gingerlemon Posted June 9, 2011 Share Posted June 9, 2011 For those of you who are divorced/ divorcing: What was your 'breaking point' in making your decision? Link to comment
Jetta Posted June 9, 2011 Share Posted June 9, 2011 When he came downstairs and said he wanted to throw my son out the 2nd story window and watch his back crack on the Air Conditioner. Link to comment
AJ-65 Posted June 9, 2011 Share Posted June 9, 2011 What can we add to those two..... Mine seems comparatively "nice". My husband felt nothing for his own child. Said he didn't know what he was supposed to feel! Link to comment
Mephisto13 Posted June 9, 2011 Share Posted June 9, 2011 After trying for months to save a relationship that she obviously (hindsight is 20/20) wanted to end (but didn't have the courage to tell me sraight out OR pull the trigger - in order to spare my feelings) and then I found out in our last weeks together that she slept with my best friend on numerous occasions and got knocked up. Dumped em both. Link to comment
lavenderdove Posted June 9, 2011 Share Posted June 9, 2011 I asked him to stay home and help me bring our dog home from the vet after the dog had abdominal cancer surgery, since the dog was too heavy for me to carry and it was a large incision where the stitches could split. He then starting screaming at me because he didn't want to miss a football game with his brother in order to help me or the dog. He left us on our own, and i figured if i was going to be on my own and couldn't count on him for help when that sweet dog was in pain and ill, i may as well be on my own rather than have such a cruel and self centered person in my life. If he treated a dog that way, how would he respond if i got ill or ever really needed him to help me? Link to comment
gingerlemon Posted June 9, 2011 Author Share Posted June 9, 2011 Thanks for sharing everybody, and I'm sorry for what you've each had to go through. I got a new perspective on my own issues now. More thread contributions welcomed. Link to comment
superfox Posted June 9, 2011 Share Posted June 9, 2011 When he came downstairs and said he wanted to throw my son out the 2nd story window and watch his back crack on the Air Conditioner. OMFG x Mine was the bottles of whisky he'd drink then hang around my (locked) bedroom door threatening to anal rape me. Link to comment
AutumnBorn Posted June 11, 2011 Share Posted June 11, 2011 It should have been the day he asked me to give his friend Ron a B.J. In the end, it was a much simpler insult.'re Jetta, SuperFox...I'm so sorry. What the hell happened to these men to make them so inhumane? Link to comment
gingerlemon Posted June 11, 2011 Author Share Posted June 11, 2011 OMG. Such heart breaking stories I'm glad you've all moved on. Link to comment
Jetta Posted June 13, 2011 Share Posted June 13, 2011 Yes, most people don't divorce for no good reason. Sad to know what those reasons often are though. Link to comment
redswim30 Posted June 15, 2011 Share Posted June 15, 2011 I decided I wanted a divorce when I was sobbing to my husband over the phone, begging him not to stay overnight with a woman he had a thing for. I told him I'd forgive him all past wrongs (including prior infidelity), if he would just come home- we could work things out. I said "If you ever cared about me or our marriage , you'll come home tonight ". He didn't. I filed the next day. Link to comment
GrowingIn Posted June 23, 2011 Share Posted June 23, 2011 My ex wife gave me a 48 hour ultimatum to move out with her in a week or she was leaving(this was the third time she threatened me with this and I had already warned her it would be the last), one month after we bought a home with her, my mother and I, after a fight broke out because of animosity between my mother and her family who was visiting. Instead of sticking by me, she put me in a situation to where I had to choose between, not just her, but her and her family and my mother, in the mean time completely destroying our finances, plans and giving up on a house we just bought. I told her I only needed a second to make up my mind. She told me I wasn't man enough to make a decision. I disagreed and felt she just didn't like hearing the decision I made. I was not going to live with someone who only knew how to get what she wanted by threatening and giving ultimatums....especially when what she wanted was going to drive us into a financial nightmare but that was secondary to the first part. Link to comment
overcorrect Posted July 4, 2011 Share Posted July 4, 2011 I found out my wife was in a relationship with her married and much older boss. So cliche. Oh well, what could I do? I calmly confronted them that night and told them that I accepted the fate of our marriage of 16 years and I moved on. Life is too short to pursue someone that isn't into me. She hadn't been for a loooooong time. Link to comment
trezz Posted July 6, 2011 Share Posted July 6, 2011 when he refused to drive 4 miles to get the sick babys medicine from the doctors telling me i could effing well walk it and take the baby with me as he didnt want to hear it crying. *-* wouldn't it be lovely if people would stop with the," people divorce too easily nowadays" not in all cases. some people try too hard to stay married/together. Link to comment
redswim30 Posted July 7, 2011 Share Posted July 7, 2011 *-* wouldn't it be lovely if people would stop with the," people divorce too easily nowadays" not in all cases. some people try too hard to stay married/together. ^^^^^ AMEN !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I tried WAY too hard for years and years and years ! The problem is ONE person can't fix a relationship, it takes two. If the other person is unwilling to try, then no amount of effort you put in alone will help. I learned that the hard way ! Link to comment
sandy cheeks Posted July 12, 2011 Share Posted July 12, 2011 When he took my son away and wouldn't tell me where he was. Link to comment
gingerlemon Posted July 13, 2011 Author Share Posted July 13, 2011 Goodness. It's pretty incredible what we put each other through as human beings. I'm realising my own relationship issues are comparatively minor. Link to comment
reidqa Posted July 13, 2011 Share Posted July 13, 2011 Wife affair. 2 Yrs attempt to reconcile. My violence growing in nature. Counselor stating its over. Link to comment
Loki71 Posted July 15, 2011 Share Posted July 15, 2011 Same ole' story, lies, cheating, neither happy, got married to fast, she thought she could change me. The final straw was the constant lies. Once the trust was gone, everything else was too. Link to comment
gingerlemon Posted July 18, 2011 Author Share Posted July 18, 2011 Yes, definitely - no trust, no relationship. Link to comment
frogbiscuit Posted August 8, 2011 Share Posted August 8, 2011 I left my first wife because she lied about money. I left my 2nd wife because she lied about money. Link to comment
Edmund Exley Posted August 8, 2011 Share Posted August 8, 2011 Mine was when she started hanging out with a guy friend like it was nothing, constantly being caught in lies about where she was and who she was with, etc. Link to comment
John Bendix Posted August 8, 2011 Share Posted August 8, 2011 When she told me, "I'm unhappy. I want a divorce"...... Link to comment
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