How have your most successful relationships started out?

[-Sanguine-]

I am just simply curious about this.

 

Did you start out as friends and become lovers?

Did you go on lots of dates and take things slow before becoming serious?

Did you just quickly into things emotionally and physically?

 

How did your most successful relationships begin?

[mhowe]

We were friends for 6-7 years. He asked for a ride home one night (we were not out "together" --- separate groups of friends). He gave me a kiss that was not from a friend, told me he'd been meaning to do that for years....we started "dating" that night.....that was 2 years ago.

[mouseno4]

We were friends for 6-7 years. He asked for a ride home one night (we were not out "together" --- separate groups of friends). He gave me a kiss that was not from a friend, told me he'd been meaning to do that for years....we started "dating" that night.....that was 2 years ago.

 

Wow that was so sweet. Kudos to you mhowe.

[-Sanguine-]

We were friends for 6-7 years. He asked for a ride home one night (we were not out "together" --- separate groups of friends). He gave me a kiss that was not from a friend, told me he'd been meaning to do that for years....we started "dating" that night.....that was 2 years ago.

 

Awe, that is adorable!

[mhowe]

just to completely blow your minds, we are 50!!!

[charity]

We were friends for 6-7 years. He asked for a ride home one night (we were not out "together" --- separate groups of friends). He gave me a kiss that was not from a friend, told me he'd been meaning to do that for years....we started "dating" that night.....that was 2 years ago.[/quote

 

had you been attracted to him before that? or did the attraction grow from there?

[mhowe]

I had been attracted to him from the moment I met him, 7 yrs before, but before I could act on it, I found out he was dating someone. That relationship lasted 4 yrs. In the meantime, he had approached me about renting my garage to him....he is a contractor. I saw him out and about very few times, more than not at the shop, but sometimes not for months. However, this went on for years...and we became friends. Talked about our own lives, families, just hung out.... The spring that led up to us getting together, he was at the shop quite often, and he did work on my mother's house.

 

In April that year, he lost a good friend, and later told me "When I asked myself where I could go to make myself feel better, I immediately thought of you". At that point, gf had been gone 2 years. He actually told me that he fell in love w/ me before he asked me out....when I mentioned that wasn't generally the prescribed method of dating, he said, with a smile on his face, "what's your point". None really!!!!

[a_lifters_life]

We met at college and used to go to the gym together just as friends and then progressed farther into drinking with her friends and I, then to going a lot of places together. After 6-8 months of doing stuff like that, we started going out on dates in a downtown town about 5 mins from school. Still together after 3 years

[DrKitten]

Things progressed pretty quickly with us. We were both on an online dating site. He messaged me, I replied and sent my number. He called that night and we set up a date for the weekend. Awesome time, lots of conversation and chemistry. Slept together on the 3rd date. Continued seeing each other a few times a week for about another month and a half, when we made it official.

 

The 26th of this month will be the first anniversary of us meeting. It's not yet my longest relationship but my happiest and most fulfilling so far.

[Batya33]

My least successful relationship was where we were friends first (not intentionally -I was dating someone and had no interest in him romantically and had no clue he was interested until he asked me out). In the others right after we met (at a party, through friends, through a written personal ad, at work) we started dating soon after). My husband waited months to ask me out but that was because we worked together - we barely knew each other by the time he asked me out so I wouldn't describe it as friends first (we didn't work in the same department).

[-Sanguine-]

Things progressed pretty quickly with us. We were both on an online dating site. He messaged me, I replied and sent my number. He called that night and we set up a date for the weekend. Awesome time, lots of conversation and chemistry. Slept together on the 3rd date. Continued seeing each other a few times a week for about another month and a half, when we made it official.

 

The 26th of this month will be the first anniversary of us meeting. It's not yet my longest relationship but my happiest and most fulfilling so far.

 

That's nice, good for you

 

Kind of reminds me of my current relationship. Met the guy about 3 weeks ago and we just had this instant chemistry and easily flowing conversation. Not to mention so much physical chemistry. It feels like missed that awkward stage, in the beginning of dating, and skipped right to just being comfortable with each other. It's so nice. We see each other a few times a week and I really think this might be something good.

[TakingtheBlame]

I met all three of my "serious" boyfriends through mutual friends, but was not really friends with any of them prior to dating them. I was high school classmates with my first boyfriend, when I was 17, and we had mutual friends, but I wouldn't say we were really good friends before we dated...more like acquaintances. I had a crush on him, he invited me to the prom, and only after that did we really begin talking and we were dating soon after. I met my second boyfriend through friends when a group of us went out to see a movie together...had never met him before, but thought he was cute and mentioned that to one of our mutual friends...a few days later, he IMed me and we went on a few dates. Became official soon after as well. I was set up on a blind date with my third (and current) boyfriend by a mutual friend and we became "official" after about two months of dating. I guess I'd have to say these were my most "successful" relationships since there was some level of commitment there and they all lasted a relatively significant amount of time. So yeah. Interestingly, I did not get intimate with these guys early on either. It took me several months to get intimate with all three.

 

Guys with whom things moved quickly, and with whom I jumped into bed quickly, always fizzled out within a few months or were longer term but casual/dysfunctional. And guys who I had been good friends with for years just never turned into successful relationships for some reason...either I (or they) wasn't attracted at all and never became attracted, or we ended up hooking up casually and things went downhill from there.