Mario3000 Posted June 9, 2011 Share Posted June 9, 2011 I honestly couldn't do it because thats just sick and stupid and i would never want to see them again... Link to comment
mouseno4 Posted June 9, 2011 Share Posted June 9, 2011 Most of the people on this forum would agree with you. Link to comment
d24 Posted June 9, 2011 Share Posted June 9, 2011 goes back to the whole Ross vs Rachel 'we were on a break' thing doesn't it.... Link to comment
OrangeSlice Posted June 9, 2011 Share Posted June 9, 2011 I wouldn't take an ex back for any reason what so ever, even if I was the one who was dumped. But lets say I was willing to take someone back, and found out that they had sex with someone else after the breakup. Personally this doesn't bother me at all. In fact I would be curious is they learned anything new. However, in reality, I just wont take an ex back for any reason. Link to comment
LN1987 Posted June 9, 2011 Share Posted June 9, 2011 Yeh as a dumpee I have had sex since BU and would be pretty pissed off if my ex came back and then said "oh No b.c you had sex with somemone I dont want you' He dumped me, therefore I should be able to sleep with someone else if I feel the need. Link to comment
OrangeSlice Posted June 9, 2011 Share Posted June 9, 2011 Yeh as a dumpee I have had sex since BU and would be pretty pissed off if my ex came back and then said "oh No b.c you had sex with somemone I dont want you' He dumped me, therefore I should be able to sleep with someone else if I feel the need. makes sense to me. relationship was over so thus the "rules" of relationships are no longer relevant. Technically speaking. Link to comment
Mario3000 Posted June 9, 2011 Author Share Posted June 9, 2011 Yeh as a dumpee I have had sex since BU and would be pretty pissed off if my ex came back and then said "oh No b.c you had sex with somemone I dont want you' He dumped me, therefore I should be able to sleep with someone else if I feel the need. sorry i should have mentioned taking the Dumper back after they had sex with someone else Link to comment
mouseno4 Posted June 9, 2011 Share Posted June 9, 2011 ..but just because everyone else would agree with you, does not mean i would. Outside of the boundaries of a relationship, go have as much sex as you want/can get. Whilst in one, boundaries are not to be crossed. Link to comment
caseh Posted June 9, 2011 Share Posted June 9, 2011 Lol, how about if the dumper has sex with someone else the day after they dumped you? For me thats a big '!' regardless of boundaries when in a relationship, the day after breaking up is just ridiculous. Link to comment
LN1987 Posted June 9, 2011 Share Posted June 9, 2011 ^^^ that is horrible. sorry to hear (if it was you it happened to) what a pig! Link to comment
mouseno4 Posted June 9, 2011 Share Posted June 9, 2011 What about 2 mins after texting you they are dumping you, right before going at it? Gimme a break... Link to comment
MasterPo Posted June 9, 2011 Share Posted June 9, 2011 Yeah. It sucks. Try wondering how many times they had sex with someone while they still sweet talked you. Gets you wondering if that cold sore is just a cold sore. Ugh. Link to comment
He2Him Posted June 9, 2011 Share Posted June 9, 2011 Ex is ex for reason. Not going back to before. Because that would annul reasoning behind breaking up in the first place. Link to comment
caseh Posted June 9, 2011 Share Posted June 9, 2011 Yeah. It sucks. Try wondering how many times they had sex with someone while they still sweet talked you. Gets you wondering if that cold sore is just a cold sore. Ugh. Oh god thats just wrong lmao! Although I did contemplate asking is it worth me getting myself checked out. I mean to say, herpes aint gonna help the healing process even if you go no contact! ](*,) Link to comment
Eocsor Posted June 9, 2011 Share Posted June 9, 2011 Once you are broken up you're a free agent. You can't honestly expect them to be celibate. If after time you both wanted to give the relationship another go, you can't hold the fact that they were in another relationship against them, I mean what is this, High School? Part of any adult relationship involves intimacy, so it's unreasonable to expect them to join a monastary. Most successful reconcilliations take place after long periods apart and after people have had other relationships and decided what they really want in life. Link to comment
blackhawks1287 Posted June 9, 2011 Share Posted June 9, 2011 I think the OP is too vague...we need a time period here...whether it be during the rel, a day after or two years after. If it were during or days later no. Link to comment
Robin2904 Posted June 10, 2011 Share Posted June 10, 2011 It would have to depend on A LOT of other things for me. How long were we apart? How long did they wait to have sex? Was it a hook up? Did they break up with me for the purpose to pursue others/have sex with other people? Are they remorseful and REALLY willing to try again with me? I know it's difficult to imagine your ex with anyone after a break up. Been there- had to see it first hand. But the truth is after a break up they aren't going to stay solo forever. Whether this means rebounding, or just sexing other people- chances are it will happen. Few people stay celibate after a break up- perhaps at first but eventually they are gonna have sex. And I know it sucks, and hurts and you don't want to hear that- you want to hear they were sitting around missing you and thinking of only you while you were apart, but that probably isn't the case. So it's tough to answer this without knowing other specifics. Link to comment
italiannmf24 Posted June 10, 2011 Share Posted June 10, 2011 Honestly, I couldn't take an ex back if she had sex with another guy. It'd just be in my mind the entire relationship, it's not worth it to take a second glance. Moving on is the better option Link to comment
Mario3000 Posted June 10, 2011 Author Share Posted June 10, 2011 Honestly, I couldn't take an ex back if she had sex with another guy. It'd just be in my mind the entire relationship, it's not worth it to take a second glance. Moving on is the better option i agree with you Link to comment
tnmom66 Posted June 11, 2011 Share Posted June 11, 2011 I probably wouldn't want him back. Link to comment
waterlilly Posted June 12, 2011 Share Posted June 12, 2011 It depends.... for this current ex, NO way. If we gave it a rego several years down the road, that might be different. The nature of our relationship was such that the idea of him being with someone else makes me sick. My previous ex I still have a lot of love for but neither of us want to get back together. But if we did for some crazy reason, I wouldn't care at all. In fact, after we broke up we both started having sex with other people at the same time. That helped out alot. I have only slept with that one person since our breakup, but he has had numerous lovers and girlfriends. It wouldn't bother me. He needed that in his life to help heal. I am happy for him he got it. Link to comment
Andre12 Posted June 12, 2011 Share Posted June 12, 2011 I think most peoples views on this change as you get older. The thought of a partner sleeping with someone else when your in your late teens / early 20's is difficult to take, whereas by your late 20's and over you become a bit more realistic about an individuals needs to be desired, fulfilled etc. The sex your partner / ex might have had is probably just that sex. If they came back into your life then with you its more than that. Once you get over the fact that whoever you are with can desire other people then everything is much easier. Link to comment
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