancel my party until next week."

 

remember, you were turning him down at first, and now you're the one who's sprung... think of it on an equal level.

 

This. He's having a party to celebrate his new job...not celebrating finally having sex with you. Just chillax.

[oldenoughtoknow]

It sounds like you're allowing alcohol to make too many important decisions in your life. Don't you think? You get along well as friends - that's great. But, you're both fresh out of relationships. I'm sure you've heard of a rebound. He's said more than once he doesn't want anything serious - his party is indicative of that.

 

This relationship will become whatever it will become. But, if you continue to allow alcohol to determine your fate, this relationship will quickly become a train wreck.

[im_the_undead]

I think you should relax, see what happens and let the party thing go.

 

 

good advice. lol i'm just stressing it because i don't want to miss a thing. (in a good way!) but i'll let it go.

& i've only had drinks on three occasions, social outings lol no more social outings such as this for me however. It's just a bit of liquid courage, though. none of that black out sh** faced type of thing.