guest281 Posted June 10, 2011 Share Posted June 10, 2011 so now, she has found out im going on a date tomorrow night, and asked me. i just said i was meeting a friend. she doesnt seem too happy, and asked me why i didnt speak to her last weekend when i seen her. i havent replied.. please help me. i dunno whether she is jealous or seeing if i still care about her? she broke up with me and replaced me instantly. will i just ignore her from now on in, i told her no contact, but bit by bit she always tries Link to comment
Nearbot Posted June 10, 2011 Share Posted June 10, 2011 Probably both, but it doesn't mean she wants to get back together. Continue with no contact and have fun on your date! Link to comment
ZeldaB Posted June 10, 2011 Share Posted June 10, 2011 First of all, I hope you have an awesome first date. Secondly, why would you tell your ex about a date you going on? She had absolutely no right to get mad. Just ignore her and move on. She broke up with you. Link to comment
LennonAid Posted June 10, 2011 Share Posted June 10, 2011 Why is your ex even a factor in this? Look to the future, your date, not a girl that apparently broke up with you and replaced you instantly. Link to comment
guest281 Posted June 10, 2011 Author Share Posted June 10, 2011 i understand guys but i still love my ex and if she came back now i would take her in a heart beat. (stupid i know) but maybe for me to realise its not going to work? i dunno. my heart is ruling my head still. i didnt tell my ex i had a date, she found out.. dont know how mind you. yes she broke up with me and lost that right when she did. maybe she should be more concerned about her new relationship. she said when we broke up that if i find someone else it will kill her. :S confused! Link to comment
Confused28645 Posted June 10, 2011 Share Posted June 10, 2011 Mind games most probably. Been there bought the t shirt with my ex. He would get in touch after I would go NC in order for me to heal. I thought he wanted me back but he didnt really. Just a game to him. He just wanted to stop me moving on. I haven't moved on but im sure as hell not going to give him the satisfaction of knowing that. But as time goes on my head is slowly starting to tell my heart how stupid it is to want to take someone back that treated me with no respect whatsoever. You will get there too, and NC is the best way for that to happen. Link to comment
guest281 Posted June 10, 2011 Author Share Posted June 10, 2011 moving on is the hardest. i told my ex i want no contact, she is a really jealous person and no doubt is raging about me going on a date tomorrow night. but hey, life goes on. i dont know why she had to text me to ask me if i had a date as it is none of her business and was out of the blue. i will never give her the satisfaction of knowing that i havent moved on, and dont know when i will. exactly like you confused. it probably is mind games, but im convinced she still loves me, even though if i am second best right now.. Link to comment
Confused28645 Posted June 10, 2011 Share Posted June 10, 2011 If she still loved you she would be with you, not this new guy. And im not meaning that in a harsh way. x Link to comment
guest281 Posted June 10, 2011 Author Share Posted June 10, 2011 i know. i have told myself that too. its not harsh its the truth. but sometimes we need time apart to see who matters (holding on for hope again) grrr i need to get my head round this Link to comment
Confused28645 Posted June 10, 2011 Share Posted June 10, 2011 Its hard. I know it is. But her texting you about this date is probably just a mind game. Dont give her the satisfaction. Why shouldnt you move on, she clearly has x Link to comment
guest281 Posted June 10, 2011 Author Share Posted June 10, 2011 yeah she probably just wants to know where i am at the minute, if i still want her etc, as from last weekend when i seen her out, i ignored her, talked to other girls, had fun with friends and never got upset once, and that she came and looked to she what i was at, at least 4 times (my mate was sober and noticed) and her other mate was working and kept watching me. then later on, she kept looking at me with a sadish face knowing fine rightly what she threw away, and i just looked back. not dirty looks or anything. but i guess me not speaking to her upset her. i have lost weight, looked really well where she has put weight etc on.. but yes i should move on, but i cant. not yet anyway. this other girl knows its only a friends thing tomorrow night, she knows the score. but my ex doesnt need to know this! Link to comment
Mephisto13 Posted June 10, 2011 Share Posted June 10, 2011 She wants to keep you on the hook. She likes that you still want her after all she did. She is blowing o nthe embers of your love for her. She's toxic. Just smile a * * * * * -eating grin when she's around and enjoy yourself. And don't bother about what she knows and what she doesn't know or how upset she can be. Simply forget her, put her in your rearview. The fact that you do want her back and would take her back in a split second concerns me. You already know it's not going to work, she dumped you. Lesson learned, move on...it'll be the best thing for you (and if it helps, it will probably really stick in her craw that she doesn't have that much of an effect on you anymore...BONUS!). Link to comment
guest281 Posted June 10, 2011 Author Share Posted June 10, 2011 mephisto - it really concerns me too, as i could never trust her again, i mean iwould always be thinking when is she going to leave me for someone else again. it will annoy her that she is seeing that she has NO effect on me, as i am strong enough not to show her. but i will always love her i just think she has made one crazy mistake. but i know i need to focus on myself, it seems if she is worrying about what i am doing then her own relationship must not be that great! Link to comment
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