Trying to find peace

[deneen78]

PMy ex fiance ended our relationship after four years of being together. He said I did nothing wrong & that he wanted space. I found out that he cheated on me & confronted him about it of course he lied first then admitted he did. Its only been three months since our breakup & now he is now engaged to her and they are getting married next month july 2, 2011. Am so hurt by it all. Every day since has not been easy. I feel I don't want to be in the dating scene no time soon. Please share your advice. Thanks

[Eocsor]

My fiance left after a 14 year relationship. And for a time my world was a very dark place. But it does get better. It's a slow process and I'm a year and a half into it now. Most days are good, some are great, but there are still some dark times.

 

Take some time for yourself. Don't expect to heal too quickly, it usually takes a couple of years before you totally have your peace back. My own personal opinion is dating too soon after a major breakup is a disaster and just postpones the pain till a later time. Take a good year off. In the big scheme of things thats no time at all.

 

Stay active, hang with your friends and just give yourself permission to feel crappy at at times. It's a slow process, but little by little you get better. Then one day you are totally over it. It's a journey, but one thats worth it and will teach you a lot about yourself. You'll be a stronger person in the end if you deal with everything you need to before jumping into another relationship.

[charity]

its probably a good idea to not be in the dating scene soon. he did what he did and its not decent by any means but don't let his actions break you. there are good men out there,(i think they're all on ENA) .my ex got with a women very soon also .i remember dreading that he would tell me they were getting married as he is a very fast mover. i'm sorry he did this, its really tough.

post on here frequently and read peoples stories, it will help!

[RecentlyAlone]

Jeez, I'm sorry. That has to be so hard to go through. Stay out of the dating scene for a while. Just work on healing yourself and I'm sure you'll know when you're ready. I'm just out of a 5-year relationship and have no desire to date. Try to concentrate on yourself and just do what makes you happy!