ex boyfriend getting livid at me for dating someone else and moving on

[britt339]

It is kind of a long story so i will just try to stick with specifics, my ex boyfriend and i dated for two years and he suddenly dumped me a year ago for absolutely no reason what so ever then to come to find out i heard some rumors about him and another girl and then it all started to make sense. all in all we got into an argument about it and we only talked every few days for an entire year he never would see me until i started seeing someone else and since we were talking every now and then i decided he should now because a year is long enough to wait for someone when all he could tell me was he didn't know what he wanted when we broke up. so i had told him i was seeing someone else and he freaked out saying i shouldnt be with him and that i should be with him he flipped and started cussing me out and saying how much better the new girl and has been trying to get me back, please keep in mind that i am in love with my new boyfriend and am the happiest i have ever been but why is he weighing on my mind he wasn't that great of a boyfriend only taken me out twice to eat out of our whole two year relationship treated me awful, came out and admitted that he left me for her and slept with her made me feel horrible about my self, he was my first boyfriend and my first love and part of me is somewhat jealous of this girl because i know hes going to treat her better than he ever treated me he didn't pay any attention to me for a year never told me he loved me until now i am with someone else. why is am i feeling like this? why so horrible when someone called me such awful names when i should be happy hes gone? maybe i just wanted him to pay this much attention to me when we were in relationship? PLEASE HELP ANY FEEDBACK IS MUCH APPRECIATED! thank you for taking the time to read and to help!

[blackhawks1287]

He is doing it for the control. If you know deep down you love and are happy with this new guy. Drop all communication with the ex, who obviously has some control over your emotions.

 

You need to go strict no contact if you really love this new guy so that you do not jeopardize anything. My two cents, bluntly. It will be hard, but you deserve to know what is best for yourself, and it is not your ex.

[Fluttershy]

Get your ex out of your life immediately. He sounds manipulative and controlling, and clearly wants you for his own ego. If he really cared about you, he wouldn't be using his current relationship to upset you, nor would he even be with her instead of you. He's also being terrible hypocritical. He can date someone but you can't? No.

 

You're new relationship is going well, you're happy. I think you'd be happier if you stopped talking to your ex, or at least until he stops whining about getting something he can't have.

[happyguy23]

Alright, here is something u need to learn when u start dating someone then u drop the ex's. There is only one case and that is when u have no emotions or dont like the guy. I wonder how ur bf would feel if he found out about this. Obviously u dont love him or ur ex wouldnt be on ur mind. So either A u go back to ur ex and realize u like the other guy. B. you can stay and maybe lose both then u will have none. or C you can drop both because u dont want to hurt the new guy as bad seeing as u arent over ur ex and leave ur ex alone and work on urself. For you to love someone u need to love urself.